I don't know if this is the right section to make this post. I got this girl pregnant. I want to settle this girl so I can move on with my life. How much should I give her? The deed has already been done but I need to move on with my life. She has completely changed since she got pregnant and very rude. In your own opinion, how much is reasonable to give her. Thanks for your input. Please no insult.

Give her your house, your car, your whole bank deposits, your goods in your shops and warehouse and your father's lands in the village.

Nwaotu:
I don't know if this is the right section to make this post. I got this girl pregnant. I want to settle this girl so I can move on with my life. How much should I give her? The deed has already been done but I need to move on with my life. She has completely changed since she got pregnant and very rude. In your own opinion, how much is reasonable to give her. Thanks for your input. Please no insult.

your life and entire property, and every month child support for your child.

xendra:
your life and entire property, and every month child support for your child.

Gbam!

N150,000 for child support from now till the child turns 18.

Sit her down and come to reasonable conclusion between you both... 500k will do and monthly upkeep after the delivery of the baby

she dey give u dis style and e been dey sweet u..she paid u with her heart.and now she don get belle for u.u dey come ask how much u go pay her....pay her back with ur heart...afterall,wetin una two been dey do na "heart2heart" things.

calculate how much child support (for the next 18yrs) you believe they will need, then gave her that lump sum and make sure she signs the contract that confirms that you are done for good!

BTW you shouldnt give her a kobo until you have concrete undeniable proof that the baby is yours.

You dont seem to care about the child, too bad if that's the case. If she is good enough for unprotected sex, surely she is good enough to have a mature conversation with about your plan to settle her and the way forward.

What a child you are!


So what will happen to the child after you settle and possibly seperate from the mother?

For your information, that woman that you want to leave will be in your life for as long as you both shall live, directly or indirectly.

No amount is enough to settle anyone for a child that is both yours and hers. If you don't want to be in the woman's life that is fine, get a lawyer and draw up an agreement. But what about your child? You also don't want to be in its life too?

She has become rude because she can see no future with you. Probably you're both stressed up. That feeling that led to the pregnancy can still be brought back. No money can adequately replace a friendly relationship where a child is involved. If however it's for child support, I guess it should depend on your means and her needs.

Nwaotu:
I don't know if this is the right section to make this post. I got this girl pregnant. I want to settle this girl so I can move on with my life. How much should I give her? The deed has already been done but I need to move on with my life. She has completely changed since she got pregnant and very rude. In your own opinion, how much is reasonable to give her. Thanks for your input. Please no insult.

Another upcoming Deadbeat dad who will coming looking for the child in 20 years to come. Only lightening will strike you if you come begging in future. Radarada oshi.

MrBrownJay1:
calculate how much child support (for the next 18yrs) you believe they will need, then gave her that lump sum and make sure she signs the contract that confirms that you are done for good!

BTW you shouldnt give her a kobo until you have concrete undeniable proof that the baby is yours.

Giving a lump sum no make sense. Best to give sum to cover medical and delivery and then monthly allowance for the baby until 18. But then, we in Nigeria

Give her 40k every month

Nwaotu:
I don't know if this is the right section to make this post. I got this girl pregnant. I want to settle this girl so I can move on with my life. How much should I give her? The deed has already been done but I need to move on with my life. She has completely changed since she got pregnant and very rude. In your own opinion, how much is reasonable to give her. Thanks for your input. Please no insult.

You are joking. After many years you will now carry your two left legs to look for the child. I say you're joking! You must pay child support till that pikin reaches 18.

Sorry but I think No amount can pay her off. She just wants to frustrate you for now. I'd suggest you toast her again so peace can rain if you know what I mean

Ishilove:

You are joking. After many years you will now carry your two left legs to look for the child. I say you're joking! You must pay child support till that pikin reaches 18.

In which country

1 a million is not bad my thoughts

Guys, if I pay child support till the child reaches 18 years, who then becomes the owner of the child. No bi me.

ori e ope.you fok a baby resulted and now you want to move on with your life with your restless community pen1s

you will soon fok the one that has been laced with magun

eranko jati jati

How much should she pay you so she can move on with her life?
She can deliver the baby, drop it off with you, give you a lump sum and then move on with her life.
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So, how much are you willing to collect?

SweetCunt97:
Giving a lump sum no make sense. Best to give sum to cover medical and delivery and then monthly allowance for the baby until 18. But then, we in Nigeria

if the dude wants nothing to do with the babymama and baby, then best to dash the money in one lump sum and get rid of the babe for good, rather than having to talk to her and hear her sob stories every months.

Nwaotu:
Please no insult.

NA MEDAL YOU WANT?

The question alone sounds insulting.

