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Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by Segzy19: 1:20pm On May 15, 2021
Madam,take it like that o.

That's part of your husband's package.
It comes with the package...
Na to accept and manage am like that...

You can never find a perfect package
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by Nwaelohim: 1:25pm On May 15, 2021
A man that's doing his best for you should be competing with people to compliment you? Women na waoh for una. Same story with my wife.. I am the one doing everything to make people compliment you why not enjoy the compliment and appreciate my efforts? This life is not about women.. you think because he didn't compliment you that he careless about you? This how all of you start thinking that those complimenting you care more than the person providing the reasons for the compliments.... Appreciate your husband and you will get compliment. Do you know what your husband says behind you to his friends men that appreciate their wife says lots of good things about them.. women has a weakness they take for granted direct compliment from their husband. You have to understand the kind of man you are married to and know what works.

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Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by berrystunn(m): 1:28pm On May 15, 2021
Studio247:
Sometimes I wonder if it's normal or is just the man I married or there are men like this I have been married now for 7 years.

And for ones my husband has never complimented me in anyways.

The funny thing is people outside will appreciate and compliment me even before him but not the man I married no Matter how much effort I put into doing anything.

Several times I spoke to him about it
But he will flare up.

And for me I feel appreciating and complimenting.
Your partner makes them happy and give them the energy to do better.

I don't know

His shy to do that ...
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by simplesearch: 1:30pm On May 15, 2021
Some men had a bad orientation growing up especially as regards given compliment to women, it is believed in some quarters that if you compliment women in their presence they become bloated, but this is wrong in every sense of the word. That may be the kind of orientation given to the man you got married to and not a general thing with every man.
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by Naija4love(m): 1:30pm On May 15, 2021
Studio247:
Sometimes I wonder if it's normal or is just the man I married or there are men like this I have been married now for 7 years.

And for ones my husband has never complimented me in anyways.

The funny thing is people outside will appreciate and compliment me even before him but not the man I married no Matter how much effort I put into doing anything.

Several times I spoke to him about it
But he will flare up.

And for me I feel appreciating and complimenting.
Your partner makes them happy and give them the energy to do better.

I don't know
First I checked your profile to see how long you've been in Nairaland I see 2019, yeah I knew You're not my wife because you just said what I normally do. But if it you let me tell you straight.. I love you and always appreciate all you do. But complimenting in your face makes you feel like you're best and relaxing. But doing like you do not always motivated you to do more. I always appreciate you and complicate you in my mind and out side..you get it and if you're not my wife I think that's what your husband does ...
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by Romanoff(f): 1:31pm On May 15, 2021
oldtruth:


Wow! Lucky you.

Honestly to be taking care of responsibility through honest loving in Nigeria can be frustrating. So, if your husband in making honest living, taking care of his responsibility and still complements you always, he is surely a rare gentleman. Don't lose him

I don't intend to o. I die here.
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by harmony75: 1:58pm On May 15, 2021
He's caring so to hell with compliments..if a man takes care of you what's your stress abeggg! Some people like wahala sheyy?
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by pimper24: 2:12pm On May 15, 2021
Studio247:
Sometimes I wonder if it's normal or is just the man I married or there are men like this I have been married now for 7 years.

And for ones my husband has never complimented me in anyways.

The funny thing is people outside will appreciate and compliment me even before him but not the man I married no Matter how much effort I put into doing anything.

Several times I spoke to him about it
But he will flare up.

And for me I feel appreciating and complimenting.
Your partner makes them happy and give them the energy to do better.

I don't know

Its a simple psychology. You are a mere housewife and bring nothing to the table.
Tell him you want to work let him ask you why... Take it from there .
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by Charly68: 2:15pm On May 15, 2021
McStoic:


Sorry dear. I feel your pain. When people talk about marrying left and right, I laugh cos most who do do not even know what makes marriages work. Many men are very guilty of this. I learnt so many things from my mum and one of them is that a woman never gets tired of appreciation and commendation. Appreciating a women is another tonic that boosts her confidence and makes her happy with you.
Many folks here didnt understand this and it is a major strength booster in marriage ..lt is the language of affection ..which gives birth to attention..
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by MummyD2020(f): 2:20pm On May 15, 2021
DaddyRochie1642:
If he starts complimenting you, your head will over swell up because of his complimentings, he knows this and that's what he's avoiding grin

Why una wicked like this?
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by MummyD2020(f): 2:24pm On May 15, 2021
Na see finish! It happens in relationships. Dont let that bother you. Dont make a big deal out of it. No marriage or relationship is perfect.
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by Awoleesu(m): 2:31pm On May 15, 2021
Studio247:
Sometimes I wonder if it's normal or is just the man I married or there are men like this I have been married now for 7 years.

