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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Sixfeetbelle: 6:43pm On Dec 18, 2020
selfmadeOLX:


Did you ask for his assistance then he outrightly refused to help you out
OR
Did you assume he wasn’t sensitive enough to know you were in need

But he should be sensitive enough to know otherwise why are they in a relationship in the first place?

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Sixfeetbelle: 6:47pm On Dec 18, 2020
chinwe1245:


Nigeria men are so stinging

Some can be giving, but it depends cause their generosity has a reason. Only few are really charitable.
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Hassanmaye(m): 6:49pm On Dec 18, 2020
MrColdsweat:
The difference between us.

When a man has money, he looks to improve his woman, invest in her and help her grow.

When a woman has money, she doesn't need a man.

Men ronu!!!
Exactly or let me ask in your life have you ever had a Nigerian woman who went abroad and come back to marry her struggling boyfriend? Or a rich Nigerian woman marrying a struggling guy? Never, even in there dreams, so thank God men have wake up now, no more scam of love lol men need to be pampered too

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by meobizy(f): 6:57pm On Dec 18, 2020
Get yourself a Love Machine and kick him to the curb. It's obvious he's around to fulfill only your physical needs.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by chinchonglee(m): 7:02pm On Dec 18, 2020
Nnemuka:

E painam grin grin
Is your mum at menopause suicidal cheesy cheesy cheesy
Abi is she frustrated?

Leave me out of your family issues grin grin
Naso

Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Christian07(m): 7:07pm On Dec 18, 2020
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?

After you done loss money to scammer you naw want to stress the gentlemen to give you money to give another scammer is that so

And you expect him to come And b booking hall for wedding soon

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by selfmadeOLX(m): 7:08pm On Dec 18, 2020
Sixfeetbelle:


But he should be sensitive enough to know otherwise why are they in a relationship in the first place?

It’s easier and healthier to ask than to assume or conclude
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Sixfeetbelle: 7:11pm On Dec 18, 2020
selfmadeOLX:


It’s easier and healthier to ask than to assume or conclude

Why do people get into relationships nowadays if a partner's problems can't be deduced?

I will never understand what I'm doing in this generation

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Geofavor(m): 7:13pm On Dec 18, 2020
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?
You already said it yourself: he isn't your father.

Please let the young man go, since you cannot fend for yourself and think that's his responsibility, even when he hasn't married you. That's what most girls/ladies would do anyway. So, own up to it and stop trying to act like you're different.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by selfmadeOLX(m): 7:23pm On Dec 18, 2020
Sixfeetbelle:


Why do people get into relationships nowadays if a partner's problems can't be deduced?

I will never understand what I'm doing in this generation

You are too entitled! Ego?

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by BluntTheApostle(m): 7:26pm On Dec 18, 2020
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?

Perhaps, he didn't help because he didn't have.

But I have questions.

Does he work?

If yes, what type of work?

Is it a well paying job?

It is important for you to know that this man is not a miser.
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Sixfeetbelle: 7:28pm On Dec 18, 2020
selfmadeOLX:


You are too entitled! Ego?

Entitled? Over my partner's insensitivity? Definitely.

I find it weird that people are being excused for being oblivious of each others problems when they're supposedly in a relationship. You're dating this person. You should be able to at least sense when they're not their usual self.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by harmony75: 7:33pm On Dec 18, 2020
A friend in need is a friend indeed naw you need support he's not there for you, that's why I wonder this una dating rubbish. you're not yet ready for marriage but you're wasting your time dating?!?! work, study,learn a trade and make money.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Biingoo: 7:33pm On Dec 18, 2020
Nnemuka:

Compliments of the season Ify
Enjoy yourself
How 25th go be? I won eat fried rice and turkey cheesy
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Roseey0(f): 7:43pm On Dec 18, 2020
Ollyb10:
I'm in this situation, planning to break up tho, but I wouldn't do that again, will talk to him first as u'v said. Thanks so much, Op doesn't know she has helped people like me also with this thread.
I just pray I develop that courage to speak cos I'm exactly like u described urself. But I'l try, God will continue to bless ur home.


Amen.
Once you start, it gets easier. Been there. Most guys know how to spoil women naturally due to their flirty nature. But there is this few subset that just doesnt know how. But they can be taught. Just try before you give up. That's what I did and still doing.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Emanodimo(m): 7:49pm On Dec 18, 2020
cooooooks:
You got involved in a scam and want to use the results of your decision to scapegoat your supposed boo.

These streets are crazy.

Study well and read your books, let someone not greedily lose money to a scam and write epistle o.

Funny enough, someone has shared the same script here. ... Just want to create topic.

Now based on her story shebi...of what use has she be of benefits to the super story guy?

What support hàs the guy benefit financially from her that makes her feel she deserve a good return?

What achievement has the guy gained in the relationship with her?
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Whitecoal711: 7:52pm On Dec 18, 2020
Wait till we hear from his own side of the story
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Coinbased: 8:10pm On Dec 18, 2020
You are meant to do everything for yourself no man is ATM if he does things for you it shouldn’t be against his will , stop the african poor mentality

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Nobody: 8:11pm On Dec 18, 2020
duduade:
But when he wants to chop you his role in your life is active abi


Abeg break up with him

Let both parties move on individually

May you experience what having a working and proper Sense Is like In your lifetime......

