GboyegaD:


It all depends on what the individual thinks. A divorce doesn't mess your credit if you do the right thing so why can't you start again? It is the system, I know it, and it isn't about miracles happening.

I think it will be very difficult for you to see my point of view because you're in Nigeria. Once you get to certain age in U.S. you can't even get a job even if you're white American not to talk about Nigerian. At age of 40s and above your divorce will cost you untold hardship in life, once you divorce your wife in America, your life is finished (UNLESS ) you're very very lucky to have a good. Because she will end up with the house and you still be responsible for the upkeep of the children. So now, tell me where will you get money to maintain yourself and your family back in Nigeria? Infact, i knew the guy that kill his wife and mother in law in Tennessee. The guy died in prison about 3years ago in Nashville prison.

lefulefu:
lol i get ur point .I have an elder cousin who moved to the uk in the mid eighties.He"s still there till now.While he was there he didnt upgrade himself but was doing one menial job or the other there.Till now it is the HND in art that he had in nigeria before he moved to the uk that he still has.He paints and does other art jobs then with some small menial job.While he was there members of the family back home in nigeria were urging to come back home and marry a home based woman..some were even looking for home base to arrange for him as wife to marry but he refused.he eventually married a british yoruba lady.You know all those nigerians whose parents are immigrants and gave birth to them in the uk but they have never been to nigeria.members of the family were disappointed when he married her but some were happy.They still married till now and he has big dauther who is a graduate.Maybe if this my elder cousin had listened and brought a home base with him to uk he would be amongst these nigerian men crying and wailing cos their home based wife has played them a fast one .But then this my elder cousin wasnt a doctor or doing some big time job there but he was still able to get a good woman there who married him.

the question is now,can the children visit nigeria?most people re scared of marrying oyibo because they re scared thier children wont even visit nigeria so because of that they want someone who will atleast knw that Nigeria is their home,when u have kids that does nt come home or knw his place does it make u fufilled as a man?

GMBuhari:
May you not marry a witch

Someone who was so angry that he knows if he breaks the law there he cant bribe his way through , i know of a couple , husband does not beat his wife but will shout till the whole neigborhood will wake up , and what normally causes it ? whenever he gives his wife presents, maybe money or gifts and tell her to go have a nice time, she will always screw up , for instance this lockdown, he gave her about 80k , told her to buy bedspread and some baby stuffs, believe me this wife left since morning, came back in the evening, she didn't buy baby food, she bought curtain no bed spread, so where was she all morning till evening ? worst still she took their young baby along, and it was very very cold that day

the husband kept saying this is all she does all the time


stpry seems unrelated but my point is the husband is very frustrated and feels unappreciated , now imagine a disobedient wife taking husband's money building a house for her parents from husband's sweat( did i mention wife's unemployed?) giving command, going out and coming late, endangering their baby with cold and possible corona infection ??


needless to say he wants her out of his house now , then the whole neigborhood started begging the husband , assuring her she would change , what that man must have endured is beyond what he shared , you could see in his eyes he was in pain, frustrated and tired of having to fight over the same thing everytime

RIP to the dead but some women can be witches

The man will soon die from shouting or maybe stroke. He better drive her away or live apart.

Generalizing

Kobojunkie:
Are you at all sane?

Look in a mirror and ask yourself.

alphaNomega:


Your brother must be like a simpleton like AZeD1 and hammer8. Let him carry his cross.

My dad of blessed memory warned him against marrying that lady.But of course so called love evaded his reasoning.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:

Shut the fućk up! Is that why she should also take his house and turn his kids against him?

Definitely. Rude. Ill mannered human beings.

Amanda4life:
THATS WHAT MOST NIGERIAN WOMEN ARE DOING.

ESPECIALLY THOSE NURSE'S.

ONCE THEY GET THERE , THEY WILL GROW WINGS

Yes. That is the right of every human being.
Honestly!! The sense
Of male entitlement in this thread is unbelievable!

This is the result of
Pride
Accumulated anger
Nonchallancy
Being Disrespectful
Betrayal
Trying to be smart
Unforgiving spirit
Stupidity
Distrust

Etc

First, may her soul rest in peace. Perhaps its a terrible trend going south and if not checked there will be thousands of motherless Nigeria children in the US with hopeless fathers.

Many of these problems are generated by the wives family and mothers and they hatred accumulates over time. They feel a sense of entitlement in their daughters houses immediately she gets married even before they couple familiarize themselves, they have started teaching her all manners of tricks and lies.

