Sexual Urge Is Not Abnormal

Why do I have urge for sex?

Sexual urge is not only abnormal if you are not the one raising your self sexually.

Can I Be Raising Myself Sexually?
Why Not? If you feed your emotions, you will become sexually high and have urge for sex. You can feed your emotions through what you see, hear and think. If you watch sexual films like porn, blue films, love films etc. You will definitely have more sexual urges than normal. An adult is sexually active, these films will bring you into sexually urge more regularly. If you listen always to sexual and romantic talks, musics not for education, but for pleasure, you will be sexually high. And then, the heart has the capability of keeping in memory and remembering those things you have seen and heard, whereby making you think on them, and of course this will bring sexual urge. For example, you have said No to a sexual advance from a man, but you didn't stop him from communicating you. You enjoy his usual romantic talks: I love you, you are beautiful, you are sexy, you are one in a million etc. When you are alone, all these are capable of raising your emotions.
I was counselling a lady early this morning who told me that a guy was toasting her and has been disturbing her peace, the guy told her that the first time he meets her, he will have sex with her, but she said No, but they still use to talk, but to her surprise he came back asking her for money. Can you see that? For that, what counsel do she need. Just block the line of communication, that's all. Why tempting yourself? Simple!

Your Natural Urge is Normal!
As an adult, you are expected to have sexual urge naturally once in a while. Sexual urge is not only for the married. God is the author of sex. And of course he was the one that made body with sexual urge in preparation for a good sexual life when you get married. And so if you feel like having sex once in a while as an adult it is not abnormal. Most ladies around their ovulation or menstrual period do naturally have sexual urge. And most adults unmarried men do feel sexual urge very early in the morning. In fact if you don't have any sexual feelings at all as an adult preparing for marriage, it is not a good sign.

Sexual Urge for Non Virgins Are More!
If you are no longer a virgin lady or man, know that you will have sexual urge more. That you are saved and have repented from having pre marital sex does not free you from sexual urge. You need more carefulness from anything or anyone that may raise you sexually. The memories of the old sexual pleasure you had will always come to heart. Especially when you are in any environment that can trigger this.

What are the Environment that can trigger it?
*An ex-lover: your ex-lover that you had sex with before can trigger a a sexual urge. You have said 'good bye' let it remain good bye! No pity party. It's no joke to keep an ex-lover as a friend. You wanna go back to Egypt straight if you keep him or her as a friend. Don't play with fire.

*Pictures & Images of a Crush or ex lover
In the past, you lust after someone and called him or her your crush, don't keep his or her pictures. Also, all old chats and pictures of an ex lover should be discarded properly. If not, the memories of old sexual feelings and pleasures will come back.

*Delete all sex films and sex chats
Some people still keep videos of downloaded sex films of porns or some love film. Some even keep naked images of an ex lover etc. This is a good ground for regular temptations to watch and thereby increasing your chances of sexual urge and thereafter sex. These things are very good environment for sexual urge.

What do you do to your sexual urges?
You must not satisfy your sexual urge if you are not married. Many people think the only sinful act is "sex" to satisfy their sexual urge. And so when they feel an urge to have sex, they look for other means to be satisfied. A lots of virgins who have urge for sex satisfy their urge in many ways claiming virgins. If everyone can get satisfied sexually without having real sex, we may all remain virgins forever.
A lots of virgins masturbate when they feel sexual urge. A brother told me recently that her virgin fiancee called him to tell him that she has lost her virginity to masturbation recently seeking my counsel if he should continue the relationship. The brother also a virgin said he has been having several temptations to have sex with her since then. Can you see one of the disadvantages of masturbation here?
As much as the sexual urge is not abnormal it is not normal but sinful to satisfy your sexual urge through masturbation.
As a virgin, I use to have sexual urge around my ovulation period and during my menstrual periods.
First, when it comes, don't entertain that feelings. Brush the feelings aside by doing something constructive, especially if have being into masturbation before. Leave the position you are. You can't masturbate while doing some other things.
Get busy.
You can read the word of God.
You can pray.
You can wash.
You can cook.
You can go out to visit a good friend, considering the time it's happening.

Why Do Some People Overcome Easily?
As we have a lots of unmarried people satisfying their sexual urge through premarital sex and masturbations and other means, there are so many unmarried people that has never satisfied their sexual urge but are overcoming it every time. Some does not even see this as a problem at all. Why?
The kind of life you live daily produces sexual strength or weakness.
To stay strong, you must have a good relationship with God. You must build a consistent prayer life. You must develop a regular bible study life. You must take some time out regularly to fast and pray. It weakens the flesh and makes your spirit more active than the flesh. You must surround yourself with friends that has same vision of sexual purity with you. All you need to overcome is making the spirit having an edge over the flesh.

Also, *you must see obedience to God's word as a must*.
*Your spiritual growth and maturity is in obedience to God. Not your years in faith*.
*How far a man can obey God is a measure of his spiritual Strength, which stems from a good relationship with God.*
God bless you for reading this. You shall be an overcomer in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.
©Evang Kemi Longe.

Wetin person never chop,no dey hungry am.

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