Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

It's possible to do so, because I took the risk from my house wife,I sponsored her for school and waited for seven years before sex.it is not easy sha, but if the guy truly love her he would stay no matter what.tell her never to compromise her virginity for gifts from someone.it as a reward if she can let her husband be the lucky guy.i am living witness InshaAllah.

Better know what you are going into. Marry a spouse that hates sex or lazy sexually, you will have problems later on. Test what you want to spend the rest of your life with if you are adaptable

Do do anything with people who don’t want sex in a relationship. They are very self centered and selfish. That’s the sign. Avoid them like plaque.
How can you date someone who puts sex ahead of everything in a relationship.
There are certain things far more important than sex but they chose to focus and use sex as the ground for morality or attracts God’s blessings in the relationship. Tufia. The last two I tried didn’t end well. If you both have good intentions sex creates a bond. Anything you do together will work.

CalliDora1:
Capital NO!

Only wordly men and sinners practice premarital sex. Take it or leave it!

Morally speaking, it is not good. Keep your chastity. It pays.

Bullshit. There is nothing wrong with premarital sex. Nothing.

fati2001:
NO








PREMARITAL SEX IS A SIN AND UNHOLY ACT....









DON'T SIN AGAINST YOUR BODY (THE TEMPLE OF GOD)

THAT'S ALL I HAVE TO SAY.

premarital spending is also a SIN lol,mehn SEX is necessary...o unless you will stop collecting his money and other valuables because you will still be fuckin other men behind him

In all honesty sex will not keep the man and less be honest here. All that stuff he is doing for her, those manly things. He is doing it to get in her paints. I do like Virgins, I wouldn't want anything that will compromise that. If he wants the girl that much then he should put a ring on it and do right by her..

This is not pump and dump material.

yes o, very mandatory

CalliDora1:
Capital NO!

Only wordly men and sinners practice premarital sex. Take it or leave it!

Spirituality asides. Sex does not keep a man or determine a successful relationship or marriage.

Morally speaking, it is not good. Keep your chastity. It pays.

mama d mama tuale pretender na dem dey worst pass make una no mind mama they will shock u with styles during sex

MJBOLT:

relationship is for sex,if you are not ready to fvck then stay away from it.

You ur matter just be like weather, sometimes u go make sense, sometimes you no go make sense. You need ALLAH

Good day readers ,
We shouldn't forget that we are sojourner in this world we find ourselves in.
We have a course if we must enjoy the life after(heaven).
Nothing is worth a man's soul. A little act of immorality can jeopardise one future/destiny. A few minutes of 'so called' enjoyment can lead u to eternal damnation (hell).
Sex is certified for married people only. Anyone can say anything else but the bible remains the truth.
Sex isn't a prove of love . It has never been.
Genuine love is God's love which is agape( without a condition).
Be careful not to fall into sin.

quote author=Misslilbootay post=96995045]I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.[/quote]

its not compulsory,

but how can I be looking at her sexy banging body and hold back... The art of seduction will activate subconsciously and that subconscious sabi work

No. The only necessary thing is domestic violence.

Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

You should also answer these questions below

1. Can a lady stay in a relationship without the boyfriend spending on her? Ask urself, won't you see it as boring and go with someone else who would spend and spoil you ?

2 why is money and gift so important to ladies in a relationship ?

3 Also ,most men wants a decent lady who would not be a parasite, gluttonous and snitch and the man would also want to keep his money till the wedding proper . So , since you ladies don't want an akagum guy, why do you demand for materials things your father and parents never provided when you know say laslas it won't work out?

What an irrelevant question.

Nazgul:
To me sex isn't necessary.

From my past relationships, if I'm to advice any girl I'll tell them to avoid sex and stand on it. Sex makes you suspicious of your partner. It makes you have unnecessary problems, unnecessary commitments, unnecessary responsibilities.... etc. How many guys would you keep offering your body to just to make them stay?

What makes most guys wants sex is when the financial demand from the girl becomes too much. Most girls will tell you that they're not ready for sex, but will still want you to show dedicated financial commitments towards them. No guy will ever agree to that.

Many girls naturally lack wisdom. Let me share a my own experience here. I met this girl some years ago, she told me her usual no sex till marriage. I asked her if she's a virgin she said no that she dated just one guy who broke her heart and now she has decided to zip up till her wedding night.

To me, I didn't have any problem with that. My problem was that this girl literally flirts on the phone with guys even in my presence. When I confront her she'll tell me they're just toasters that she doesn't have anything with them. She receives calls like a call center agent. Always on Facebook and WhatsApp till even midnight. And to make matters worse she's the urgent 2k type. So tell me would any guy in my shoes honour her request to date without sex....of course not. I had to end the whole stuff cos she wasn't contributing to my life in anyway. Most times I initiate a discussion with her on chat, she can't even sustain it without indirectly telling me one problem or the other she has.

