Sweetheart adultery is a sin, theres nothing like big or small sin …this can happen to anyone , I think u should just pray to God to give u strength not to fall for his guy because u will end up regretting it …, put urself in the same shoes if someone else wanted ur husband so bad

hi tola
We all go thru struggles at different times in our lives. My advice is since u are already married you should think more about teh conseqences of your actiosn on ur marriage. And even if you did have a flip with "nick", imagien what that woudl do to your professional relationship at work. My dear the price is too costly. Long distant relationship is touggh, don't make it any tougher for yourself!!
All teh best

@tola

You will find my advise on such issues on numerous threads on Nairaland.

If you love your Husband tell him about Nick. Simple. A problem shared is a problem half solved. Only, share it with the right person, you two can then look for a solution together. And also let Nick know about your husband, infact introduce the two of them (over the phone i guess). The better man will stand out Heads and Shoulders above the rest.

I believe that is your best bet.

verbum sapienti satis est

@tola77
don't let comments on this thread get to you, its a public forum where ppl express themselves in anonymity, Its kinda fun, Smile, and have fun gal, Make sure you call your husband now now,

Hi Tola,

lets hear u talk now, i hope u are learning sometin serious ,

I just havwe a question, has Nick ever spoken to u about it, i mean toasted u so far??

Nija people sure do have a problem wit communication.Dat is Y a lot of people dey get stroke over here cos we neva find people that we can share our innner feelings wit.The most annoying people on earth na critics.Dem be dumbasses and over righteous bastards.Person wey neva commit the crime yet na him him na wa kill.Wetin be her crime?say she confess say she dey trip for man wey no be her husby.Lets face it the matter neva rch so now.All the asewo and stuffs!!!!!!! U are really bastards. Shame to idiots like u wey no want person to say wetin dey do am.Abi na wen she actually do am na him cum better pass?

long thing

@tola77
don't let comments on this thread get to you, its a public forum where ppl express themselves in anonymity, Its kinda fun, Smile, and have fun gal, Make sure you call your husband now now,

@Sweet T
Why should i be ashame ? For speaking my mind and telling her the truth .

I DO NOT SUPPORT ADULTERY

1YR OF MARRIAGE AND SHE'S ALREADY FEED UP


@TOLA

SO DID YOU SLEEP WITH THE GUY YET

Did u brush on you again at work today.

what wld u do if ur bitch is untrue,better drop her find someone new i need another bitch, 'humming Biggie's"

thou shall not commit adultery, search ursef before u break urself

all the idiots on this site insultng some one inneed of advise if we could check ur own blackbox i am sure its as stinking as .anything hypocrits

woman buy a vibrator and use it to satisfy quell ur sexual urge
Save ur young marriage
carry your wedding picture always with you and keep it in ur office
Tell him the next time he comes to the office that the phone call you received 4m ur husband was fantastic and continue the discussion all centered around your husband.
if u try adultry,HMMMMMMMMMMMM
U are on a road to perpetual regret

@Tola77,

Babes, i must first apologise on behalf of the Nairalander that called you ASHEWO!!!! Guys, thats so wrong, some people here are from the cutter obviously not ordinary cutters but deep, stinking, smelly, porous ones like the ones in AJEGUNLE. What rubbish! If you do not have anything meaningful to say then move to another thread stop hurting people. Am surprised some babes too are being rude even the ones that their husbands married soley for green card and all. Ignore them, they are not better than you in anyway, just hypocrites!!!

Though am not married, i have been in your shoes before. Infact quite recently. I came to nairaland too and got the good, bad and ugly. Was insulted by many but got some good advice too which i took. Babes, your feeling for Nick is only NATURAL. It happens. All you have to do is control yourself. Do not fall please it will pass. You can fantasise about Nick all day but do not get near him for anything. You are MARRIED, you took an oath  under your Naitive Law and Custom. Put yourself in your man's shoes, how would you feel. Avoid Nick and his games. He knows how you feel about him already, It always shows. He knows you are lonely, he would take advantage (a naija boy for that matter). The Mr. Handsome i was tripping for in my own case does not exist anymore, i stopped all contact with him. I guess he noticed it too and moved on to his next victim. Nick will do the same once you stop giving him the GREEN LIGHT!!!!! Am sure he knows you are married. Give yourself time and work on surpressing this attraction. It will pass ok.

Thanks so much to u guys with unhypocritic advises, what a relief to know I'm not that inhuman after all, it's a REFRESHER to my soul ! He hasn't been in here today but I'd heed to all sensible advices when he does .



@OMOEKO

I used to love/adore your contributions but highly dissappointed, at your being insensitive here. 

@MILITIA

Your comments are so unladylike, I can bet you just falsely indicated to be FEMALE  .

Tola77:





@OMOEKO

I used to love/adore your contributions but highly dissappointed, at your being insensitive here.

You can't blame a sista for been harsh (sorry )

I was just warning you that your husband is much important than Nick, so you don't destroy your marriage over one stupid fling with Nick(And you know this naija guys are useless).