This leads to the poor ladies loosing concentration at home . they are most times on phone calls with their mothers who don't feel that allowing these ladies to learn the new way of life with their husbands is the way to go. Some of these ladies even after a minor issue just call their mothers straight who is already on her way to move her things out of her matrimonial home.

The self confidence starts building for the lady and the man start to complain. However if prevailed upon to be patient without the real cause been treated, hatred starts building up and it eventually degenerates into this kind of mess.

There is s need for women to be very careful cos this kind of man that killed his wife and called the police in himself might has well thought over it that let everyone die and he wound loose.

They must learn to embrace the way of our mothers in the 80's-90's where submission and respect to their husbands has given them the much needed long life they desire and prosperity. In those days even when your father was misbehaving you just continue to tell your mother to ignore him and there is no way you won't send your mother extra money. Even the man without telling him knows that he won't benefit from most things you have and may end up sending emissaries bro you to beg you.

This other point centers on betrayals. It is both ways. Some men travel abroad and never look back to the lady that gave out her support and they end up in the hands of people that will punish them and they won't be able to say a word. While some of them who have married back at home will not only look back to help the poor woman back at home . But if you see the kind of hopeless lifestyle they are living amongst their peers, fear will grip you.
While on the other side some ladies take a very risk by trying to dump the man that brought them where they are because of some little money they have. They start taking decisions on their own without any form of approval from the husband. They go out and come back late without explanation. They mingle with hopeless and careless women with similar character who teach them all manners of lies , deceptions etc.
The man starts complaining as the head of the house to no avail and he becomes more or less a useless man under his own roof only to discover that he has been duped.
A case of thousands of single mothers in the US and Europe because everyone want to build storey building back home.
In all these cases he keeps complaining and gets no positive response and the anger keeps building up.

........later

Xxxx

Nuel4:
That's the only way out of the evil Western marital system. If you are going to scam me of my property and money with the help of the government and a simp judge send me to jail for a Petty or made up offence, you go to the grave while I go to jail. You ain't fuccking some loser on my bed in my home

What of the kids

ohh yes i am very close to my kids. my ex talk to me sometimes. we talk, but i have moved on. and i am doing better. all we had together then , i just let it go. i used to love her so much because i married her at a very young age. we where both young. she was 22 then and i was 27. i used to luv her so much then. instead of killing her or doing something bad, i was just fucking girls around to get her off my mind. untill i met a single parent young lady that stopped me and married me. 12 yrs younger. ex is jealous and single but i am married to a young single beautiful young blood. we are going to 10 years now.

nokatakata:
The women will continue to get killed gruesomely if they don't change their evil ways. How can someone work hard , bring you all the way from Nigeria to the USA or UK with him, assists you in going to school and when you get a job, the next thing is to start treating him like trash and wanting a divorce so you could own everything he laboured to get for years. Most me especially Africans will hardly accept that bullsh.it. they'll rather kill the woman and get killed as well. No winner. If you leave them back in Naija while sending money to them, they will say you have abandoned them and married someone else. You struggle to bring them to join you, then they betray you. Ogun kill any woman wey attempt that nonsense with me. Na juju I go use finish her and return he back to Naija. If juju no work, we die there.
But if the nursing was giving the women so much money, why can't the men also go to nursing school so they can also make the plenty money.

To go nursing school no easy ooo. Who won train the man. Person when dy hustle make him family chop, how he won take go nursing school.

Korllami007:


You de mind them. Dem think say nursing course na social study that one village girl with just SSCE will come do and pass am like that.

I'm amazed.
We were in our 4th yr in the Uni when my roomies bro abroad started pressuring her to help him find a wife, particularly one from the health field.

Yrs later I would understand.

kizyalex10:
thats the curse of staying abroad,once u relocate eh,it will be like ur facebook has entered friend request default,girls will flood ur facebook especially nurses advertising themselves,u will mistake that for love, but they re only looking for escape route to poverty ,u will see a local nurse eliza that u will manage to bring out from obscurity use ur hard savings to train her to a qualified nurse amd when she is done then she will remember that she is earning more than u or u re a cab driver or security etc nd overnight d same quiet innocent girl turna a tiger trying to devour you,calling d shots here nd there all in an attempt to fustrate ur life for divorce,and once u divorce her,she moves on with another man and with ur little peanut u still pay child support nd she enjoy free dicks while u pay nd with ur meager money,u cant afford to have another relationship or marriage.if u leave them in Nigeria out of d fear i stated above,most will still use ur hard earned money,nd d fleet of cars nd house u left for them behind to flirt with fuckboys ,and if they re brainwashed very well, they might even kill u on arrival nd elope with their lover.such is d curse of people living abroad,it takes only a God fearing woman which is very scarce in our country to get such a woman dat will be humble nd reciprocate all d sacrifice u sacrificed for her

