Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Your friend. Why can't you just owned up to say it's you.

Ladies with useless forming. I read the story of a guy here that a homo employer wanted to take advantage of, he didn't say it was his friend, guys are always forthright but ladies will be forming claiming my friend like the one that missed a proposal from the good looking rich guy with a good ride yesterday claiming it was her friend.

You all should tell your friends that they are suck hypocrites

He is very smart, no need spending anyhow on a girl that is not your wife, sister or mother.

I love the guy it is called judicious use of resources

ClearAll:
does her being Financially buoyant And dependent revolve around the guy? Make una gettat jare

I am talking about if they get married, he wouldn’t want to share in the finances of the home with her!!!

slimman007:


Leech and entitled lady spotted here.Why do most Nigerian ladies have this terrible mindset most the guy provide for you when he is not official married to you answer me,can't you provide for your needs while in relationship.Look here young lady that guy is not your father neither your benefactor so leave him alone and walk away.To me you are a liability to him and you have nothing to offer him expect your pucci which he can get anywhere so what makes your own special.If I may ask you ever since you have been with him what meaningful impact have you added into his life rather than to demand which is the emblem of an average Nigerian lady

u'r the best, are you free this weekend? Just wanna buy u beer!

goldman777:
That your friends boyfriend is wise dont spend on an anonymous girlfriend till you marry her.he doesn't owe her money only a birthday present stop the stupid entitlement mentality.Naija ladies need money get a job or buisness. No boyfriend is your ATM only husbands

I am a married man and I know better, Any boyfriend that did not have the sense of responsibility to give as a boyfriend will be even worse as a husband. Any lady that go ahead with such a stingy boyfriend is surely very stupid.

bepositive11:


That guy is extreme though. How can he ask his gf to pay him back a few thousands? What will he do if they should get married? Ask her to pay for everything he buys for her? That's madness

Stingy and financially responsible are 2 different things

Oga there's a difference between please help me buy and help me buy

I mean doing a favor and order

Paying for favour is 50 50

Paying for Order is a contract

What if the money is not actually his, but meant for serving a purpose, say a contract?


Pfft the Op sounds like a young girl in her 20s, heck I can't remember the last time I bought pad even for my woman

AutoChick4U:
Don't be stupid! If he can't let go of a few thousand now you think he'd when married? Abeg he's not a husband material

Madam go and work! Free yourself from this leech and entitled mentality.There are limit to what the guy you are dating can do for you he musn't provide all your needs moreover he is not your father or benefactor.Nigerian ladies get this into your skull and stop been a liability in a relationship

slimman007:


Madam go and work! Free yourself from this leech and entitled mentality.There are limit to what the guy you are dating can do for you he musn't provide all your needs moreover he is not your father or benefactor.Nigerian ladies get this into your skull and stop been a liability in a relationship

Baba shut up. Who says anything about providing all my needs? Is he god? Una no just get sense and you allowing yeye sentiment cloud common sense and reasoning

You call him stingy guy because he don't spend lavishly on you or your so called friend. You said he is a nice guy in all aspect only that he doesn't spend as you wish. Why do you expect him to spending his hard earned money on just a girlfriend and not yet wife. My sister if your brother is spending lavishly on a girlfriend, how would you feel? Did I hear you said "not being materialistic"? What are you then? You supposed to be thinking on how to become successful and not depending on guys money. Please don't distract me from this Bihari must go protest with your irrelevant post.

Slurity:
I am a married man and I know better, Any boyfriend that did not have the sense of responsibility to give as a boyfriend will be even worse as a husband. Any lady that go ahead with such a stingy boyfriend is surely very stupid.

Thank you. All these small boys that are frustrated won't reason with their brains

Kondomatic:
First, because it's his money. It doesn't matter if it is one, a couple or few thousands


Second, because he wasn't planning to spend a few thousands.


Third, because it's possible that she doesn't spend on him because he's rich.

Fourth, because if the reverse was the case, the girl will collect everything back, inflate the price of the things she bought, collect money for transport and pure water and expect him to give extra for buying it for him.




