Stats: 3,191,128 members, 7,943,065 topics. Date: Sunday, 08 September 2024 at 02:15 AM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? (38395 Views)
I Crush On My Colleague: Should I Let Her Know Or Should I Keep This To Myself? / Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships / Ladies Do You Step In Or Let Him Handle It Himself? (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) ... (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) (Reply) (Go Down)
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Sixfeetbelle: 9:46pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
cooooooks: What's the connection between 'sensing' when things aren't alright with your partner and women working? |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Sixfeetbelle: 9:47pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
femi4: In this case here where she has a need, it isn't the motive so why the crucifixion? |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Nobody: 9:54pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Cutehector:my brother I tire ooooo. All this broke and jobless girls have turn relationships to cash out. |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Pasiuba: 10:05pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Don't let go of your relationship B/C ur guy couldn't help u wen you were down, it could be that he didn't have at that time or that he feels you are not so broke as you were. you can just let him know that you are broke and you needed his support and wait for his response.i believe no sensible man would refuse to help his woman especially if she is not the demanding and the one that feels entitled to benefits for loving them.so i advice you to speak to him when this type of thing happen again let him know you are not bouyant don't assume he sees things himself.goodluck 1 Like |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by simeko(m): 10:40pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy: What are you even saying, madam hear yourself, |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by samwillyco1(m): 10:49pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy: Just sit him down and talk about your peoples relationship and ask him what future holds for you in his life, be serious put emotions aside and get your answers or better ask him whom you are in his life ask him to think about it before answering the question be mean emotions should be put aside, his responses will determine your next move. |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 11:27pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
jaxxy:Well he confided in me sometime that his business wasn't going so well, And it was bothering him , I was able to get some of my friends to help out , and they did , he appreciated it of course, during this time I was okay at my own side , I was trying to refer him around too, so now I got quite unlucky and I literally fell out of balance, I exhausted everyone on my emergency help list before I swallowed my pride and revealed my unpleasant situation to him, we talked about it , but after the talk he left me to my fate , I didn't bother asking him about it , I still managed but something serious happened and I needed whatever it was I could get , after disturbing ppl as usual I came to him and told him what happened , I can't give details here , he did not even budge , he just asked this and that and then avoided it , which is why I felt like maybe now that I'm weak I should stay away and fix myself, I find it hard because I really love him a lot but it seems so....wrong |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 11:29pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: No sex involved yet |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 11:31pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Hamiltonii: Funny how wrong you are |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Nicepoker(m): 11:36pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
[s] Zzor:[/s] |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by tommy20: 11:47pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Your story isn't explicit enough. He is not financially stable? His he working presently? Has he for once gift you something without you asking? If yes, did you appreciate the little gift he gave? Guys are. Are you the type that brag in his presence that you have enough money to take care of yourself before the scam issue? What exactly is the guy doing for you to still love despite his stinginess (base on your story) |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by jaxxy(m): 11:59pm On Dec 18, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy: Since uve been dating him what’s the best thing or most memorable thing he’s done for u?? It’s almost a year now. It doesn’t have to be expensive bt must be impressive. I’m asking cos nobody truely loves without giving Smtn. It’s impossible. Even when u don’t have u try to make an effort. I’m trying to know if this guy loves u the way the way u love him or even loves u at all. I don’t have time for guessing or bullshit. Call a spade a freaking spade. Let me even ask u why do u love him? When Ure not sure he loves u? What qualities do u see? I’m sure he has or are u just lonely?? At the end of the day there’s no reason a partner shudnt help out Aslong as its not overly done and abused. U helped him out so why can’t he or atleast try? Has he made any efforts? Is he still incapable or is he just irresponsible?? U need to know who ure dealing with or dating. ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Exodora: 12:00am On Dec 19, 2020 |
Nonexistent1:He is not financially stable does not mean that he can't offer help even when he knows that she can barely feed as a result of the scam. I don't know why some people will know the truth but rather conceal it. |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Exodora: 12:05am On Dec 19, 2020 |
DrayZee:Do you even know what happened when a person is scammed. Have you ever wondered if she borrowed the scammed money and how she will pay back . |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Exodora: 12:08am On Dec 19, 2020 |
Shortyy:Even after you read she loves him so much and all quotes you are still asking this question . I really feel for you oooo |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 12:09am On Dec 19, 2020 |