The problem is that woman hardly reciprocate sacrifice a man made for her. If you like cut your flesh and start selling it to pay for her school fees, apartment, feeding, that won't stop her from leaving you.
Is it not the same Nigeria a guy will see a girl through a university and after she graduates, na dumping things.

I read a story of a guy that sponsored her girlfriend that has no ambition of going to tertiary institution because her parents are very poor. He started sponsoring her through SSCE till she graduated. She even gained admission to the same university the guy went to. But after the girl graduated, the girl japa with one rich man for her town and marry him.

The guy go wan run mad sha.

If you like make you de sell your blood to feed a girl thinking that she sees your sacrifice, she no see anything, na only you de see your own sacrifice.
Na your family go be the only one to see the sacrifice you make for them.

This is what most men don't understand.

raphy:
tht money is good as a RN I think my wife will be a nurse in America when we land there .


no body should mention me here money runs the world.

Body go tell you.Just watch

LadySarah:


I'm amazed.
We were in our 4th yr in the Uni when my roomies bro abroad started pressuring her to help him find a wife, particularly one from the health field.

Yrs later I would understand.

The thing just de funny to me. How many village girl de do SSCE talk more of passing it?
No be the same village girls come cities de do housemaid? How many of them can even construct two sentences together in English?

Most girls going to USA from Nigeria to study nursing are well learned and experienced person. Some people that have in the system find it hard to pass the nursing, na one village girl that can't speak anything aside her dialect will pass it.

Why would someone gamble with more than $20,000 to $30,000 to sponsor a village girl that has no experience in health field, whereas there are more than hundred of thousands of girls in health field that have higher percentage of passing the course in Nigeria.

The man will leave the girls in the health field that are expericed in health care and spend thousands of dollars on girl that cannot even spell chloroquine. Abeg, what kind of stupidity is that?
Nursing in USA has become a joke to this people.

It seems like their own "village girl" has different meaning.

FRANKOSKI:
MARRY YOUR FRIEND

There's simply no sense in this

jojoseph:


I think it will be very difficult for you to see my point of view because you're in Nigeria. Once you get to certain age in U.S. you can't even get a job even if you're white American not to talk about Nigerian. At age of 40s and above your divorce will cost you untold hardship in life, once you divorce your wife in America, your life is finished (UNLESS ) you're very very lucky to have a good. Because she will end up with the house and you still be responsible for the upkeep of the children. So now, tell me where will you get money to maintain yourself and your family back in Nigeria? Infact, i knew the guy that kill his wife and mother in law in Tennessee. The guy died in prison about 3years ago in Nashville prison.

Charles Emesibe and Ibiene Emesibe

Korllami007:


The thing just de funny to me. How many village girl de do SSCE talk more of passing it?
No be the same village girls come cities de do housemaid? How many of them can even construct two sentences together in English?

Most girls going to USA from Nigeria to study nursing are well learned and experienced person. Some people that have in the system find it hard to pass the nursing, na one village girl that can't speak anything aside her dialect will pass it.

Why would someone gamble with more than $20,000 to $30,000 to sponsor a village girl that has no experience in health field, whereas there are more than hundred of thousands of girls in health field that have higher percentage of passing the course in Nigeria.

The man will leave the girls in the health field that are expericed in health care and spend thousands of dollars on girl that cannot even spell chloroquine. Abeg, what kind of stupidity is that?
Nursing in USA has become a joke to this people.

It seems like their own "village girl" has different meaning.

What are you saying please?

Joshkouture:


What are you saying please?

The person I quoted understand it.

Daum:



To go nursing school no easy ooo. Who won train the man. Person when dy hustle make him family chop, how he won take go nursing school.

Exactly it will be difficult for the man to school and pay bills of family at the same time, reason he hustle while she schools, so when she's done and start making the money she can help out, since she is young and a woman she has a better chance to excel. It is simple.

mrchineke:


This ALMIGHTY is sitting down watching evil reign all over the world. Are we sure he is there at all?

