| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by Juliane: 3:30pm On Apr 29, 2021 |
Polynek:
Opinion is like a nose everybody get His/Her own. I blv all dix advise from our friends here can help you make a decision. I wish you all the best Thanks. They have all been very helpful. I really needed to let it out. 1 Like |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by bigpicture001: 3:33pm On Apr 29, 2021 |
2017 till now is not far no.. Why wail like ur been waiting for 6years..if he doesn't comeback with money now.. U will still run.. Cuz as I know all girls, money comes firat |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by iRepNaija1: 3:33pm On Apr 29, 2021 |
OP, you should talk with him. Having him give you an actual, concrete plan could put your mind at ease about your future with him. What exactly is holding up his papers? What's the estimated time that could be completed? If he is being ambiguous about things, have a serious discussion about things being less ambiguous. Age is nothing but a number but there's no shame in letting someone you've been dating for four years know what you want (e.g. children, home, stability, whatever it is) and how you both, as a couple, are going to accomplish that or not. Good luck. 3 Likes |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by AwesomeStormy00(m): 3:46pm On Apr 29, 2021 |
Juliane:
He planned to come and visit last year but his papers are not ready yet and that’s what has been preventing us from seeing each other.
He asked me to try getting a visa to join him and he financed the whole process but in the end the visa was denied. My younger siblings are married with kids and I feel lonely at times. Should I keep waiting and watch the years pass us by like this?
Hi @Juliane quick question, why was your visa denied? 2) what do you mean his papers was not ready? 3) you talked everyday?? Time please nights morning afternoon or at anytime. Reply to these questions before any input. Take care |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by Hogan17: 4:00pm On Apr 29, 2021 |
Juliane:
Thanks. Please what is “Kayamanta”? It's that thing 1 Like |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by Aaaaarghmed(m): 4:32pm On Apr 29, 2021 |
Tell him to discuss with his kinsmen to see your people and do introductions.discuss with him to hasty his plans to come so you guys can travel back together 1 Like |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by AwesomeStormy00(m): 4:34pm On Apr 29, 2021 |
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| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by daniel7328(m): 1:44am On Apr 30, 2021 |
Juliane:
Thanks.
You are welcome Ma, if you need any advice am just a second away |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by femi4: 7:30am On Apr 30, 2021 |
Juliane:
Hello everyone! I need some advice concerning my relationship. I met a guy back in 2016 and we started dating. But after a year he migrated abroad and we decided to continue the relationship (long distance).
It has been going well. As a matter of fact we talk every single day and my family is aware of our relationship. He planned to come and visit last year but his papers are not ready yet and that’s what has been preventing us from seeing each other.
I work in an insurance company and I am financially independent but he still sends me gifts and helps me out financially on a regular basis. He is a caring and loyal person in general and I have been very grateful and loyal to him.
The difficult part is that we have been in this long distance relationship since 2017! We plan to get married once we’re able to be ‘physically’ together and I can’t imagine being married to anyone else but him. But we don’t know exactly how long the process would take. I am approaching 30 and even though I am not really the type that feels pressured about age, I know that I am not getting younger and I definitely feel the urge to spend time with the man I love and I feel like moving to the next level in our relationship. He has been begging me to be patient and has even promised my parents that he’s coming to marry me. I talk with his parents ans siblings regularly. He asked me to try getting a visa to join him and he financed the whole process but in the end the visa was denied. My younger siblings are married with kids and I feel lonely at times. Should I keep waiting and watch the years pass us by like this?
You should work on why you're denied visa |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by hosemujica: 9:21am On Apr 30, 2021 |
Juliane:
Hello everyone! I need some advice concerning my relationship. I met a guy back in 2016 and we started dating. But after a year he migrated abroad and we decided to continue the relationship (long distance).
It has been going well. As a matter of fact we talk every single day and my family is aware of our relationship. He planned to come and visit last year but his papers are not ready yet and that’s what has been preventing us from seeing each other.
I work in an insurance company and I am financially independent but he still sends me gifts and helps me out financially on a regular basis. He is a caring and loyal person in general and I have been very grateful and loyal to him.
The difficult part is that we have been in this long distance relationship since 2017! We plan to get married once we’re able to be ‘physically’ together and I can’t imagine being married to anyone else but him. But we don’t know exactly how long the process would take. I am approaching 30 and even though I am not really the type that feels pressured about age, I know that I am not getting younger and I definitely feel the urge to spend time with the man I love and I feel like moving to the next level in our relationship. He has been begging me to be patient and has even promised my parents that he’s coming to marry me. I talk with his parents ans siblings regularly. He asked me to try getting a visa to join him and he financed the whole process but in the end the visa was denied. My younger siblings are married with kids and I feel lonely at times. Should I keep waiting and watch the years pass us by like this?