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by femi4: 8:14pm On Dec 18, 2020
Sixfeetbelle:


Shouldn't a relationship help out when you're in need?
It should, but going into a relationship with that motive is wrong.

Relationship shouldn't be the gateway to escape poverty

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by cooooooks(m): 8:26pm On Dec 18, 2020
Women in the elder generation were working.


All the women in my extended family were and are working. None of them expected to be dependent on their husbands.

Some of them even out earned their husbands.

Sixfeetbelle:


Why do people get into relationships nowadays if a partner's problems can't be deduced?

I will never understand what I'm doing in this generation
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by cooooooks(m): 8:27pm On Dec 18, 2020
You don't need all that space to define prostitution Nne.

Lucyspa:



Babe, u re a girl, so u have inner instincts that speak to you in times of troubles. The main reason you even came here to talk about this issue is because it is bothering you already and that is not a good sign. A man who loves will willingly do things for you without you having to ask. I don't think that man loves you to be honest. I've been in this sort of situation before and it didn't take long before i broke up with him. That relationship made me unhappy and constantly tired. Infact, before i broke up with him, i started dating this guy that spoilt me silly and i became happy. The greatest need of an average Nigerian guy in a relationship is SEX while that of a woman is constant care and money. If you constantly give a man sex while he doesn't give u care and money, u will be unhappy like u are now. U can talk to him and see his reply. If he doesn't give you a reasonable reply, prepare ur mind for a breakup

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by cosmos2000(m): 8:36pm On Dec 18, 2020
4ckyou:


Guy relax and calm down, I believe you read the part where she mentioned that her guy is broke too.
Eh I mean she should focus on herself and regain her financial stability
Leave the guy with his own wahala.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by DrayZee: 8:38pm On Dec 18, 2020
Sixfeetbelle:


But he should be sensitive enough to know otherwise why are they in a relationship in the first place?

Fine...he wasn’t sensitive enough to know she needed help. That’s a problem.
Should her next line of action be to breakup, or to clarify the situation at hand?
The girl already knows what she wants to do. She just wants to hear other people agree with her.

@ Danyyyyyyyyyyy
It’s not a crime to break up with someone just because he’s broke. It might be shallow, but it’s not a crime. Do what your heart tells you is best.

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Worksunlimited: 8:43pm On Dec 18, 2020
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:
So we've been together for some months, almost a year now and well my current financial state is making me have doubts about our relationship, he's also not stable according to him but a lot of times I doubt that even if he was he probably won't tell me, or he'll leave me to do it all.

I don't demand anything from him, he's not my dad, I loved him so I always try to act like a grown woman even when I need help, but after losing sooooo much money in a scam I'm so broke that I barely have money to eat. He knows this but he didn't do anything to help, that's how I've been living like I'm single. I do every thing for myself but it's not been easy.

Do you think it's okay to let him go and focus on me? Because I really don't understand his role in my life anymore, or should I try to wait while working and see if he's different in the future?

Move on
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by sweet7oyin(m): 8:47pm On Dec 18, 2020
Zzor:
As you were forming independent he got used to not helping you, move on he does not cherish you
your first like is saying its not his fault
The next line is saying he dosent cherish her
Lol
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Intoboy(m): 8:49pm On Dec 18, 2020
Well... going forward
Nobody owes you shit...dis is apparently wat every demn person shud av in mind.
He might be your boyfriend,buh in as much as he's not owing you money i see no reason why he shud give you money...
Bfor we go into a relationship we shud vividly know wat it entails please,you saying he isn't useful in your life bcus he didn't support you financially means you're into dat relationship bcus you needed support
He is just your boyfriend and not your husband,if he has not helped you yet you shud knw he doesn't have,not all men men open their mouth to tell people wat they go through,he might be going tru a lot dat you don't even knw
Please change the way you think or else you'll leave ur next bf for some stupid reason again

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Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 8:58pm On Dec 18, 2020
Shortyy:
First of all, why are you with him? Is it love? Infatuation? Lust? His personality? The sex? wink or the money?

Answer this question and I'll tell you what to do.

His personality , that's what attracted me to him
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 9:26pm On Dec 18, 2020
DaInferno:
ANOTHER PERSPECTIVE- I Lost a lot of money this year too on the quest to make it; never faulted her or wondered about her usefulness in my life because it isn't her fault though, still sent her a little money when she needed some. Not planning to move on yet, but am still focused on myself. so ask him first,if he has and doesn't give you,you can move on. you get the point now?

If she could do something and she didn't do it, you would feel bad, if I could do something I definitely would
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Shortyy(f): 9:28pm On Dec 18, 2020
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:


His personality , that's what attracted me to him

What kind of person is he? Describe him to me.
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by LOVELYSKINZNEW(f): 9:29pm On Dec 18, 2020
auntie u knw d tin wey ur mind do am
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Shortyy(f): 9:29pm On Dec 18, 2020
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:


His personality , that's what attracted me to him

What kind of person is he? Describe his personality to me.

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