lecturer50:
Please house I need an advice.

Ever since I got a federal government job,

my relatives have been disturbing me for money.

There must always be an issue that involves money which they want me to solve.

Recently, my mom become sick.

They are threatening me that I would be held responsible if my mom dies,if I don't make sure she is cured.

But I have taken her to hospitals, and she is trying to recover.

I do this whenever I visit home since I am working in a state far from home.

Her health challenge is due to old age.

But today my uncle called me that I should resign, get back to the village and personally take care of my mom,

failure of which,if she dies, the whole family would hold me responsible for choosing job over my mom.

Can you imagine resigning your federal job to get to the village and start staying?

The calls, the demands, the attacks are getting too much for me.

Please should I just switch off my phone so that no one can contact me?

I just need advice?

resign ke, no try am. are u the only child?
Be wary of ur uncle ooo

above all start praying oook


guy start to dey pray



Like some one said get a small provision for ur mum but let your extended family know u are not their responsibility. if u can bring ur mum to ur place. that will better.

block them

Simple. Do what I did: circulate the news that you have died, go for a face change and rotate without recognition. Works for me.

lecturer50:
What surprises me is that immediately I got the job, my mom started having health challenges.

I have observed it several times in different people.

When they are able to make a breakthrough in life (like getting a good job, graduation, financial breakthroughs),

something bad (like sickness or death) would affect their relatives, either the mom,dad,son, daughter or any close relative.

Please who else has noticed this, and why must it be so?

Bro, check that person wey talk say make you go resign.

Go evaluate am spiritually

lilvicky68:

Thumbs up.. family is everything

Well, based on your perspective...you are right tho, but very many times there are friends that are very MUCH more valuable than your OWN blood. hmmmm, varies FAMILY experience o

rollandben:

Well, based on your perspective...you are right tho, but very many times there are friends that are very MUCH more valuable than your OWN blood. hmmmm, varies FAMILY experience o

Yes in some cases.. I've come to a conclusion that maintaining good relationship with family is essential unless you have a wicked family then you can avoid them

chatinent:
Bros, you are not from Bethlehem!


If I were you, I'll set up a provision store for mom to minimise the monthly expectations.

I can easily relate to what you mean.


Advise everyone of your relatives to go and WORK! Make them know you have your own life to live.


To be great, you have to be stingy.

Because if you fall now, those people will still abuse you that there's nothing you did from your Federal job for so and so years. They'll forget you helped them!

Had I known this when I started work as a junior doctor, I'll have gone very far in life. They took advantage of my naivety and church mind.

I learnt the hard way thinking if I helped them, they'll remember me the day I fall. Actually they did the exact same thing in your last paragraph.

Since then, I've come to realise in this life, you don't always reap what you sow. The individual who said this life no balance get better oil for head...

Please take your mother out if that village.
Let her stay with you.get a nanny to take care of her.Dont step foot in that village any time soon with out spiritual protection.Your life is at risk from that your uncle.be careful.

lebete3000:


Had I known this when I started work as a junior doctor, I'll have gone very far in life. They took advantage of my naivety and church mind.

I learnt the hard way thinking if I helped them, they'll remember me the day I fall. Actually they did the exact same thing in your last paragraph.

Since then, I've come to realise in this life, you don't always reap what you sow. The individual who said this life no balance get better oil for head...

That's true.

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Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

Nairalanders, I don't need your likes and shares. Just read and pass.

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I don't think your brain was sensible enough to read, digest and understand op predicaments.
Those liking your post must be idiots too.

You have a federal job, your mom's health is giving issues... Your family is attacking you to resign and take care of her... And you re shaking? You ve gat the raba, find a good maid to take care of her... And pay the bills monthly, then you kantinue with your work and relax...

Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

Nairalanders, I don't need your likes and shares. Just read and pass.

100% RUBBISH!!!!!

lilvicky68:

Thumbs up.. family is everything

You will learn the HARD way!!!!

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Oizee:
don't mind that guy, this your issue is synonymous to what's happening to me presently. I wish you well in making the right decisions.

most of the numbers on my blocked list are my family members.... I'm sick and tired of their never ending demands...

