proclinician:
How old is she?

MiVida:
Hahahaha!!! Experience is the best teacher.

neuronalkaycee:
I'll keep it real short. Met my fiancé through a friend a few months ago. We love each other but I know love is hardly enough.
She has way more male friends than females. She has lots of the guys calling her their girlfriend, lover, or baby albeit jokingly. It appears she could fall readily if ANY guy tried wooing her, often smiling flirtatiously with nearly every new guy she meets.
She loves clubbing, even though her meeting me has made her stop.
I just have a feeling she has this nasty history that I do not know about and would hunt me after we tie the knot. I've asked her for full disclosure, so I could know what Im up against if anything... But again I've caught her lying on some occasions and I can't take her word for it. Attempts at running a background check on her yielded no results as it appears many guys these days do not want to be named amongst those who fuelled a "gossip".
She has a fairly decent family background, but we know that counts for nothing in terms of morality. She is a nice girl generally, hardworking, smart and respectful. My family isn't totally into her though.

How do I make sure she is full proof? I've thought of quitting severally but after 2 failed relationships in the past I want to be sure I'm not the problem.

tripplephi:


Bros, I hope you know that girlfriend is NOT fiance
she is behaving like a girlfriend NOT a fiance because both require very different levels of commitment

Anyway, the soul of every relationship is COMMUNICATION, So communicate with her and see how it goes. Discuss with her and let her know that you are not comfortable with it, if she calls you insecure and tells you not to worry then smile and say OK..... then go and get more female friends... let them know she is a friend and then have them call you and chat with them late into the night and you will be shocked she may not be able to handle that, then you let her know it is exactly what she did to you and she will understand how you felt.

Then redefine the relationship, I feel she is jovial but also keeping her options open, if you both have a spiritual foundation then you may need to seek a female more mature spiritual counselor that will be able to reason with her and counsel her on how to behave.

Age is not an excuse, there are 21 years old ladies who behave more wise and mature than 29-32 years old ladies. So pray for her to be understanding before you have the TALK and follow it up from there.

neuronalkaycee:
29 years

daddytime:
My dear brother, just call your girlfriend or fiancee, then take hold of your phone, scroll down to this topic, and read it all out to her as you have written it for us to consume.

At the end of your reading, then ask her the pertinent questions you want to be answered.

cRobo:
Can't really trust any girl these days

Heartbreak is all you will get if you decide to find more about her

NO GIRL

I MEAN NO GIRL rich now is TRUSTWORTHY


You marry nowadays just to have children

And don't forget to do DNA test for your children


Speaking from lots of experience

neuronalkaycee:
Hmmmm. Atleast let my kids be raised by a fairly decent person

Zornes123:
Why not try to let go off her past. If you really love her like you claim focus on your future with her.

cRobo:




You will keep on searching for a life time

There are no perfect (decent) people

The sooner you realise that the better and happier you will live

BlackfireX:
Kids and marriage....



Someone you meet some months ago , is now your finance...




Abooki give me blala I want to flog this Ben 1o generation

MDBrand:

She dey find husband

neuronalkaycee:
Another beautiful suggestion! I should be very open and direct you mean. Thank you so much

neuronalkaycee:
I'll keep it real short. Met my fiancé through a friend a few months ago. We love each other but I know love is hardly enough.
She has way more male friends than females. She has lots of the guys calling her their girlfriend, lover, or baby albeit jokingly. It appears she could fall readily if ANY guy tried wooing her, often smiling flirtatiously with nearly every new guy she meets.
She loves clubbing, even though her meeting me has made her stop.
I just have a feeling she has this nasty history that I do not know about and would hunt me after we tie the knot. I've asked her for full disclosure, so I could know what Im up against if anything... But again I've caught her lying on some occasions and I can't take her word for it. Attempts at running a background check on her yielded no results as it appears many guys these days do not want to be named amongst those who fuelled a "gossip".
She has a fairly decent family background, but we know that counts for nothing in terms of morality. She is a nice girl generally, hardworking, smart and respectful. My family isn't totally into her though.

How do I make sure she is full proof? I've thought of quitting severally but after 2 failed relationships in the past I want to be sure I'm not the problem.

Bola146:
You can't marry whom you don't trust, trust is the main ingredient in a good relationship.
Sit her down, let her know what you are thinking in your mind.