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Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 4:43pm On Feb 26, 2020
Happyfela:
A 29 year old Veteran you mean. Use your Figure six bruh
Don't take my question out of context, Are you in your forties or late thirties. Asking for a friend
Lolzzz... I'm still uncertain. Lemme deal with one first, you don't want ur friend caught up in something really complex I'm sure
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Skmoda360(m): 4:54pm On Feb 26, 2020
cRobo:
Can't really trust any girl these days

Heartbreak is all you will get if you decide to find more about her

NO GIRL

I MEAN NO GIRL rich now is TRUSTWORTHY


You marry nowadays just to have children

And don't forget to do DNA test for your children


Speaking from lots of experience

you and DNA grin grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:46pm On Feb 26, 2020
shouldnt you have sorted that out before turning this deceitful woman into your "fiancê" ?!

the foundation is already poisonned and there is no way you can change anything here....accept the type of woman you have or get rid of her.

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Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by tunize(m): 7:52pm On Feb 26, 2020
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EVERYTIME SIT HIM DOWN, SIT HER DOWN.

NL PEOPLE SEF. HOW DO YOU ALWAYS COMFORTABLY ASSUME THAT COMPLAINANTS HAVEN'T HAD FRUITLESS DISCUSSIONS ON THEIR ISSUES BEFORE COMING ONLINE?

IF SITTING PEOPLE DOWN OR STANDING THEM UP WORKS, WE WON'T HAVE TO SEE THESE DAILY WAILINGS.
Ah tire bros ** some girls are naturally stubborn that u can't even have a descent convo with dem**

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Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 8:52pm On Feb 26, 2020
MrBrownJay1:
shouldnt you have sorted that out before turning this deceitful woman into your "fiancê" ?!

the foundation is already poisonned and there is no way you can change anything here....accept the type of woman you have or get rid of her.
Very true sir. I did my best and thought I'd give her a chance, after all no one is perfect. Then I think I succumbed to societal pressure to get done with the whole marriage thingy-MY BAD! sadly, people don't change easily
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 8:55pm On Feb 26, 2020
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EVERYTIME SIT HIM DOWN, SIT HER DOWN.

NL PEOPLE SEF. HOW DO YOU ALWAYS COMFORTABLY ASSUME THAT COMPLAINANTS HAVEN'T HAD FRUITLESS DISCUSSIONS ON THEIR ISSUES BEFORE COMING ONLINE?

IF SITTING PEOPLE DOWN OR STANDING THEM UP WORKS, WE WON'T HAVE TO SEE THESE DAILY WAILINGS.
It's honestly difficult to presume you've resolved issues with a person you've caught lying on some occasions. Talking over issues sometimes leaves you with more doubts. You can't even trust her words.
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Bola146(f): 9:13pm On Feb 26, 2020
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EVERYTIME SIT HIM DOWN, SIT HER DOWN.

NL PEOPLE SEF. HOW DO YOU ALWAYS COMFORTABLY ASSUME THAT COMPLAINANTS HAVEN'T HAD FRUITLESS DISCUSSIONS ON THEIR ISSUES BEFORE COMING ONLINE?

IF SITTING PEOPLE DOWN OR STANDING THEM UP WORKS, WE WON'T HAVE TO SEE THESE DAILY WAILINGS.

Some people doesn't understand the meaning of intimacy and good communication, yes! Not all people knows what he or she is doing is bad or good.

Give your own advise and let us see undecided
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Westernlove: 9:18pm On Feb 26, 2020
neuronalkaycee:
I'll keep it real short. Met my fiancé through a friend a few months ago. We love each other but I know love is hardly enough.
She has way more male friends than females. She has lots of the guys calling her their girlfriend, lover, or baby albeit jokingly. It appears she could fall readily if ANY guy tried wooing her, often smiling flirtatiously with nearly every new guy she meets.
She loves clubbing, even though her meeting me has made her stop.
I just have a feeling she has this nasty history that I do not know about and would hunt me after we tie the knot. I've asked her for full disclosure, so I could know what Im up against if anything... But again I've caught her lying on some occasions and I can't take her word for it. Attempts at running a background check on her yielded no results as it appears many guys these days do not want to be named amongst those who fuelled a "gossip".
She has a fairly decent family background, but we know that counts for nothing in terms of morality. She is a nice girl generally, hardworking, smart and respectful. My family isn't totally into her though.

How do I make sure she is full proof? I've thought of quitting severally but after 2 failed relationships in the past I want to be sure I'm not the problem.

This Marriage & Relationship of a thing Is gradually getting obsolete, most especially among the reasonable and wise Intellectuals. But for those gullible and less privileged people, they keep marrying and breeding like pigs.....!!!

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Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by zoeycherie: 9:52pm On Feb 26, 2020
neuronalkaycee:
It's honestly difficult to presume you've resolved issues with a person you've caught lying on some occasions. Talking over issues sometimes leaves you with more doubts. You can't even trust her words.