Here he comes, Talk of the Devil, I think he's come to anounce he'll be leaving at 4.30pm, would keep u posted, wish me well ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

TOLA u will only regret it if u try it , u wil ifnd out its all empty trust me, nothign anyone says now will matter to you becos from ur mail, u have let urslef go but not completely pls dont its a small world he might know someone that knows ur husy and what next , DIVORCE , God forbid right , then don't do it

@Tola77
Lookk here, forget about being called an ashewo. Those people do worse. The most important thing is to be faithful to your man ! Tell Nick about your husband and see how he reacts. A real man will not want to destroy another man's home !! Goodluck and God bless !

@Omo-Eko
It's easier said than done ! It's so easy to analyse someone's else marriage when you are still single !

na jazz the boy dey use on you?? take control of your emotions and stop acting like a 16 year old girl getting turned on for the first time!

later some people will be insulting men that they can't 'hold body', the man no even touch am she don begin shake like jellyfish

sorry if that sounded harsh, but you really need to get a grip, you're not a kid anymore, you're married now, avoid the guy, get him out of your head, do something else with your time (as you're being paid to do)

@Debosky
Ol' boy you funny no be small ! Omo Ibo. Everything na jazz to them !

Sweet T:

@Tola77
Lookk here, forget about being called an ashewo. Those people do worse. The most important thing is to be faithful to your man ! Tell Nick about your husband and see how he reacts. A real man will not want to destroy another man's home !! Goodluck and God bless !

TOla 77, Pls dont make the mistake of telling your husband oh, he will only suspect you. Men can be very jealous and funny. Just pray to God and keep resisting temptation

@Aisha
Not her husband ! She needs to tell lover boy Dick (oops, sorry Nick) about her husband and see his reaction. A real man will back-off pursuing a married woman !

Sweet T:

@Omo-Eko
It's easier said than done ! It's so easy to analyse someone's else marriage when you are still single !

Am not single but ENGAGED

@Omo_Oko
Tell us how everything goes a year after marriage, since you are so damn sure !

Tola77, obviously you were born in '77 which means you're 30yrs.
Most tolas i've met cheat so yours won't be so special. 1st of all any couple who stay apart are simply inviting the devil to come dine with them with i'ts ugly head-the one that wears a cap, guess you know what i mean. This issue is overflogged, you know you will sleep with that nick, my mind tells me you have already so stop fooling around, get born again and save your soul alive, i wonder what you're expecting to hear from any body. board the next flight and return to yankee no more or else you will cheat with nick, cheat with nick's friend and nick's friend's friend,

Why pple dey yarn like say blood no dey their veins. I dey weak 4 d kain yeye pple wey dey dis nairaland sed.
Person com ere wit wetin dey worri am una dey curse am. e no good
It is natural 4 humans to have attractions wit d opposite sex, either married or unmarried. It only takes divine grace to get ur eyes and heart off someone u are suddenly attracted to and attached to. Atimes I wonder why our heart love more dan one person. Having feelings for sum1 else does not imply dat she has fallen out of love wit her husband, it is just d lust of the flesh dat we are all prone to.
My candid advice here is to advice dat u invite ur husband over or visit him, give dis nick guy a break. Or beta still, watchout for his flaws, praise ur husband's qualities more and get more loving wit ur husband maybe on d phone to strengthen ur desires for him(Husband).
I bet dat all dose condeming d poster if subjected to the same situation at STP will not hesitate to take advantage of the situation. U might b a guy and tink her case is absurd, only God knows wat ur own babe is doin under pretence and guise dat u dont know off.
I believe in u to overcome. I have been in dis position several tyms. I must tell u i messed up most tyms, bt i learn from past experiences though m unmarried, bt i ve a stdy relationship. 2day, i ve learnt nt to entertain every of my lustful desires no mata how cheap and sweet it looks. Actually it is not easy and i must commend u, u are a good wife and strong one too. ur husband is lucky. But stay clear off Nick. All dat glitters is not gold. D worlld is a small place

Make i come bkl 2 mai original sef. i neva serious like dis b4 4 nairaland. sum pple just dey make my blood hot wit dem kain answer.
No long tin

@topic
i can hear the devil calling , but resist the call.

Some advice here can drive one crazy!

@ Tola77

i know that there are some yeye replies on this thread but you just have to ignore them and pick the good ones.Some don't really like the idea and because they've got it into there head that ladies do cheat,they see you as one of those useless gurls or women,but just ignore that and be your real self,you are just married for a year,you still have a lot in your head,,believe and trust your man,don't get into the habit of saying (i dunno what he is doing over there) and try as much as possible to avoid Nick,try to spice up your marriage irrespective of the distance,i know Long Distance Relationship can be difficult but its no boyfriend-girlfriend thingy,its marriage.I pray the Lord will uphold you and once again ignore those crap comments.

@ Sweet T ol boy see me see trouble oh, she dey talk like say d guy put something for mouth begin follow am talk

make she give me the Nick's number sef, I suppose ask am who be him babalawo for Delta, all man need dat kain tin too

@debosky
You are probably right. Wonders no dey end !