![]() tommy20: I've never received a gift No I never even told him I was doing anything, I only told him after it went bad, he assumed maybe my family were doing it, and he had a good job before now but even then he was the same as he is now , but it was early I felt he was trying to Make sure that he could trust me , so it didn't bother me , you know , now its almost a year and still wondering He told me from beginning that he loved women who are more like assets than liabilities , so I felt like maybe we could work together , told him about my plans , the listened to all of them and that's what made me start liking, he has his way with words too but now everything is just "words" Presently I can say he's okay , coz my friend that works with him informed me of the business they've been doing , but he said that he's only paying debts 1 Like |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Tallyman(m): 12:18am On Dec 19, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy: My dear please walk away. Walk on your self. You need a man who truly loves and care for you. Love must be expressed. |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Danyyyyyyyyyyy: 12:19am On Dec 19, 2020 |
jaxxy: I really don't know why I love him, we just had good conversations and we liked the same things in the beginning , the day we met was very funny and I just got attracted to his outward gentleman self, he's also very smart , but he was better as a friend than a boyfriend, he's a nice guy , the only thing we haven't done is sex and my friends have warned me non-stop to not try it coz it might be what he wanted , omo I just weak , honestly if I knew sooner it would've been easier to leave, now its like if I leave it'll be like I left coz I don't love him or I left because he's broke but we can't just be like that na |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by jaxxy(m): 12:30am On Dec 19, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy: All the things u mentioned are nice bt not enough for Smtn serious. Commitment goes beyond funny jokes. If sm1 loves u they don’t need sex to show or prove it to u. Love is selfless to a large extent. And sex isn’t love. In other words there’s nothing memorable he has done bedsides being funny?? Ok If he can’t move a finger for u he’s probably not serious about u. Point blank. If u want to waste ur time any further ure free. I’m not going to say if he loves u or not bt the doubts are very strong. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by emmaodet: 1:49am On Dec 19, 2020 |
chinchonglee: ![]() Chaii |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by emmaodet: 1:59am On Dec 19, 2020 |
Lucyspa: Nawaaaaaa for nija relationship. Money for hand, back for ground pattern. I pity men wey dey carry relationship for head like gala. Las las, everybody go dey ok |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by emmaodet: 2:03am On Dec 19, 2020 |
pcguru1: And don't you think it will even be worse to still cry in poverty after all your efforts chasing money yet not making it and without a reasonable relationship also? There is no guarantee of even living a good life if you break up and go solo. |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by samwise180(m): 2:35am On Dec 19, 2020 |
Only when you love him you let him go |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by focus7: 3:12am On Dec 19, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy: Let the irresponsible guy go, a man need to care for his lady or at least show concern when doesn't have |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by cooooooks(m): 3:43am On Dec 19, 2020 |
What is the connection between 'deducing' a partner's problems and being born in this generation? Sixfeetbelle: |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by kepstone: 5:33am On Dec 19, 2020 |
Honestly I am afraid to get into relationship with a Nigerian Girl of this generation. Relationship has become so transactional were if you don't have the true colour of a lady comes out. What is relationship? In Nigeria it's money and sex. There exceptional ladies, but I have never met one. I am in a situation right now we're my girl is walking away from me despite all I have done. One Left me like that after payment of school fees and helping her get skills. Guyz please let's wisen up before we keep falling into this so call scam called love. The only person you are obligated to take care of is your wife, your sister and mum. I don't comprehend this entitled mentality of our ladies towards money. That's how they leave their God ordained spouse and marry the wrong person cause of money. Please walk out of his life and count your loss Opp it seems your love for him can't be sustained except you benefit. I agree no matter how small a guy should do and show concern for his girl. But trust me nobody owes you anything in this world especially money. You have to figure your way out and work your self up the ladder. After my experience I will never again involved money in relationship again. My friend got married after 3 years of dating his girl and never gave her a dime she was rather the one giving him cash. Today he has given her over 12m in cash to just keep for herself. Most of our ladies are parasitic, finding a wife in Nigeria is truly hard. Everything now is money money money Please just walk away out of his life and let him meet the one meant for him you have tried . 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Kalatium(m): 7:17am On Dec 19, 2020 |
Zzor:This is the repercussions of claiming an independent woman. She will just die in silence. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Nobody: 7:23am On Dec 19, 2020 |
emmaodet: I guess it depends on the partner I have, if she's very understanding but I believe a smart person can never go broke for long. |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Lucyspa: 7:23am On Dec 19, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy: HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU. IT'S A HARD PILL TO SWALLOW BUT BABE, IT'S THE TRUTH. BETTER JAPA NOW. MAKE NOBODY USE YOU OOOO. |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Lucyspa: 7:30am On Dec 19, 2020 |
jaxxy: Am so happy u re telling her the truth unlike the other guys that are bashing her and telling her lies ontop of it all. The guy doesn't like her. Forget all his talks about wanting a girlfriend who is an asset rather than a liability. If he sees a slay queen that he loves, he will squander all his money on her and even borrow to top it all just to impress her. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by Lucyspa: 7:32am On Dec 19, 2020 |
emmaodet: Yes ooo. Learnt bitterly after my first experience. |
Re: Should I Let Him Go Or Should I Stay And Try? by unmask: 7:36am On Dec 19, 2020 |
Danyyyyyyyyyyy:are you asking if you should focus on yourself? Really? |
(1) (2) (3) ... (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) (Reply)
Do You Believe in Love At First Sight? / LADIES! What Job Or Profession Of A Man Can Make You Not Date Or Marry Him?? / Kenny Brandmuse Scared Of Returning To Nigeria
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 80 |