PeaceIlya:
There’s a woman in my COMPOUND, she’s 33 and insists she doesn’t want children because she has “no maternal desires.”

She got a puppy, has birthday parties for the dog, claims the dog experiences child phases, and cooks meals for the dog every day.

Gonna be sad when the dog dies.

Posts:
Yes it's compulsory if you want to have a peaceful and reasonable life

pozehnani:
Well... Since the Bible commands it, it's compulsory.

For me personally, if you can't find someone you're happy with, don't go into it because you'll still jump out or end up being miserable.

It's not a do or die affair. I'm single and very happy with peace of mind that most married people don't have as a result of the kind of marriage they find themselves.

Righteousness2:


My Sister, Marriage is not a Commandments! But it is good to Marry!
It's one of the ways GOD Almighty Created us to have Pleasure and also to replenish the Earth.

Marriage is not by Force! But it is adviced that for us not to engage in fleshly lust and iniquity that will lead us to Destruction, it is good to marry.
If you do not want to marry, and you can maintain yourself without committing evil, it's not a Sin.

RisenPhoenix1:
No. In fact, there are some women who should be forbidden from getting married.

DontBullshitMe:
Marriage and childbirth are 2 distinctive actions that must not necessarily go hand in hand.

If she has no desire for childbirth, she can opt for marriage for exclusive companionship.

I think majority of Nigerians will find that kind of arrangement very weird. We all saw what happened with the Wellington's.

Personally, If I ever get married, I won't give birth. On the contrary, if I do give birth, I won't get married.

pozehnani:



How can you say it's not a command? Then what does the statement "go into the world and multiply" mean? Is it not a command? Also, it was God who instituted marriage. So??

Your last paragraph was according to apostle Paul and the same Paul made us to understand the commands that are his and the ones made by God at every point.

Zobah:
The TEN commandment how many are keeping it today

pozehnani:


Im not about keeping it or not. All I'm saying is, since it's a command from God it's compulsory.

Zobah:
So also are the ten commandments and it compulsory

Zobah:
Warning: This might hurt your view.

No. Marriage is not at all necessary. I have no offence against the people who get married. It’s just my belief that I think marriage doesn’t play an important part in an individual’s life and one should not be enforced to get married against their will.

But, Yes, there are society norms which expect a woman or a man to get married once they reach a certain age. But again, if an individual feel that he/she should not get married in life then why their decision can’t be respected? Is it that hard?

According to me, marriage doesn’t bring out any sort of difference in two individuals.

Let’s say A and B are women of 30 years age. A is married and B isn’t.

1) A works hard. She looks after her family, husband, and children, also does her job, contributes to the family financially and does the entire household.

2) B is pursuing her job, does her household work, and is capable of meeting her financial needs. Instead of looking for her other half, she decided to piece herself together.

This doesn’t make me respect A more and B less. For me both are working hard and playing their roles very well. A chose to get married and B didn’t. B chose to go for the life which she wanted. Who knows that B might have gone against the society norms in order to achieve the life she wanted? Or, perhaps her family might have supported her.

It’s a matter of choice. And they both used their liberty to make their own choices.

Considering the existing norms in our society, the decision taken by B must have gone through numerous turmoils or perhaps is still going. But, she was determined and had the courage to stand by her decision.

Marriage: Society forces it down your throat until you choke on it. Do not let it happen to you if you do not want it. Don’t follow the crowd for the sake of it.

There are numerous individuals who did not choose to marry and are still happy and satisfied with their life.

One of the actresses I highly admire in Nigeria. She adopted two daughters and is blissfully single. She is a perfect example of a woman who is leading a life on her own terms like a boss.

pozehnani:
Well... Since the Bible commands it, it's compulsory.

For me personally, if you can't find someone you're happy with, don't go into it because you'll still jump out or end up being miserable.

It's not a do or die affair. I'm single and very happy with peace of mind that most married people don't have as a result of the kind of marriage they find themselves.

Klass99:


You just described me and I love dogs too, but do not have one yet. I am also certain we are not neighbours.

Believe it or not, there are women like me and her, who do not have that maternal desire at all, it's not pretence, it's not spiritual, it's not feminism and it's not medical or health related either. We just do not desire children.

To answer your question/topic of the thread - marriage and children are life choices, not goals or achievements we all have to meet in order to unlock happiness or the adult phase of our lives. I saw this on NL some time ago and I absolutely agreed with it then and still do.

cococandy:
I don’t think the Bible commands it. But you can prove me wrong sha

pozehnani:


"Go ye into the world, replenish it and multiply" is a statement of command na?