Don’t allow them to destroy you bro!

OmejeGuy:


My Dad and I never talk this 2021. He wants me to be financing my sister's education. Hostel rent, laptop, feeding allowance while he cruise his Sienna with his second wife.

I refused to be used this year. Cut off mode activated. "The boy is good" has sent a lot to the grave.

Your papa is mad!!!! Sorry to say.

jesmond3945:
please do it if and only if you can. She is your blood.

Nonsense!!!

Why don’t you go and do it, or stop talking rubbish!!!

tiswell:
Op,just keep kwayet,!!





ordinary federal job and you won't truly help your relatives.


The spirit of giving is innate in some individuals while stinginess by choice.


We have been helping our not-so-privileged relatives since time immemorial, and we haven't complained about it, hence the benevolence of the mother nature to us.

Too many idiots on Nairaland

maximunimpact:


You are selfish and stingy. I know someone who have never gotten any free money in life but he shares all his wealth with family and friends and he's happy doing it. Common to take care of your mother a grown man is whinning on social media.

You obviously don’t have sense.

In life, the moment you start to step up, enemies starts to rise too. It's not your mother's health that bothers them, it's the fact that you now have a better stable job than the rest of them, if They are in the village and with your mum, what's wrong with them taking care of her while you support financially and also returns home

The truth is bitter, but it must be told, no one likes to see their parent grow old , but it's nature and there's this period of constant decline in health until their demise,.most times, illness tends to consume all the wealth on the family and yet the person still dies of it.

Old age related sickness has one cure and that's a peaceful end, there's nothing we can all do,but in the main time be sure to take care of them as they grow older, but do not lose your job because of that..

Don't listen to your uncle.
Mine is, invite your mum to ur base and take good care of her by a nurse.....
Wicked nd evil uncles every where ndi uchu

maximunimpact:



Don't let English language derail you bud. You can have many things double in this life, but your mother isn't one of them. Fucckers like you are the type that likes taking selfie with their mothers every mothers day to show off, but behind the camera you treat her like shit

Well you don't know me.

And I think you're the better Fu.cckkk.er than myself.

Just go make good use of your time and white making income, get sense..

ibedun:


You obviously don’t have sense.

Lol.

I thought I was the only one who noticed...

Oluwaseun2020:

I know you have made up your mind and only seeking validation from people in here. ive been there done that.
But i promise you...one day you will wake up to realize that blood is thick...and the level of thickness.

Why do you think Americans come back to Africa as poor as it is to seek their roots

Validation?

Just relax because you're taking in the nonsense.

Go check the moniker. You were probably running around with pants when I started using this platform.

And lastly, spend your time learning. Will save us the stress of reading rubbish each time we open this platform.

SpecialNwa:
Don't listen to your uncle.
Mine is, invite your mum to ur base and take good care of her by a nurse.....
Wicked nd evil uncles every where ndi uchu

Back again this evening to this topic and from the bulk of responses you can deduce that the majority as usual is wrong.
Contrary to po-op (popular opinion) I rather support the uncle...simply because of the mother's response strangely.
When you sit back and scan the scenario from above you begin to see why the family as a whole is under pressure.

The mother, the patriarch is virtually saying 'no problem my son, go solo, don't mind or care for us... be selfish' While the uncle is clearly making a call to sacrifice, the kind of call that tests the values of the young man.

I believe the truth of this matter lies somewhere between the mother and the uncle. The fact that help eludes them all says so much. They seem to be caught in a bubble of self, which only sees inadequacies and scarcity.

The question that should be asked is, do they have the courage to burst that bubble and start making sacrifices for one another as beyond.

I say today, there are folks out there whose parents are being graciously taken care offmby others, even strangrets because of the open, sacrificial, giving hearts of even their lineage past. There are people today who have buried their parents without spending a penny, wedded, sent their kids to school and other important activities of their lives without spending a die because someone somewhere was of immense value to someone or some people.

We are created as social beings, our very survival on earth depends on solidarity. Looking beyond the travails of this young man to the wider society you realise that we are still a long way from creating a socially secure and stable society.