"How much should I give her? I need to move on with my life..." haba!!

So what u were implying was that u contributed into bringing a child into the world, u won't play a role... u settle the mother and" off u go"..u need not to be there for your child. What is done is done. All u needed to do was to throw some naira notes to the mother.. whatever and how ever she chose to bring him /her up is none of your business. Is that right?

Though I was expecting the ladies on this thread to educate u about hormonal changes in some cases when a woman is pregnant. That might trigger her rudeness plus this your "Lovely" attitude too could make a reverend sister to use an F word.

Nwaotu:
Guys, if I pay child support till the child reaches 18 years, who then becomes the owner of the child. No bi me.

Sorry to quote u but u sound like a16yr old...Lord have mercy

OP if you were the father of the pregnant girl, how much will you feel is appropriate to settle her by the guy who impregnated her?

HiFreda:
How much should she pay you so she can move on with her life?
She can deliver the baby, drop it off with you, give you a lump sum and then move on with her life.
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So, how much are you willing to collect?

Don't you know that it takes the grace of GOD for children to forgive mothers that abadoned them with their dad.

But a child will always look for the father and the no man has really ever run away from his own flesh and blood, though it may seems like it the first time but the man will always come look for his child.

But the reverse is the case when it comes to women.

Women that abadoned their children with their dads and ran away are likely never to ever care about them anymore and even if they come back later, the children will never forgive them, the worst case is if the child a woman abadoned is a female.

Forget about what we see on movies.

60% of children are more emotionally attached to their fathers than moms.

And 90% of female children love their dads more than their mom, they are emotionally attached to their dads than their mom.

So advising the pregnant lady to abadoned the child with the man is a very very wrong move because she might lose the child forever, especially if she is female.

By the order of the Peaky blinders.

People should stop abusing the op and look at it from a reasonable and psychological point of view and not emotional point of view.

It's clear that the op has no love what so ever for the lady in question, it seems like a one night stand thingy.

But where the op is wrong is not caring about the baby she is carrying.

Well op, the only solution is that if the pregnancy is very new, i suggest you promise and give her huge sum of money and take her to a qualified doctor and abort the pregnancy.

But if she refuses or the pregnancy has gone past abortion stage already then you have to take care of that child because the moment the child is born, you will feel that sense of love and happiness when you see your child and you will vow to be there for him or her.

You don't have to love the mother or stay with her, I'm sure she will understand and she will probably move on with her life with another man but op you have to be there for your child.

If the lady in question will agree, after birth you can take the child to your mom and when the child is old enough, the child can come and stay with you but don't use force, only if the mother agrees.

This is a lesson to ladies out there.

Don't have sex with a guy that doesn't love you and care about you, it will end in tears.

By the order of the Peaky blinders.

MrBrownJay1:
calculate how much child support (for the next 18yrs) you believe they will need, then gave her that lump sum and make sure she signs the contract that confirms that you are done for good!

BTW you shouldnt give her a kobo until you have concrete undeniable proof that the baby is yours.

Your first paragraph is not feasible owing to the ease with which naira loses its value.


@op, it took the two of you to make that baby, so why are you trying to shy away from being in the picture? A child needs a father. Do right by this lady and even if you won't marry, please be in the picture for the sake of the poor child.

MrBrownJay1:
calculate how much child support (for the next 18yrs) you believe they will need, then gave her that lump sum and make sure she signs the contract that confirms that you are done for good!

BTW you shouldnt give her a kobo until you have concrete undeniable proof that the baby is yours.

Your first paragraph is not feasible owing to the ease with which naira loses its value.


@op, it took the two of you to make that baby, so why are you trying to shy away from being in the picture? A child needs a father. Do right by this lady and even if you won't marry her, please be in the picture for the sake of the poor child.

Softapplez:
Don't you know that it takes the grace of GOD for children to forgive mothers that abadoned them with their dad.

But a child will always look for the father and the no man has really ever run away from his own flesh and blood, though it may seems like it the first time but the man will always come look for his child.

But the reverse is the case when it comes to women.

Women that abadoned their children with their dads and ran away are likely never to ever care about them anymore and even if they come back later, the children will never forgive them, the worst case is if the child a woman abadoned is a female.

Forget about what we see on movies.

60% of children are more emotionally attached to their fathers than moms.

And 90% of female children love their dads more than their mom, they are emotionally attached to their dads than their mom.

So advising the pregnant lady to abadoned the child with the man is a very very wrong move because she might lose the child forever, especially if she is female.

By the order of the Peaky blinders.

The person whom u quoted asked what was known as rhetorical question... just Google the meaning.. you shouldn't have wasted your time with this long epistles...