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God bless you my broda, exactly my point!

Ranoscky:

Havin a child out of wedluck does not neccessarily mean that the child born of wedluck parents would be more discipline and berra than the other. It wasn't meant to be that way but ish happens, you know (unwanted pregnancy)? So, he or she will also be takin care of by the 'out of wedluck' parents, same way as the child born of wedluck parents will also be takin care of by his or her wedluck parents. It's just that in the Nigerian tradition, it's not good to have a baby out of wedluck, and that is what we all are tryin to stick with!

But stil, how many couples in Nigeria today get married before havin children?

Wey almost all our 9ja gals don get 1 pikin each for village, den l8r dem go dey form virgin/fine gals for city, RUBBISH!

GL:

it's not advisable to do it deliberately, but if it happens accidentally it's not the end of the world.

i don't agree that children raised by single parents fare worse academically or morally. it's children who don't have enough attention/supervision that fare worse.

BigPhil:

The Level of ignorance here is shocking.So because a child is born outside wedlock means the child is less human to kids with married parents.What
sort of nonsense drivel is this.

What any child needs is a loving environment and quality upbringing.whether had in or out of wedlock.

and i thought i was the only one thinking like y´all. . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

Single parenthood is not the end of the world as many would like to believe, every child needs love and guidance, just because the parents are not married does not mean the child is an automatic failure. . . . . as long as both parents play their role in the child's life, that child will be just as balanced as one raised by married parents. 

One or two people I know residing in SA have got wives and children back in Nigeria but they live here, surely the absent father is not taking an active role in the child's life and the mother is left to do it all, how is that different from single parenthood!!!

Marriage does not equate ever-lasting happiness and well-mannered children with distinctions at school!

coded777:

Just but 2 opposition sofar, @ Missy b and Osama10 you guys didn't backup your stance.

That's because I didn't see the need to, sorry.

coded777:

This is a situation of LOVE, a party involved in the relationship needs to protect his/her love for the other for some reason like distance? or he may be planning on a 'not returning so soon' journey. Are these reasons enough to get her pregnant out of wedlock and what if they did not eventualy get married in the long run

It's not a wise thing to blackmail people into being/sticking with you. Worse still, if the object of blackmail is pregnancy. A child.
People play rough and some situations that could lead to having a child of wedlock are out of control, I understand but, I'm saying, deliberately having a child outta wedlock [especially for selfish reasons; Eg - the instance you cited] is pure nonsense, if you're aren't anti-marriage and simply wrong, if you're a christian. This is my opinion.

Ya'll made ur points though with some controversies, thanks for contributing.Will appreciate more responses if any
i may agree that 'deliberately' yielding into an attempt to give birth to a child outa wedlock is wrong, i still reserve my doubts though