My take...if you don't want sex in a relationship and you don't want to have any problem with your man concerning your stand, then avoid unnecessary request so it won't make him feel that you're owing him. Avoid flirting with other guys on phone and in reality. Concentrate on your relationship by looking for ways to make an impact in his life. It could be through business ideas, could be counseling, could be partnership in business, education...etc. also develop yourself. Let him see that your life is progressing. That you're successful in whatever it is that you're into.

Make him see you as someone he can't do without and he'll stick to you regardless of your no sex stand.

Wise words

Uzomacharles:


Please eeh

Can you date a guy with no dick?

This is for those saying sex is not important in a relationship..

If you ain't ready for sex while indulging in a relationship

You sound foolish! Sorry to say

Can you buy a car without test drive?

olujastro:
The real question should be....what will you doing with your partner that you spend a lot of time with apart from talking and hanging out? Una go talk tire ehn!

They’ll study the Bible and pray all night.
Nonsense and hypocrisy

Here in Naija my country. Relationship is give and take. How can a guy be fitting your bills for nothing. What if you dump him tomorrow for another man, that means he is the one losing. But it might work for some people.

Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

Absolutely yes.

CalliDora1:
Capital NO!

Only wordly men and sinners practice premarital sex. Take it or leave it!

Spirituality asides. Sex does not keep a man or determine a successful relationship or marriage.

Morally speaking, it is not good. Keep your chastity. It pays.

It's just d same way it is unGODLY to expect a man that is not your father to take care of u or spend on u.

have some dignity, it pays.

CalliDora1:
Capital NO!

Only wordly men and sinners practice premarital sex. Take it or leave it!

Spirituality asides. Sex does not keep a man or determine a successful relationship or marriage.

Morally speaking, it is not good. Keep your chastity. It pays.

Okay o, spirit. Please tell me what a girl can give in a relationship.

Let me drop my own contribution on this wonderful question. You see first of all, any relationship that one wants to get in should lead to marriage cos that's the importance of being in a relationship.

So i encourage any relationship that has been based on mutual consent by both the male and female that it will lead to something meaningful.

Almost every normal human being usually have urge for sex on rare occasions which was how Almighty God created us. That urge to have sex, when it comes ehn... the feeling is outta this world and the temptation to satisfy that feeling is intense.. Thus relationship aids the satisfaction.

So sex is necessary to ease these urges...

My take

BiGVEEN58:
Don't do anything with people who don’t want sex in a relationship. They are very self centered and selfish. That’s the sign. Avoid them like plaque.

Boys who want to learn should take this advice. We be men wey don play the game retire sef. This guy here knows what he is talking about.

Avoid any girl with this 'no sex relationship' mentality. But when you're dating a sexually available and 'willing to please' girl, you must also avoid asking her stupid questions about her sexual past, or judging her. If her personality is sweet enough and she obviously has basic sense, that's all you need. Don't be a virgin hunter. It will end in tears. Just be a mature man with street smarts

This is why the bible says that we must not be unequally yoke with unbelievers. Any man demanding for sex before marriage is not a believer. Any man who can't wait till after the marriage is not a believer. So you can use this criterion to judge your man's level of commitment to God. Tell your friend not to desperate. If she yield herself to him, she has lost her christian integrity. What if she yield to his demand and there is a turn of events tomorrow. How do you recover your lost integrity before him. You will never have the boldness to declare your faith before him.
.

Misslilbootay:


God didn't mention relationship but he did say fornication is a sin he will judge by himself.

Can you see a lady and just marry her without first doing courtship?

that's the problem I have currently having with a rwanda lady ,she doesn't want sex ,but we spend the night in a hotel ,and since she say no sex and I personally asked her ,what do you really want she said relationship and my intention before was fuvk and move on though she claims she loves me ,and I also have little affection for her ,
since no sex according to her for now ,then I don't have to take care of any bills

Misslilbootay:


God didn't mention relationship but he did say fornication is a sin he will judge by himself.

Can you see a lady and just marry her without first doing courtship?

that's the problem I have currently having with a rwanda lady ,she doesn't want sex ,but we spend the night in a hotel ,and since she say no sex and I personally asked her ,what do you really want she said relationship and my intention before was fuvk and move on though she claims she loves me ,and I also have little affection for her ,
since no sex according to her for now ,then I don't have to take care of any bills

NO its not! In my church when a brother finds the will of God in a sister, all he has to do is seek her consent if she agrees then they both go to the church marriage committee. then if the marriage committee gives in, then comes the courtship which should be guided by the holy spirit so as not to fall into temptation cuz yes temptation must surely come but no one should fall for it.

And my bible tells me that woman who keeps herself and her bed undifiled till marriage shall be loved and honored by her husband and God himself but the one who doesn't shall be judged

If you don't want to have sex then stay outta relationship! That's my advice.

olujastro:
The real question should be....what will you doing with your partner that you spend a lot of time with apart from talking and hanging out? Una go talk tire ehn!

you don talk am finish