Just be committed and prayerful it will eventually happen ,this abroad paper thing no easy really and from what you wrote up there it seems he's committed to you too. 1 Like |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by Juliane: 9:23am On Apr 30, 2021 |
bigpicture001:
2017 till now is not far no.. Why wail like ur been waiting for 6years..if he doesn't comeback with money now.. U will still run.. Cuz as I know all girls, money comes firat ok thanks. |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by Juliane: 9:40am On Apr 30, 2021 |
AwesomeStormy00:
Hi @Juliane quick question, why was your visa denied?
2) what do you mean his papers was not ready?
3) you talked everyday?? Time please nights morning afternoon or at anytime.
Reply to these questions before any input.
Take care
1) They didn’t give a direct reason. Most likely I wasn’t convincing enough. 2)There are certain documents he needs to get before getting the authorization to travel back and forth. 3)Lol. (Most people find it hard to believe that there is no day that we don’t talk). With the 5-6 hours difference we usually start chatting in the early afternoon (I have my own office at work and workload is not usually heavy so I can easily chat) , we call each other during my break and also at night before going to bed. |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by Lordave: 10:43am On Apr 30, 2021 |
Juliane:
Hello everyone! I need some advice concerning my relationship. I met a guy back in 2016 and we started dating. But after a year he migrated abroad and we decided to continue the relationship (long distance).
It has been going well. As a matter of fact we talk every single day and my family is aware of our relationship. He planned to come and visit last year but his papers are not ready yet and that’s what has been preventing us from seeing each other.
I work in an insurance company and I am financially independent but he still sends me gifts and helps me out financially on a regular basis. He is a caring and loyal person in general and I have been very grateful and loyal to him.
The difficult part is that we have been in this long distance relationship since 2017! We plan to get married once we’re able to be ‘physically’ together and I can’t imagine being married to anyone else but him. But we don’t know exactly how long the process would take. I am approaching 30 and even though I am not really the type that feels pressured about age, I know that I am not getting younger and I definitely feel the urge to spend time with the man I love and I feel like moving to the next level in our relationship. He has been begging me to be patient and has even promised my parents that he’s coming to marry me. I talk with his parents ans siblings regularly. He asked me to try getting a visa to join him and he financed the whole process but in the end the visa was denied. My younger siblings are married with kids and I feel lonely at times. Should I keep waiting and watch the years pass us by like this?
Really hope things workout for you as planned. |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by Juliane: 11:09am On Apr 30, 2021 |
bigpicture001:
2017 till now is not far no.. Why wail like ur been waiting for 6years..if he doesn't comeback with money now.. U will still run.. Cuz as I know all girls, money comes firat Thanks for your input. Well, I’m not actually ‘wailing’; I just felt the need to express my thoughts and get some opinions and advice... And so far it has been quite helpful. The opinions and advice given by strangers is sometimes more sincere and straightforward than those given by family and friends. And concerning money... yes money is an important aspect in everyone’s life. Both men and women prefer to have a partner that is up and doing with an income. That’s why we both work hard to make our money respectively. In the beginning of our relationship neither of us had a stable income but we stayed together and things got better. Btw, I send him gifts too on his birthday the same way he sends me gifts on mine. |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by bigpicture001: 11:18am On Apr 30, 2021 |
Juliane:
Thanks for your input. Well, I’m not actually ‘wailing’; I just felt the need to express my thoughts and get some opinions and advice... And so far it has been quite helpful. The opinions and advice given by strangers is sometimes more sincere and straightforward than those given by family and friends.
And concerning money... yes money is an important aspect in everyone’s life. Both men and women prefer to have a partner that is up and doing with an income. That’s why we both work hard to make our money respectively. In the beginning of our relationship neither of us had a stable income but we stayed together and things got better. Btw, I send him gifts too on his birthday the same way he sends me gifts on mine. Plz b a Lil bit more patient with him.. Men only call regularly only who is in their heart. He will come out good 1 Like |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by Lilpen3758: 11:46am On Apr 30, 2021 |
blinking001:
Interviewer :Which man in his right senses would want to still settle down with a woman that's already approaching 30 years?An expired evening newspaper for that matter
Me: a foolish low self esteemed Pussy wipped man.
Interviewer: you're Hired
Me: thanks sir, I'm grateful. You are wicked my guy |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by AwesomeStormy00(m): 3:20pm On Apr 30, 2021 |
Juliane:
1) They didn’t give a direct reason. Most likely I wasn’t convincing enough.
2)There are certain documents he needs to get before getting the authorization to travel back and forth.
3)Lol. (Most people find it hard to believe that there is no day that we don’t talk).
