So I have a question. Is it a must for your significant other, (boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, fiancée, etc.) to say the words "I love you" as a declaration of their love?

As an author, I personally like to hear it and I take that decision for my characters,

In my first book, A Heart to Mend, Edward struggled with the words, he was the macho type, very arrogant and self sufficient, and felt gifts and actions would do. But in the end, he realized the error of his ways and declared it in words. In the upcoming Ghost of the Past (BTW, this title will be changed) Kevwe is softer, the more emotional and verbally demonstrative type and used the words several times to reassure Efe of his love. In both books, the women loved to hear the words, in fact, Gladys in AHTM insisted on it as a condition for Edward asking her to marry him.

What about you? Must they say it?

If yes, when? Before or after the relationship/marriage, all the time, once a week/month? Daily? Will you stop dating them if they don't? If they've stopped saying it, will you notice? Will it become a bone of contention?

Have a great weekend all.

Livedit, personally loves to hear that she is loved.  But not only just that, but also to SHOW me by backing it up with ACTIONS.  Don't mutter the words if you don't mean it.  Just like my signature says: Say what you mean and mean what you say.  Some people find it very difficult to utter those words, but it's nothing like speaking the word "love".  It's nothing more powerful.  Even for those who have trouble saying "I love you", by all means, write it down on a piece of paper/card etc and give it to that special someone.  I think everyone should get into the habit of saying those words.  Again, as long as you mean it.  Nobody wants to hear a phony or a liar.  Don't mislead anyone.  Be truthful to yourself and to that person.  My fiance and I tell each other we love each other everyday.  So definitely, if he stopped telling me he loved me, then of course that would draw suspicion and I'll need to ask him and find out why.

@poster
its nice to hear it but IMHO it is not a necessity. the most important is to SHOW me the love rather than voice it.
any fool can say I love you and not even know the meaning of the damn word.

You're not serious at all!

Mr, Cork:

Its against the PLAYA's code!!

Mr, Cork:

Its against the PLAYA's code!!

u ar very correct. I luv 2say it n luv 2 hear though. If u dnt say it 2m u dnt luv d peshan

it feels good to hear it, but its more important to feel it !!!

I totally agree!

hope247:

it feels good to hear it, but its more important to feel it !!!