Sixfeetbelle:


Explains why she didn't tell him. Case closed. Cause I know if that man went to his village and spent 50k on his siblings and cousins, hardly will he tell his wife, as would most men, but women pretend like it doesn't matter and they don't care. He should pretend too.

decatalyst:


I need to rest this here. Your "point" is no longer mentally stimulating.

Take care. Cheers!

Sixfeetbelle:
Your friend is overexaggerating and should calm down. If there was no incentive to put resources together, her buying her mom a car from her own personal account should be no issue. Otherwise, the wife did badly.

But if he wants a divorce, he should go ahead. Immature people shouldn't be married anyways.

wirinet:

That is a very selfish behaviour. You say her own personal account should be no issue, but his own personal account should be an issue, right?

The guy might the responsible for the house rent, feeding, school fees, medical expenses of the family, utilities, etc., and most probably, that was why he has not been able to buy a car for himself. And here you have the wife using "her own personal account" to buy a car for her own mother without consulting the husband.

A woman that puts her extended family before her nuclear family is not worth to be called a wife.

addictiv:
Well if the roles were reversed and the man was the one buying a car for his mother when his wife is trekking and jumping danfo on the dailies... Most women will not let us hear word. They ll call the man all sorts of names, and tell him to go and marry his mother since she's more important to him.... Double standards everywhere. When a woman does something.. She's being a strong woman, she's standing up to patriarchy, she's acting within her rights as a woman. When a man does the same thing, they wail like an unfed toddler.
Mr op send that disrespectful and inconsiderate woman back to her mothers house.

Sixfeetbelle:
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Being married doesn't entail all your finances be put into one purse. Couples have joint account then they also have their personal account. Whatever he/she does with it is their personal business but once they are needed to support the family's finances and they fail to do so, that's when it becomes an issue.

Let me ask you, if the situation was reversed, what would be your argument?

Oladayo12:
I'm pretty sure the man will outrightly object her from buying the car for her mum had it been she informed him before hand, but all the same she should have notify him about it. That aside, He should go ahead with his divorce, i wonder why some men feel like they're doing a woman great favour by marrying her.

wirinet:

Divorce is harder on women in this part of the world than on men. It's very difficult for a woman with 3 or 4 children to start all over again. If the children are still young, they stay with the mother. A man can simply disappear and start a new family. Men in these parts are not forced to pay child support.

Oladayo12:
Yes you are perfectly right bro, some women are truly going through hell either divorced or not. But the op's wife seems to be working, she should be able to raise her kids up herself with or without a man.

UjuJoan2:


Why are men of these days so lazy and dependent on women? I just dont get it.

So if his wife buys him a car he will drive it happily? What about pride? Chivalry? What about self dignity?

That aside, do you know the bond between the lady and her mother? So because he gave her a ring, he thinks he is now more important than her own mother? What has he done to earn such privilege?

Lazy men everywhere looking to live off their wives. If your friend cannot keep trekking let him buy himself a car, simple!

wirinet:

It depends on who run the upkeep for the house. Family expenses for a 6 months to 1 year period will buy most cars (tokunbo). If the wife runs the house alone, then she has some right to buy a car for whomsoever, but if it's the man that runs the house or it is being done jointly, then it is wrong for the woman to buy the car without consulting her husband.

Even if the woman is financially buoyant and able to raise the kids herself, a woman raising kid alone without a father or father figure hardly ends well.

Oladayo12:
The deed has been done already & she has apoligised, i disagree with your last statement bro some men out there are mere figure head i'm sure you know that. some women can singlehandedly raise a child successfully without a man while some obviously can't. Also, it takes the grace of God and not the presence of the father. Pls don't get me wrong here having both parent is quite splendid but never a measure to determine the child's coming out good or not.

Gloriagee:
Wat a wicked and jealous hubby, I presume. Was his grouse the fact that she didn't tell him or that she would earn more than him?

Ningen:
Divorce is an exaggeration.
May we not end up with inconsiderate wives.

Lamanii22:



It's probably best known to him.... But if I were the one I can't and would not quit my job... We would talk things out ni.... Ko si time...

Poorboy:
your friend is a theif, let me put it in the language you should understand.

If he likes let him trek to hell fire

The wife doesn't owe your friend abi you anything.

Why he didn't tell the husband is that the husband will not allow her buy the car.

ikemesit4477:
pray your wife shouldn't do the same to you in the future! What that woman did is totally wrong, she should have inform the husband first before taking such a drastic decision whether the man accept it or not, you can't tell! give respect to whom respect is due, That shows she does not value her husband!

Sylverly:
Apparently, my friend is so mad and even threatening to divorce his wife.

No, this is not a case of infidelity or unfaithfulness. My friend and his wife got married last year. Both are working and keeping personal savings. My friend works at a very far distance, however, the wife's work place is approximately 10minutes walking distance.

My friend's mother-inlaw stays in a different city, and she is close to retirement. My friend just found out that the wife sent money to his brother to get a car for the mum. Though, she was actually going to tell him or inform him about it. Just that her mum was the first to call my friend, thanking him for their kind gesture.

My friend's anger was that the wife knows how much stress he passes through this period to get to work. But she however made her choice on the best person to get a car for.

Please, what is your opinion about this. I don't even know what to say.

Poorboy:
continue with your mentality

ikemesit4477:
my point is, kindly refrain from supporting evil!

wirinet:

It depends on who run the upkeep for the house. Family expenses for a 6 months to 1 year period will buy most cars (tokunbo). If the wife runs the house alone, then she has some right to buy a car for whomsoever, but if it's the man that runs the house or it is being done jointly, then it is wrong for the woman to buy the car without consulting her husband.

Even if the woman is financially buoyant and able to raise the kids herself, a woman raising kid alone without a father or father figure hardly ends well.

Poorboy:
look at your face like evil, lazy Akwa Ibom boy

blank:
So many fake stories biko. This is a variation of earlier twitter stories.

UjuJoan2:


Why are men of these days so lazy and dependent on women? I just dont get it.

So if his wife buys him a car he will drive it happily? What about pride? Chivalry? What about self dignity?

That aside, do you know the bond between the lady and her mother? So because he gave her a ring, he thinks he is now more important than her own mother? What has he done to earn such privilege?

Lazy men everywhere looking to live off their wives. If your friend cannot keep trekking let him buy himself a car, simple!

Poorboy:
you don't understand motherly love.

You don't know the sacrifice the mother might have made to the lady in question .

It's not a matter of loving the husband but her own personal conviction that her mother deserves a car.

The boy(husband) in question is a jealous type, the wife knew telling him he won't allow her buy the car.


Don't compare mother with husband it doesn't fall in the same sentence.

Sylverly so her offence is buying her mum a car?
It is well.
I don't know what else to type.:
Apparently, my friend is so mad and even threatening to divorce his wife.

No, this is not a case of infidelity or unfaithfulness. My friend and his wife got married last year. Both are working and keeping personal savings. My friend works at a very far distance, however, the wife's work place is approximately 10minutes walking distance.

My friend's mother-inlaw stays in a different city, and she is close to retirement. My friend just found out that the wife sent money to his brother to get a car for the mum. Though, she was actually going to tell him or inform him about it. Just that her mum was the first to call my friend, thanking him for their kind gesture.

My friend's anger was that the wife knows how much stress he passes through this period to get to work. But she however made her choice on the best person to get a car for.

Please, what is your opinion about this. I don't even know what to say.