im going out with my bf for more than 4 years now, but he is not yet ready to marry me, he tells me to wait and always extent it, it was till ending of 2010, now its till easter this year
i know im not perfect, he knows my good sides and bad sides and im sure that we know each other good enough to know if we want to stay with each other or not.
im not nigerian, thats why im writing in this forum, maybe im missing out some important sense of understanding

moreover we both have a child before we met, he is in a good relationship with my daughter but i havent seen his daughter more than 3 times in the 4 years

im just confused if its better to make a painful break than to draw out the pain.

i know nobody can make the decision for me, but i just need some input

tnx

If a man does not know within 6 months to 1 years of knowing you that he want to marry you. He will never marry you.

You said you are not Nigerian, are you from an African country?

we started talking about marriage some years ago, and he keep me waiting eversince

im from europe

Is he nigerian?

Okay hun,

He is not going to marry you any time soon.  So if you are dung ho on getting married then find another chap who worth your time.  IF you want to sit around and be like that cartoon where the woman is dead waiting on her Mr. Right then you go right ahead.

@ adolfe bad: yes he is nigerian

@ Mrs, Eve: thanks for ur input, i was already expecting something like that, i believe if he was serious with me, he would have made it official long time, i better go on with my life

Mrs, Eve:

If a man does not know within 6 months to 1 years of knowing you that he want to marry you. He will never marry you.

Hey poster were u dey? listen to this

I wish you the best life and love chick.

You deserve better and do not wait for a man to marry you. Believe me after six months of dating you he would have known whether you are the one or not. It does not take years to love someone but take years to fall out of love with some one.