To show you how far and deep is the wickedness of men, God sent many of His ancient servants to save us, they were murdered. Some narrowly escaped and lived an isolated life.

Till He sent His own son (as mightier as He is, yet humbled himself in man's form), still He was murdered as though no man had power over His life, yet he submitted Himself for our eternal redemption unto His kingdom.

The effects of harsh troubles of the world we are facing today is despite the fact we are "forgiven" of our sins as believers, it doesn't exclude us from consequences of the world's wickedness (be it little or much). YOU WERE ALSO PARTAKER OF THE EVIL BEFORE BEING SAVED (not only them, na all of us scatter everything in one way or the other). The joy is that at the end of life, old things would be passed away since you were already forgiven..

Our Nigerian guys are set to go and marry one of the divorced RN right away after this Coronavirus wahala.

Visa loading....

mofedamijo:


But if the nursing was giving the women so much money, why can't the men also go to nursing school so they can also make the plenty money.

Quite sad about these stories. However, to help you answer the above. These men left Nigeria to the U.S, on getting there, there was no time for school because no money. So, they went straight to hustle.com. They started working and hustling. when the money started rolling in, they went straight for a house. Now, when you start paying the mortgage, you don't wanna stop working to go to school, so, they hustle for 10-18 (depending) years of their lives to pay fully for a house, get their citizenship or PR. By then, they are in their 40s, no time for school again. Also, not everyone likes nursing. When you have spent years of your life to hustle, help your spouse to the U.S, the best thing is to equip her so that she doesn't hustle hard like you did. You sponsor her to school and all other expenses, then upon graduation and finding a good job, i believe that such women should help the family and ease the man's financial burden, alas..............the rest is history.

You said it all, the men expect them to help out.

FRANKOSKI:
MARRY YOUR FRIEND

You make me laugh!

Friend ke? Not after she starts getting the dollar.

This is the reason Christiano Ronaldo no gree marry that him girlfriend Georgina..
The man is only trying to protect his wealth. He cannot come and lose half of his wealth to some Lady who doesn't know how hard he worked to make it. Smart move.

There is different between freedom and ingrate. You can be free anywhere but hurting a finger that made you who you are is not what we call freedom. It hurts than fire and many have lost life subject to this same reason.

I so much feel for the Family. Example: Put your self in a simple shoe by inviting your frind from the village to live with you in the city, then latter he or she conived with the Landlord and push you put of your house you rented, deny you access to your home etc there is no way this will not hurt you to be honest. Let alone a wife do that to you.

Killing is not justify to this matter though but when commenting please let us put the interest of the Man and the Woman in heart. Truly this family is finished and for just these bellow reasons.

1) Man brings in his life an enemy that ruined his life, career etc

2) Woman married a man that cut short her life due to huge of hanger etc.

I so much feel for both of them. This is common in western world.

My Opinion Advice to Men That Are Not Married:
Please If you can not be very very very tolerance,

1) Don't take woman from village to abroad. Its either you marry some of the ladies grew up there both of you already know how the system works.

Or Don't even marry at all if you can, because it not mandatory. All this marriage stuff is Overated matter. Just get Baby Mama. Women are the most humble people b4 marriage but after marriage most of them become Terrow or Wolf...

I am speaking the truth and its always bitter.

Take and make use some of my opinion and trash out some that u don't need.

We that are married know that marriage is really overrated. Mostly when you marry a wrong person. Its a Prison on its own where people suffering & smelling... Selfish interest is order of the day.

Don't forget my advice. If you love freedom so so much, design how you want to regulate your marriage b4 you even jump into it.

Finally: In oyinbo film, there marriages looks perfect but in real life most of them live in bondage.

I feel for the man also feel for the Lady.
Peace.

joseph1832:
I believe some Nigerian men abroad likes to keep their wives here in Nigeria, because they're afraid of what they might do, when they discover what it truly mean to be free.

Rest In Peace Lady.

joseph1832:
I believe some Nigerian men abroad likes to keep their wives here in Nigeria, because they're afraid of what they might do, when they discover what it truly mean to be free.

Rest In Peace Lady.

That's not freedom. Not being submissive cannot be tagged freedom. If u want freedom, marry urself or better still stay in ur father's house and make babies. Dont flex muscle with someone in his house cos u know the law will favour u.Someone has to be in charge for any family to move on that's probably the man. Argue with ur bible.