And for ones once my husband has never complimented me in anyways.

The funny thing is people outside will appreciate and compliment me even before him but not the man I married no Matter how much effort I put into doing anything.

Several times I spoke to him about it
But he will flare up.

And for me I feel appreciating and complimenting.
Your partner makes them happy and give them the energy to do better.

I don't know
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by EverythingFit: 2:31pm On May 15, 2021

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ayqPblE7y8

I know how you feel, nothing beats the joy of knowing your partner is proud of you or thinks highly of you. Has he always been like this, I mean even before you married him?
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by emperordelis(m): 2:34pm On May 15, 2021
Las las,marry person wey Sabi speak your love language..Oga is definitely not a man for words of affirmation

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Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by drlateef: 2:57pm On May 15, 2021
Tell him that if he compliments you, it’s worth more than a million compliments you get from outsiders. And tell him how the compliments of outsiders have turned you on and make you feel loved and appreciated. Many men are like that. But when you continue saying this to him, perhaps he will change.

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Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by Georgejeez: 3:07pm On May 15, 2021
Missmossy:
Eyah if compliments were that important to you then you probably shouldn’t have married him embarassed it’s other men that compliment you instead.

Wahala be like wetin again??
Byciclette
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by AleAirHub(m): 3:10pm On May 15, 2021
daddytime:
Communication will do the trick, madam.

Find a way to pique his interest in having a tete a tete with you. This should allow you to jokingly or as a matter of fact, tell him what you feel he isn't doing right after praising him for some other things you think he does right.

Not being the complimenting type is a follow-come thingy. I'm in the same boat but I've had to learn on the job.

His not complimenting you doesn't mean he doesn't appreciate you, it is just what it is. "You can't give what you never had".

You can imagine how alien it almost became for most of us who grew up without hearing the words "I love you or I miss you" from our old-school parents. It never meant they loved or missed us less, it was just not a part of their lexicon. But with time, we had to learn on the job with our kids.

It is well with you ma.


God bless you
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by imagrg(m): 3:24pm On May 15, 2021
But..does he do the other side of his job with you, passionately?
Studio247:
Sometimes I wonder if it's normal or is just the man I married or there are men like this I have been married now for 7 years.

And for ones my husband has never complimented me in anyways.

The funny thing is people outside will appreciate and compliment me even before him but not the man I married no Matter how much effort I put into doing anything.

Several times I spoke to him about it
But he will flare up.

And for me I feel appreciating and complimenting.
Your partner makes them happy and give them the energy to do better.

I don't know
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by Nobody: 3:41pm On May 15, 2021
Some people are just like that, they’ll never compliment but are quick to find fault. Unfortunately, you married one.
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by Trust50: 4:18pm On May 15, 2021
Madam, if this is what is bothering, you, then you have no problem. Let lack of compliments from your husband not discourage you from doing what you know would enrich your marriage. It may not really mean that you are not appreciated, though it would make more sense if it's expressed.

However, your husband's background might be a factor. One way or another, you are cherished
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by Nolajane(f): 4:47pm On May 15, 2021
Wow....may we not marry men like this! Amen!. Everywoman needs appreciated and compliments dear, sending love n lights


Meanwhile check my page for the IPhones I have to sell...very clean!
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by whiteeyes: 4:50pm On May 15, 2021
Don't worry too much dear because you are not alone. Mine does exactly the same and it's been over 12years. Just enjoy yours from the compliments Outside and ignore the inside man.

Unfortunately, such men are terrible at lavishing women with those little passuonate things we deisre and which practically keeps the marriage happy and long lasting. A woman who experincea these little desires Can adapt and COPE with even the poorest of all Men.

Laslas, na him go loose!
Studio247:
Sometimes I wonder if it's normal or is just the man I married or there are men like this I have been married now for 7 years.

And for ones my husband has never complimented me in anyways.

The funny thing is people outside will appreciate and compliment me even before him but not the man I married no Matter how much effort I put into doing anything.

Several times I spoke to him about it
But he will flare up.

And for me I feel appreciating and complimenting.
Your partner makes them happy and give them the energy to do better.

I don't know
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by wallchat: 4:56pm On May 15, 2021
Missmossy:
Eyah if compliments were that important to you then you probably shouldn’t have married him embarassed it’s other men that compliment you instead.