With the 5-6 hours difference we usually start chatting in the early afternoon (I have my own office at work and workload is not usually heavy so I can easily chat) , we call each other during my break and also at night before going to bed. 1) well sometimes that do happened sha but my advise is try apply again, this time use immigration lawyer let them help you to process your document. Yeah you may pay more but they know loophole they can use for you to get your visa. In any case if you visa office give you options to appeal any decision please go for it. Over 50% of people abroad got their visa through appeal. 2) certain document? Do you mean he doesn't have working permit on his visa? if you have working permit on your visa you can travel in and out of the country. In other word he your boyfriend might have over stayed his visa and he is trying to extend it through other means like assylum etc. ( please this is me typing based on my knowledge I'm not an expert ejoor) What you can do in this case is to apply for student visa, with student visa you are allow to bring people into the country it is known as dependant visa, so family member can come stay with you. Since your boyfriend is there already you get your visa travel down there sort out your registration then get married his status is going to change pleasw try speak to immigration lawyer to explain in details that aspect to you All the best, please do not give up. Good luck 1 Like |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by Juliane: 3:51pm On Apr 30, 2021 |
AwesomeStormy00:
1) well sometimes that do happened sha but my advise is try apply again, this time use immigration lawyer let them help you to process your document. Yeah you may pay more but they know loophole they can use for you to get your visa. In any case if you visa office give you options to appeal any decision please go for it. Over 50% of people abroad got their visa through appeal.
2) certain document? Do you mean he doesn't have working permit on his visa? if you have working permit on your visa you can travel in and out of the country. In other word he your boyfriend might have over stayed his visa and he is trying to extend it through other means like assylum etc. ( please this is me typing based on my knowledge I'm not an expert ejoor)
What you can do in this case is to apply for student visa, with student visa you are allow to bring people into the country it is known as dependant visa, so family member can come stay with you. Since your boyfriend is there already you get your visa travel down there sort out your registration then get married his status is going to change pleasw try speak to immigration lawyer to explain in details that aspect to you
All the best, please do not give up.
Good luck Thanks a lot. I really appreciate it. |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by kepstone: 4:40pm On Apr 30, 2021 |
Hmmm, Please dont throwaway this relationship with someone that makes you happy that tick all your boxes, its good that you both are committed to the relationship that has futuristic plans. Also please dont come too strong on hi about the issue of marriage or settling down, you can tactically use wisdom to pull out information and know the state of his mind towards your relationship as per leading to marriage. He is dealing with so many things right now and still communicating with you, you on the other hand has to be prayerful and abit understanding to allow things flow naturally. Age is just a number but beyond been a number is the fact that you have to be with someone your heart truly loves and yearns for. Dont trash a treasure because of pressure. All things will work out well if you listen to him well your guts and your spirit will tell you by premonitions were he stands in truth in your relationship so far i give him A+ 1 Like |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by Telstar: 4:47pm On Apr 30, 2021 |
Juliane:
Hello everyone! I need some advice concerning my relationship. I met a guy back in 2016 and we started dating. But after a year he migrated abroad and we decided to continue the relationship (long distance).
It has been going well. As a matter of fact we talk every single day and my family is aware of our relationship. He planned to come and visit last year but his papers are not ready yet and that’s what has been preventing us from seeing each other.
I work in an insurance company and I am financially independent but he still sends me gifts and helps me out financially on a regular basis. He is a caring and loyal person in general and I have been very grateful and loyal to him.
The difficult part is that we have been in this long distance relationship since 2017! We plan to get married once we’re able to be ‘physically’ together and I can’t imagine being married to anyone else but him. But we don’t know exactly how long the process would take. I am approaching 30 and even though I am not really the type that feels pressured about age, I know that I am not getting younger and I definitely feel the urge to spend time with the man I love and I feel like moving to the next level in our relationship. He has been begging me to be patient and has even promised my parents that he’s coming to marry me. I talk with his parents ans siblings regularly. He asked me to try getting a visa to join him and he financed the whole process but in the end the visa was denied. My younger siblings are married with kids and I feel lonely at times. Should I keep waiting and watch the years pass us by like this?
Which country does your boyfriend domicile? |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by Juliane: 7:15pm On Apr 30, 2021 |
Telstar:
Which country does your boyfriend domicile? The U.S |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by Telstar: 8:16pm On Apr 30, 2021 |
Juliane:
The U.S Okay. Honestly, the probability of that guy marrying you is less than 0.5. |
| Re: Is My Relationship Still Worth It? by Juliane: 11:11pm On Apr 30, 2021 |
Telstar:
Okay. Honestly, the probability of that guy marrying you is less than 0.5. ok. Thanks. |
