In all or any terms (personality, beliefs/values, appearance, etc.) for a person you are considering, like, or love?

I, personally, don't want to change for anyone as I find that very false. I'd like to remain true to myself, and if that means denying someone a closer friendship, so be it. The chances of me finding someone who can accept me for who I am are greater than if I actually give this person a chance see whether he's willing to adapt or I'm actually willing to change.

Thoughts? Personal experiences? 2 cents? This post is vague, thus all opinions, thoughts, notions, etc., are welcome.

OG how far?
Permit me to deposit! :-D
#topic
Well as for me, i'm not willing to change or paint a false appearance about who I'm all in the name of being accepted by a mere human being. Humas are imperfect, and one's personal sentiments shouldn't be used as a yardstick in judging or rating another person.
Its simple, accept me the way i'm or carry your busy body waka

I like being my authentic self.

^
Authentic In what sense?

Why are you talking to me? Arrggh.

change ke , heck no only changes i wud make is change d colour of my weave  

Mrs, Chima:

Why are you talking to me? Arrggh.

Mrs, Chima I know you miss'd my company, miss'd yours too. dats why we both keep creating avenues for reconciliations.

@Badosky,
Omo sexy watsup?

hey orty lala :Ddont derail d mamas thread but am sound boo

So to greet you don become crime

**walks away feeling sad**

awwh boo , boooo come for hugs ndo no mind me

You've got to change to some extent if you want a successful relationship. I dunno. I feel "accept me for me" is a bit of a copout.

Change isn't bad, if it leads to becoming a better person.

Well said eku_bear.

I just added a poll.

I was born in the US so some of my views are more liberal than the average Nigerian. I don't go to church either. This guy is asking too much of me in my opinion. I don't just believe in things because I want to, because I want to be different, or because other people are. I have and uphold my values because I've experienced some thing or some things; there is always reason behind it. I feel that what he's asking me to do is change my way of life to appease him and his parents. Quite frankly, I can't live a life like that.

I know some people are willing to change, either a little or a lot. If I have a flaw, then I'll say I have a flaw. Like someone said earlier, no one is perfect. If he was asking me to lose weight or cut my hair, then fine, that's physical and a discussion can follow lol. He has his beliefs and ideas. What he believes in doesn't bother me. Every day though, he's at me about my beliefs and values. I'm getting annoyed is all. I'm not copping out, trust me. I can look myself in the mirror and say I was wrong and correct a situation, but to change who I am in terms of mind and thought is unrealistic.

ogugua88:

I just added a poll.

I was born in the US so some of my views are more liberal than the average Nigerian. I don't go to church either. This guy is asking too much of me in my opinion. I don't just believe in things because I want to, because I want to be different, or because other people are. I have and uphold my values because I've experienced some thing or some things; there is always reason behind it. I feel that what he's asking me to do is change my way of life to appease him and his parents. Quite frankly, I can't live a life like that.

I know some people are willing to change, either a little or a lot. If I have a flaw, then I'll say I have a flaw. Like someone said earlier, no one is perfect. If he was asking me to lose weight or cut my hair, then fine, that's physical and a discussion can follow lol. He has his beliefs and ideas. What he believes in doesn't bother me. Every day though, he's at me about my beliefs and values. I'm getting annoyed is all. I'm not copping out, trust me. I can look myself in the mirror and say I was wrong and correct a situation, but to change who I am in terms of mind and thought is unrealistic.

So in short, he wants you to go to church and do religious things X, Y and Z? Maybe abstain from A, B and C?

I still think life is about give and take. Trust me, you are going to end up making him do some boring @ss sh1t he doesn't want to do. But he'll end up doing w/o much complaining.

Basically, you'll end up changing a bit, but he will too. So long as everything is fair and even-handed, no wahala.

If Its a bad habit and not good for our health I'll definitely change.

Tell him to get lost

You are too cute and too liberal to change for any one jare, after all, you were born in the US, and too sophisticated to change.

In times like this, you need Wande Coal. Next time he comes ate you , tell him to shove it, "who born the maga"


Is he Nigerian? Was he born in the US like you?


We need more info sweet heart. . . how old are you by the way?

Lol. Na you talk am ohh.

He is Nigerian, from Anambra like me but he was born there; I was born in California.

I don't want to say too much sha. Just venting as the thing really annoyed me today. I'm backwards. Some people have their hearts broken from break-ups and such. That one no be my wahala. Instead, my heart breaks when someone can't accept me for who I am lol. I'm very open anyway. It's wrong of me to expect such back but I do. Can't help it as I'm only human. I can tolerate most people anyway. I want to say I can tolerate anyone but I'll say most people before Mr. Cork & Co., bring wahala to my thread.

I'm old enough. No stress that matter abeg lol.

anambra?

i thought you were edo, urhobo or itsekiri, from the name.

@ topic

something the parties involved have to work out.

Really? I'm Igbo dear, hybrid like some say lol. Dad from Anambra, momsy from Delta.

My poll is dead even

ogugua88:

Really? I'm Igbo dear, hybrid like some say lol. Dad from Anambra, momsy from Delta.

My poll is dead even

Did you just call Tpiah dear?

Tpiah can give birth to you ten times over.

You need to be more respectful sweet heart!

fstranger6:

Did you just call Tpiah dear?

Tpiah can give birth to you ten times over.

You need to be more respectful sweet heart!

I can call anyone dear, regardless of age, gender, etc. Why you dey make noise?

ogugua88:

I can call anyone dear, regardless of age, gender, etc. Why you dey make noise?

It is disrespectful and unafrican

You can call your teachers dear in Obodo-oyinbo, please dont do that here

PS: If your parents failed to teach you good home training, be rest assured I will teach it to you here and you will learn it by force by force, trust me young girl!

fstranger6:

Did you just call Tpiah dear?

Tpiah can give birth to you ten times over.

You need to be more respectful sweet heart!

aww laugh don kill me oo your comment made me remember some
yankee girls comparing 9ja parents to American parents on youtube  lol  


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z8jLOnRvZaE&feature=related

fstranger6:

It is disrespectful and unafrican

You can call your teachers dear in Obodo-oyinbo, please dont do that here

PS: If your parents failed to teach you good home training, be rest assured I will teach it to you here and you will learn it by force by force, trust me young girl!

Mechie onu. Parrot. Tpiah has not complained. When and if she complains, then I will retract the affectionate pronoun to which you have taken so much offense. Do not derail this thread any further.

All this because I called Tpiah "dear"? Lol.

A few hours ago, she was PRETTY. Now, she is manly?  

OP, ignore him.  He hates it!

Jay beee

You've deleted my posts again

DID you not see where she insulted me

How is this fair to moi

You are getting on my nerves and dont let me go personal with you okay

Dont act like I dont know where you live

I am just saying!

^^^Women are allowed to bash,insult and kick our azzes but we are not allowed to retaliate
So keep your mouth shut up.

Kay Baba
I only deleted it cos u quoted fstranger's post

@fstranger
please tone down all 'em insults. They are really uncalled for