Hello poster. I just want to say I love the way you write. It's so.....nice. Do you speak the way you write? smiley
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Nobody: 9:59pm On Feb 26, 2020
how many daddies or uncles does she have on her phone list cheesy.i fear all those girls always saying y :Ds daddy or yes uncle on their phone grin.how many uncles and daddies u get grin.check their friends list on facebook and u will be seeing old old men with balding heads and potbellies on their friends list grin grin.when they upload one pix u will see one old man who is old enuf to be the grandfather of the girl complimenting the girl by saying baby u so sweeet and sexy grin.honestly i dey fear some girls grin.
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Nobody: 10:02pm On Feb 26, 2020
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EVERYTIME SIT HIM DOWN, SIT HER DOWN.

NL PEOPLE SEF. HOW DO YOU ALWAYS COMFORTABLY ASSUME THAT COMPLAINANTS HAVEN'T HAD FRUITLESS DISCUSSIONS ON THEIR ISSUES BEFORE COMING ONLINE?

IF SITTING PEOPLE DOWN OR STANDING THEM UP WORKS, WE WON'T HAVE TO SEE THESE DAILY WAILINGS.
who get time to do sitting down.if u feel the girl is cheating on u the sane thing to do is just break off from her.the time the guy will be doing sitting down with a girl that time can be used for other things important.

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Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by CaptainMitch: 10:07pm On Feb 26, 2020
Lefulefu my guy smashed one of my chic I was toasting, what should I do, she dey kiss me and form loving you then
lefulefu:
who get time to do sitting down.if u feel the girl is cheating on u the sane thing to do is just break off from her.the time the guy will be doing sitting down with a girl that time can be used for other things important.
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Nobody: 10:10pm On Feb 26, 2020
CaptainMitch:
Lefulefu my guy smashed one of my chic I was toasting, what should I do, she dey kiss me and form loving you then
smash the guy babe to pay him back in his own coin grin grin

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Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by CaptainMitch: 10:14pm On Feb 26, 2020
cheesy ok on it
lefulefu:
smash the guy babe to pay him back in his own coin grin grin
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Kentiamhere(m): 10:16pm On Feb 26, 2020
neuronalkaycee:
I'll keep it real short. Met my fiancé through a friend a few months ago. We love each other but I know love is hardly enough.
She has way more male friends than females. She has lots of the guys calling her their girlfriend, lover, or baby albeit jokingly. It appears she could fall readily if ANY guy tried wooing her, often smiling flirtatiously with nearly every new guy she meets.
She loves clubbing, even though her meeting me has made her stop.
I just have a feeling she has this nasty history that I do not know about and would hunt me after we tie the knot. I've asked her for full disclosure, so I could know what Im up against if anything... But again I've caught her lying on some occasions and I can't take her word for it. Attempts at running a background check on her yielded no results as it appears many guys these days do not want to be named amongst those who fuelled a "gossip".
She has a fairly decent family background, but we know that counts for nothing in terms of morality. She is a nice girl generally, hardworking, smart and respectful. My family isn't totally into her though.

How do I make sure she is full proof? I've thought of quitting severally but after 2 failed relationships in the past I want to be sure I'm not the problem.
well yes you have a problem, imagine discussing this on nairaland whereas you are yet to sit down with your woman and tell her the bitter truth. Yes you might have done this but have you ever put the picture of how you are feeling to your fiance? Have you ever sat that with her and make her understand you are human and all these things she is doing can actually affect your relationship with her? Well you are a different person from your wife and coming together is about you finding the good and bad side of her, take care of the bad side and move on not allow the bad side bring your relationship down. I would advice you don't get married or have any form of wedding ceremony till you are sure your wife is able to do away with her pasts, she might be in the healing process since she likes clubbing and she stopped because of you so now you just have to sit tight and make sure she leaves all those bad habits before engaging her fully if not you would get married before you get to know where are weak points are. No matter how long it takes just see a woman who has terrible past and now trying to adjust ( mind you she would definitely and will always have the old traits but pending your time with her she would heal okay ) it could take months, years but make sure it doesn't take too long before she adjusts.

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Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Nobody: 10:22pm On Feb 26, 2020
CaptainMitch:
cheesy ok on it
grin grin grin grin
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 10:22pm On Feb 26, 2020
Shibaraba:
You want to check on her? I know someone who would do all that for you. With picture proofs. But I won't advice it
let's chat then
Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by neuronalkaycee: 10:31pm On Feb 26, 2020
zoeycherie:


Hello poster. I just want to say I love the way you write. It's so.....nice. Do you speak the way you write? smiley
Pretty much....I appreciate the compliment, I don't get that often

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Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by Newyam: 11:26pm On Feb 26, 2020
According to the recent data published by National Bureau of Relationship, 90% of Nigerians do not trust their partner. It also revealed that 96.78% of Nigerian men do not trust their female partner.

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Re: I Can't Trust My Fiancé. Do I Have A Problem? by NobleDeSage001: 1:29am On Feb 27, 2020
A partner that lies is very dangerous and unreliable.
You no longer trust her. It's better to back off now than to have a broken marriage. It's not likely she will change.
There are two things you can do:
1. Confront her, engage her head on and tell her how you feel. This may put a strain on your relationship and possibly bring it to an end.
2. Keep quite and go into the marriage with an untrusted partner. If you do this, your mind will never be at rest.

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