Atreides:

As for me,the only reasonable grounds for divorce are Infidelity and Abuse,whether it's physical/emotional/whatever,as long as my life/the lives of my children are in danger.

bayleaf:

I sometimes wonder, what makes marriages crash. Are marriages not for better for worse? so what could possibly make a man/woman decide he/she has had enough and want to leave?

ZIM DRILL:

besides the abuse infidelity etc

people just change am sure you aint the same person you where 20 ago, the change make many things drift apart to the extend that you no longer compatible

Atreides:

As for me,the only reasonable grounds for divorce are Infidelity and Abuse,whether it's physical/emotional/whatever,as long as my life/the lives of my children are in danger.

bayleaf:

but the vows you must have taken would read ''for better for worse''. if that be the case, then are you not expected to work things out?

Atreides:

What kind of useless working it out is that? How will i 'work it out' if he's abusive? Is it when i'm dead that i will 'work it out'? Or should i let him be physically/emotionally abusing my children because i took vows? There are things you work out and there are things you don't. Things like compatibility/changes that occur over the years,those are what you can work out. You could even try to work through infidelity in some instances. If you can work through it,fine. If not,fine. Even the bible gives infidelity as the only grounds for divorce. At least you tried. But abuse? That's a no-go area.

Orton1_0:

-Absence Of Love.
- Unfaithfulness
-Trust Issues
- External Influence
- Childlessness
- Financial factors

bayleaf:

well if you say abuse, was your partner not doing that b4 u got married?how come you went ahead to marry he/her?what really is the basis for courtship then if fundamental issues like physical/emotional abuse cannot be discovered b4 marriage. or are you saying he just woke overnight and start being abusive?

Atreides:

Erm this is a hypothetical situation oh. . I don't have any kind of husband,much less an abusive one,and i don't see that in my future. I agree with you that there re usually signs during dating/courtship,and that some women choose to be blind to said signs and go ahead with the marriage anyway. Or it could be that they hope to change the man after marriage. Thinking like that is wrong,yes,but abuse is wrong as well. Two wrongs do not make a right Whether the man showed signs before the marriage or not,i believe NO WOMAN should remain in an abusive relationship because of the vows she took. In any case,by abusing her the man has already broken and nullified the vows. Divorcing him wouldn't really be breaking any vows because he did that in the first place.

Orton1_0:

MRS CHIMA
^
Lol, i just did.
For-better-and-for-worse??
C'mon, cut dat cliche and lets be realistic here, most marriages are based on lies and deceit so you don't expect a partner to stick arround and play along simply because he took a matrimonial vow in some church?
Gal, when i get married [i.e. If i even get married] the moment i notice either of the above vice/factors, hmm, i'm gonna bail out for good. Life is to short n precious to waste. My opinion.

Mrs.Chima:

Interesting. Sighs.

Orton1_0:

MRS CHIMA
^
Lol, i just did.
For-better-and-for-worse??
C'mon, cut dat cliche and lets be realistic here, most marriages are based on lies and deceit so you don't expect a partner to stick arround and play along simply because he took a matrimonial vow in some church?
Gal, when i get married [i.e. If i even get married] the moment i notice either of the above vice/factors, hmm, i'm gonna bail out for good. Life is to short n precious to waste. My opinion.

Atreides:

@bayleaf,yes,she should. She should run as fast as her legs can carry her. Life has no substitute. He could kill her one day 'by mistake'. She shouldn't have married him in the first place sef.

Orton1_0:


- Absence Of Love.
- Unfaithfulness
-Trust Issues
- External Influence
- Childlessness
- Financial factors
- Physical Abuse
- Permanent Disabilities
- Personal Expectations

Orton1_0:

^
Hmm. Iron Lady so you do manufacture 'totos' and you know tell me. Can i have some?. Lmfao
**Mr Chima i'm just kidding o**

Mrs.Chima:

If my husband ever was to sample some meat that is not from my toto factory.  He will be victoriously single.  

bayleaf:

that factory must be an interesting one to work in.

nikkykay:

where were all these be4 they tied the knot?
The issue is all these were in place then but they overlooked it cos they were carried away with lust and not true love. Few marriages break up due to ds reasons and something might have led to it,

Mrs.Chima:

You sure you are not friends with my husband? I swear that sound like something Mr. Chima would say.