For the young man. He should be careful because who goes round....
I don't call on him to resign but I call on him to find the ways and means of breaking that cycle of dependency by value based sacrifices.

Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

Nairalanders, I don't need your likes and shares. Just read and pass.

50% ko, 1000% ni. Nah you Village people send, tell them the guy no dey for house

lecturer50:


She is living alone.

I am not the only child.

There are others trying to make ends meet at different places in Nigeria.

I am the only one whose phone is always on whenever they are calling me from the village.

Others have got new lines which they don't want the other relatives to know due to their disturbance.

Whenever they visit my mom, they would stay with her and then go back.

If any of my relatives ask for their numbers, they give their old lines which they only switch on when they are in the village,

claiming that where they are working, their lines do not go through, since they are in remote areas.

Just follow the steps of your siblings. Provide for your mum as much as you can and whenever you want to call her, switch on your old love and use it after which you will switch it off. I guess she didn't die as your siblings are following that step but your uncle obviously wants to use your mum to run you down. Finally, don't even think of quitting your job. Similar thing happened to me so I repeat, don't think of quitting your job. You will still be mocked once you stop providing for them the moment you run dry while staying in the village.

Ebuka78:


A river that forgets it source will surely runs dry. You have to help your mum, God gave you that job to support your family.


If it were your girlfriend, you would help her without thinking twice.

You can divide your salary into half, and give your sister to start a Saloon business/ become a hair stylist.

The next salary, you divide it and assist your brothers or brother to open a trade.

In 3 months time, there wouldn't be pressure on you to help the family. It is not good for one person to be rich in a family, let the rich one help others to get rich.

You should send 50% of your last month salary to sustain your mum.


You don't know what she passed through before birthing you. She would never tell you.

Switch of your cell phone and regret it for life.

Send her half of your salary for her health and remain blessed for life.

Nairalanders, I don't need your likes and shares. Just read and pass.

Someone will just stay and start talking trash
Do u know what he does for his family...
How una dey take think self?

My advice... Shud in case of ur next achievement in life, learn to kip quiet about ur achievement because some family members no too get joy

U and ur siblings should take care of ur mum if they av the capacity but try to migrate her to where village pple won't come n b disturbing all d time. Advice mom to also kip her children profile low or "they are fine" is just okay.

Keep praying and don't relent.

Never think of leaving ur job. Beware of manipulation from the pit of hell

chatinent:
Bros, you are not from Bethlehem!


If I were you, I'll set up a provision store for mom to minimise the monthly expectations.

I can easily relate to what you mean.


Advise everyone of your relatives to go and WORK! Make them know you have your own life to live.


To be great, you have to be stingy.

Because if you fall now, those people will still abuse you that there's nothing you did from your Federal job for so and so years. They'll forget you helped them!

great idea!

kaboninc:


Validation?

Just relax because you're taking in the nonsense.

Go check the moniker. You were probably running around with pants when I started using this platform.

And lastly, spend your time learning. Will save us the stress of reading rubbish each time we open this platform.

We cant choose where God should place us as human. ... He is supreme and calls that order.
I know you may wish for a better family but know this...
God could put you in Nigeria or Russia or Germany...
If we get to choose. ..everyone will probably be in America the strongest country in the world....
Which is only a tiny part of the world. ..then who will fill the rest.?
if we all choose the best then who will be in Cuba or brazil or south africa or congo.. or benin

All God wants from us is to make the best of whatever he gives us.

He puts Moses in Egypt Strategically to help stubborn and demon worshiping Israelites. .

God is saying everything I have made is Good...
But if it appears bad...then someone is not standing to make it what it should.

he wants us to fight till its perfect.

As sinful as Isreal was... God said I will never turn away from isreal...never.
They kept the sins and he kept working at making them better.... from one city to another he sent his prophets


He send Jesus to sinners

if you think im small....
David was small...but he killed Goliat.
1 Samuel 17:33
And Saul said to David, Thou art not able to go against this Philistine to fight with him: for thou art but a youth, and he a man of war from his youth.

God can use anybody. ..even a donkey was used to stop balam from the edge of destruction. ...

doggedfighter:


You go fear sharing formula

I just need this