Wahala be like wetin again??
Like Missmossy
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by 1759King: 4:58pm On May 15, 2021
I don't know if someone already said this - do you compliment him? How often do you compliment him?

I ask because most Nigerian/African men grew up tough, having to always bury their emotions but are big babies inside. For some, some little things in life may seem like exposing their emotions and an African man may not like that.

Start it, make it a point of duty to compliment him always, he will grow into it and start to return it. I was taught to always say 'thank you' and at more than 40 years, if I don't say 'thank you' for the little things, I won't feel alright but most men grew up tougher and paying compliments is alien to them.

Studio247:
Sometimes I wonder if it's normal or is just the man I married or there are men like this I have been married now for 7 years.

And for ones my husband has never complimented me in anyways.

The funny thing is people outside will appreciate and compliment me even before him but not the man I married no Matter how much effort I put into doing anything.

Several times I spoke to him about it
But he will flare up.

And for me I feel appreciating and complimenting.
Your partner makes them happy and give them the energy to do better.

I don't know
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by TheGift: 5:00pm On May 15, 2021
Sorry dear. You are not wrong to expect a compliment from your husband. I wish i could speak with Him.
Studio247:
Sometimes I wonder if it's normal or is just the man I married or there are men like this I have been married now for 7 years.

And for ones my husband has never complimented me in anyways.

The funny thing is people outside will appreciate and compliment me even before him but not the man I married no Matter how much effort I put into doing anything.

Several times I spoke to him about it
But he will flare up.

And for me I feel appreciating and complimenting.
Your partner makes them happy and give them the energy to do better.

I don't know
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by madridsta007(m): 5:14pm On May 15, 2021
Studio247:
Sometimes I wonder if it's normal or is just the man I married or there are men like this I have been married now for 7 years.

And for ones my husband has never complimented me in anyways.

The funny thing is people outside will appreciate and compliment me even before him but not the man I married no Matter how much effort I put into doing anything.

Several times I spoke to him about it
But he will flare up.

And for me I feel appreciating and complimenting.
Your partner makes them happy and give them the energy to do better.

I don't know

He internalises his compliments wink
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by deavicky(m): 5:19pm On May 15, 2021
Studio247:
Sometimes I wonder if it's normal or is just the man I married or there are men like this I have been married now for 7 years.

And for ones my husband has never complimented me in anyways.

The funny thing is people outside will appreciate and compliment me even before him but not the man I married no Matter how much effort I put into doing anything.

Several times I spoke to him about it
But he will flare up.

And for me I feel appreciating and complimenting.
Your partner makes them happy and give them the energy to do better.

I don't know
this is also 4 years of my marriage I haven't compliment my wife too and she's not complaining or maybe because the marriage it is not up to 7 years yet. But just curious what do u need the complement for?.
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by Oshokalo: 5:22pm On May 15, 2021
If u compliment them too much he go enter, if u no do,one man outside they do,them go start dey cheat with the am
Women no just balance
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by Vision101(m): 7:12pm On May 15, 2021
@HiFreda
Compliment him.
With time, he will reciprocate.



@me
Gbam...... it's all about pride and wrong orientation. Some bosses believe that if they compliment you, they have lowered themselves and that the person's head will be swollen.
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by Nobody: 7:18pm On May 15, 2021
Studio247:
Sometimes I wonder if it's normal or is just the man I married or there are men like this I have been married now for 7 years.

And for ones my husband has never complimented me in anyways.

The funny thing is people outside will appreciate and compliment me even before him but not the man I married no Matter how much effort I put into doing anything.

Several times I spoke to him about it
But he will flare up.

And for me I feel appreciating and complimenting.
Your partner makes them happy and give them the energy to do better.

I don't know
How much do you compliment him?
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by kenfarm(m): 7:45pm On May 15, 2021
The guymen has a lot in his cerebrum to deal with and yu are interupting his thought flow with "complementry need "

A beg give that niqqer space..... 9ja problems now is enough to occupy his mind
Re: In My 7 Years Of Marriage My Husband Has Never Complimented Me by Cromagnon: 8:11pm On May 15, 2021
Studio247:
Sometimes I wonder if it's normal or is just the man I married or there are men like this I have been married now for 7 years.

And for ones my husband has never complimented me in anyways.

The funny thing is people outside will appreciate and compliment me even before him but not the man I married no Matter how much effort I put into doing anything.

Several times I spoke to him about it
But he will flare up.

And for me I feel appreciating and complimenting.
Your partner makes them happy and give them the energy to do better.

I don't know
does he pay the rent ?
Does he feed you?
Does he abuse you?
Stop looking for what is not lost

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