I am not a tart, and have never cheated on my husband, we got married about a year ago, presently I am in the US but he is in Nigeria, we are planning to settle in the US soon. I joined my company about six months ago, The very first day that I saw Nick ( let's call him that ) I felt this feeling that I can't explain, ever since then, each time he walks into my office, I just feel like hugging, cuddling up to him, initially I tried avoiding him by pretending to be busy each time he comes around but I now find myself dressing up to impress him, and always looking out for him, he says I am sexy, but I know I always switch on my sexy skills when he is around, not flirty though, I have tried to control my feelings but it keeps growing day by day please help ! I do not ever want to cheat on my husband ever, I love him and do not want him hurt ! My conscience will never be at rest, I also wonder could my husband be going through this at work too ? Yesterday , we were chatting and Nick's skin brushed through mine, and I just felt like submitting all to him ! please advice me before I fall flat !! 

Sniff Sniff!  Anyone smell a tart? Da real "pop tart" with strawberry frosting! YUMMY!

MILITIA:

Sniff Sniff! Anyone smell a tart? Da real "pop tart" with strawberry frosting! YUMMY!

Laughing my nice ass off

@topic


You don't need no advice but do the right thing.

Adultery is a sin against God

MILITIA:

Sniff Sniff!  Anyone smell a tart? Da real "pop tart" with strawberry frosting! YUMMY!

I do not need this, this is the first time I've been bold enough to share this ! I do not think this is new or strange ! Women go through a lot of experiences which they don't ever share because of these responses of yours and end up following their heads,  I never knew it could happen to me, all I need is just advice on how to handle the situation not to be trampled upon  

Oh girl!  "Fall flat" ke!  You dey for ground, in fact "6 feet under"!  Just hold ya sef, get small liver, take shame crawl out of the hole wen you don bury ya self!  Wonder, wonder, wonder--(singing) Go "slick"willy Nick!  Give it your best shot!  She is already yours and ain't no going back now! Nairaland na wah!  Just when we thought we had heard and seen it all!  

"im skin brush yours"  Wait till im real "snake skin" brush you! You will speak in tongues then!

Haba! My dear you don go finish! POINT OF NO RETURN! It has already been ordained by Nick's "brushes"! Go my child and fulfill the "prophesy"! You are going to get "phocked"! Just come back and give us feed back! Shay you asked for our opinion and you are sayin' you don't "need dat"! Tell us what you want to hear then! Don't you trust us again?

@oboatioko
Beginning to sound like a broken record!  C'mon!  Be original!  It is saturday night in "yankee" doodle land! How is your "big stinkin' apple"?

Tola77,

This is realy sad, why must u do this, pls dont destroy ur young family , run as fast as ur legs canb carry u
there is nothing enjoyable about nick that ur hubby will not give u if he is around, maybe u are missing so muc, pray and even fast about it, and talk to God ask Him for strenght to overcome this temptaion , u knw wat, i fu fall to him, u willl become a sorry tale in the office, u willl be tied to him and imprisoned,that even wen ur hubby comes u wont get out of it, remember u will need a bigger lie to cover a previous one, so dont DONTT START It,

God will help u that is if u are serious sha, but pls dont do it, give marruage and family life decency, the scar will be there forever , unless u are suspecting ur hubby

GOD LOVES U AND HATES ADULTERY, OK GIRLEEEEE

nothing else, u re possessed

Adam ate the forbidden fruit abi? It is now our earthly Eve's turn to return the favour! No amount of fastin' and prayin' will deliver this uno! The child is lost and can never find her way home!

davou4eva:

nothing else, u re possessed

I do not think so.

@ topic
This is when and where U really have to show ur love for husband. It is Ok if U feel physically attracted to some one, especially since U are currently but temporarily separated from ur husband. It might be a case of one's juices overflowing. However the point is u are married. Think of all the reasons why U married ur husband in the first place and weigh it against the reason(s) why U would want to be with Nick. I assure U (that is if U truly love ur husband) that the former will outweigh the latter and that will keep U from doing anything that U will regret later. Nick is just an answer to ur present physical urge but if u truly love ur hussy then U would wait for the real deal.

I dont the lay out of ur work place but if it is possible, make sure U dont get to stay alone with him. Have people around when U meet, Keep ur mind on the job. There are other reasons, apart from marriage, why U would not want to bring in romance to ur work place. Think of those reasons while U are at work, maybe that will help to keep ur head above water.

