Atreides:

@Pweety,yeah i'm in college. Freshie.
And LOL at meeting him in some dark cage. You know we even talked about it-he was like,maybe i'll come see him in his hotel room(jokingly) and i was like,you wish. Not while i still have a brain in my head. And he's like,yeah,he knows-he was jus messing with me. The plan was i give him directions to a restaurant/fast-food place/whatever-just an open place,and my sisters could even come along(cos being so close means i talk about my family so it's almost like he knows them).
@tingles,the fear of the unknown is there,but i think it's more like the fear of change. I just feel like something will happen. I get this feeling like he's still into me and what if he makes a move,and then there's a shift and everything changes. Dude i just wanted to meet up with a friend,gist a bit and go my way. I don't want to deal with any 'feelings',i don't want a relationship-i like things just the way they are. And i want them to stay that way.

@Atreides Yea i so get it, fear of the unknown basically, from his side & urs, i dunno about u making it a sisters affair?

Lol just go mehn. . .if u don't u won't ever know, i know its sucks not being able to control what some1 may do

Pweety4me:

Go with roki she get plenty experience for this kind tin

rokiatu:

yes Ooo I have met load of guys offline

ogugua88:

Atreides na wa o. You sound like myself lol.

I have a friend online and actually met him last month. You will regret it if you don't. I say go for it And meet in a public place, if possible. If not, then have him come to your family's house lol. The friend I met actually visited my family and I while we were staying with my aunty.

rokiatu:

Sound like a nice guy.

But as you know, many people have different personality on - line.


If you must meet him, lower your expectations, as to avoid disappointment. Meet him in a crowded place, (me and you know you are so small so do not take such risk) in fact go with a friend two if possible.

Atreides:

OMG you sound like me too! Before the 'revelation' we were also considering him coming to our family house just to say hi to everybody first.

rokiatu:

Atreides, sorry hunni . . . I am just trying to save your small head

Pweety4me:

@Atre How tall is the dude? & is he fit(body wise)?

Atreides:

I'm fit too. Though i don't know why that matters-it's not like we're gonna be doing anything with it.

Pweety4me:

Lol cool down, i meant your height baby girl

Atreides:


Okay. I don't know how tall i am exactly(lol). Maybe 5'8,5'9? I'm still growing taller.

Atreides:

Okay so this is a serious topic and i would very much like serious responses.
About 2 years ago(early 2009) i met this guy on fb. We met on a group page for a show and after a bit he sent me a friend request and we started talking. We have a lot in common-same taste in books,novels,he's funny,he listens,etc etc. I'm not gonna say he's the only one who understands me or any of that romance novel crap because he's not. I have a great family. I'm close to my dad,i'm verry close to my sisters(even though they're older we're like the evil triplets cos we're soo in sync),my best friend's a guy,he's crazy(like batsh*it crazy)but he's dependable;i call him and he's there. I have friends,a social life-my point is,i'm not some lonely,dark serial killer-esque teenager;my life is good. There are lots of people who i can talk to and there are lots of people who understand me-he's just one of them.
He's also older;not with 15 years or something(because that would be gross),but he's significantly older. I've always been able to relate very well to people older than i am so his age was never an issue. Sometimes i'm under a lot of pressure(from my parents,teachers,etc)to get to a certain point,achieve certain goals,and i work well under pressure but it's still pressure. When i talk to him the pressure kinda lessens,it's like he's a safety valve. Or something. He's different from all the guys around me,he's more experienced,he's really intellectual(like he's smart and he helps me with school stuff and we talk politics etc etc),he's cute(not hot,but cUte). So(obviously)i crushed on him(like in 2009). But that's the good thing about crushes-they go away after a bit. Mine did. We stopped talking for a while(in early 2010) because i was busy with my exams and all,but after my exams we started talking again. Somehow the fact that he crushed on me came up,and then i admitted that i crushed on him too at the same time. I was like why didn't he say anything at the time,and he was like he didn't wanna be the creepy online stalker guy who hits on teenage school-girls,and we laughed over it. Before this mutual revelation,he said he was coming to Lagos for work(he lives in Gh) and that would i meet him? And i was like suure,that'd be cool. But when this revelation occured i started to feel awkward about it. Luckily for me,i got the call to start school(Finally!) a few weeks ago and so i left Lagos. In my mind i was thinking,well fate doesnt want us to meet and that's that,only for him to say would i mind it if he took a flight to Benin to come see me?
Right now i'm just having second thoughts about the whole thing. I know he's a good guy-and yes,i know people you meet online can pretend and all that,but people you meet in person can pretend as well. I know he's not some lecherous 60 year old grandpa because we talk,on the phone,we skype,i know he's who he says he is. In the over 2 years we've known each other,he's never crossed any lines,never made any inappropriate suggestions or anything like that-he's just a really good friend who i enjoy talking to. He's the guy who's helped me out with some school stuff,pushed me past my writer's block,just been there. I like to think i'm a good judge of character. The only problem is,now,i'm not sure i wanna meet him.
If you were me,what would you do?
Would you physically meet a person you met online?

Maybe you should really consider giving him a chance. Meet with him and see what he has to offer.

But make sure you play it safe. Go with someone else, preferably, a guy. Cheers!