Above all, my dear, I suggest U pray!

something tells me Nick is white. That may explain the sudden "attraction" especially since he is openly flirting with you in return.
Enjoy urself breaking ur 1 yr old marriage, i'm sure Nick just wants to feel the experience of laying a black woman before he moves on to his white princesses.

Hmmm, o ga o! Make up your mind that nothing's gonna come out of it and DO NOT DO IT, otherwise, you'll be disrespecting your husband and d institution called MARRIAGE, It's perfectly normal to get these feelings but d love you have for your husband should make you get d thot outta your head, Keep it real gal, hold your head high n your legs closed, One love

divorce your husband then,ashewo!

people are so mean oh.

What has she done that she deserve to be called ashewo

PEOPLE ACT LIKE THEY ARE ALL SAINT!!! **rUBBISH**

@dd

I keep wondering. Has something happend to you. Back in the day I recall seeing laid back, moderate posts from you but these days it's just religious and racial hatred.

At first I thought you were just reacting emotionally on those Islam vs Christianity threads, but since then I've seen venom spout from you on practiaclly all issues. This isn't how you used to be.

Assuming the guy is white and then shooting barbs at the OP based on this assumption is uncalled for.

@tola77

Well, from these responses, you can see that you will not find help from anyone. This will be even worse if you asked anyone for help directly- even your friends will just go around carrying rumours behind your back. My advice to you is to change your nairaland account lest someone ties it to your real name in future, and do not breathe a word about 'nick' to anyone ever again in the future.

What you do with him is, of course, your call. I do not know you, neither do I know your husband and your history with him, and I don't know this mystery man. Just understand that Adultery is a serious crime punishable by death in many societies. When you agreed to marry your husband, you agreed to suffer the pain of sexual repression for the rest of your life with regards to all men besides him.

The solution to your problem is NOT one you will find on Nairaland, or with any friends. You are on your own. Do not dissapoint yourself.

Stolen waters are sweet and bread eaten in secret is pleasant

First and for most, how did you get married, church , traditional or court.
I can understand you very well.
The mistake you made was to get married before you left.You are not the first woman i know that this is happening too.

What you have to think about is this.
If the worst comes to the worst. And then ask yourself if it was worth it.

dakmanzero:

@dd

I keep wondering. Has something happend to you. Back in the day I recall seeing laid back, moderate posts from you but these days it's just religious and racial hatred.

At first I thought you were just reacting emotionally on those Islam vs Christianity threads, but since then I've seen venom spout from you on practiaclly all issues. This isn't how you used to be.

Assuming the guy is white and then shooting barbs at the OP based on this assumption is uncalled for.

Stop jumping the gun to say what you know nothing about. Racial hatred? Where? My last 3 girlfriends where all white so of what purpose is this drivel?

I would not have said anything but for the fact that the poster is MARRIED! You dont get married and after 1 yr start talking of being attracted to another man simply because ur husband is not within 200miles of you.

Omo Eko:

people are so mean oh.

What has she done that she deserve to be called ashewo

PEOPLE ACT LIKE THEY ARE ALL SAINT!!! **rUBBISH**

guess you can do the same innit?

@desodgi:

guess you can do the same innit?

Never will will always love and cherish my husband still the end

@desodgi:

guess you can do the same innit?

Its a free world not so.
Go and find out what an ashewo is

@Omo-Eko
who is this special guy ?? Are you talking about me ?? Or Are you cheating on me ?

@dd

Stop jumping the gun to say what you know nothing about. Racial hatred? Where? My last 3 girlfriends where all white so of what purpose is this drivel?

I would not have said anything but for the fact that the poster is MARRIED! You don't get married and after 1 yr start talking of being attracted to another man simply because your husband is not within 200miles of you.

Yes, this is what I was talking about.

'stop jumping the gun to say what you know nothing about'

'of what purpose is this drivel'

You are more aggresive and abusive in your approach these days. Just an observation. And you may not have intended for your post to come across as racist but it did. That's what happens when you sound off with venom in your posts.

I'm curious, why the change? I know I am not a paragon of moderation and calmness myself, but this is a bit much.

this long post sef,who dey read am?

@ darkmanzero, errr minding your business might be a good place to start. thanks for noting.

Am sure he'll stick to your advise. .

@dd

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davidylan u have a message report,tha sms has bin sent and recieved. . . .

instigator!!!!!!SHIO

what is your own now?