Yes, but once you're responsible financially, an entitled woman will think you're stingy.
Ask the OP how much her friend has spent on him let's see who is stingy.

Damn! Grace really dey follow dat guy. See how real niggaz be fighting for him in his absence

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

U are interfering in your friend matter!! If your friend wants to dump him...in my opinion I dont thinks she needs to tell you. She is just using all the talks with you to distract herself from the supposed stingy boyfriend...she is going back to him after all una gist.

Slurity:
I am a married man and I know better, Any boyfriend that did not have the sense of responsibility to give as a boyfriend will be even worse as a husband. Any lady that go ahead with such a stingy boyfriend is surely very stupid.

As a married man person, there comes a time in a courtship where you have to test the waters. It helps inform future decision making.
Atleast the guy was not abusive. There are ladies who not just take care of themselves, but show financial Independence.
You can't buy a pads for yourself. How can you take care of children if there no money coming from the man tommorow.
Some people don't know the up's and down's that comes with life.

Fantasy is a huge problem.

my dear miss know it all, I am sure you have been the one advising and choosing for your friend. My advice to you is, leave your friend to enjoy her wonderful relationship. I am certain you are not having it better in your relationship.
Your friend has an intelligent, principled, and decent guy.
Some guys are very wise and prudent with money. You say he is loaded, do you think he made money by spending like a fool? Your friend has a great guy, leave her alone and try fixing your life. Just so you know, I am a lady like you but a wise one

This is what happens when a lady collects #10 for cooking cubes from her boyfriend. I want to believe that the lady has shown how stingy she is during trying times so the guy is in for the competition.

samuel1986:
You call him stingy guy because he don't spend lavishly on you or your so called friend. You said he is a nice guy in all aspect only that he doesn't spend as you wish. Why do you expect him to spending his hard earned money on just a girlfriend and not yet wife. My sister if your brother is spending lavishly on a girlfriend, how would you feel? Did I hear you said "not being materialistic"? What are you then? You supposed to be thinking on how to become successful and not depending on guys money. Please don't distract me from this Bihari must go protest with your irrelevant post.

Who said anything about lavish? I hope he ain't expectung to eat her cookies if she can't eat his money. Rubbish

dominique:
Entitled mentality aside, some men are ridiculously stingy and are now using the assumption of the average Nigerian babe's greed as an excuse not to spend on their girlfriends. If you can't as much as buy toiletries of a few thousand naira for your girlfriend, you deserve to be dumped. Such man will be the most useless of husbands, they would rather watch their wives and kids starve and wear rags than spend on them. Ladies too should cultivate the habit of buying gifts for their boyfriends from time to time

I dont support being stingy.The fact is You should spend on your wife and not girlfriend.A wife deserves it.A girlfriend doesn't really. A break up can occur. And both of you should have your jobs that are sustaining you.Now,you could help the girlfriend out sometimes financially if you deem fit. But not this entitlement mentality that you must always lavish on her because she is your girlfriend and she is entitled to it.That should be on the guy's volition. I'm a generous person

Rozcol:
You still don't get it,there are certain things any lady should not overlook in a relationship, a man who doesn't priotize your needs clearly shows you are not part of his life and if you eventually marry such man he won't care about your needs and that of the kids and besides my friend is not materialistic but a reasonable man should know what to do.There was a day they went out together and he stopped to buy some banana and my friend wanted some as well,he bought his own and paid and stretch forth his stingy hands to collect money from my friend to pay for her own,who does that?stop taking sides and hit the nail on the head

The best thing your friend should do is to tell him that this is what I have noticed because I have understudy you for quite a while now. You know that I am not materialistic but they are certain things that are unacceptable. Like this particular submission and the initial story that you shared. Call a spade a spade. If I don't want to spend for someone I should be able to defined the relationship by telling you were I am not doing certain things. As a man you must take care of a woman it is a standard. Poverty has caused many people to be thinking that spending for a woman is bad. Spending for key things for her and wasting your resources on irrelevant things are not the same. Forget this thing wey una dey talk as a boy, even a child I have always known that a lady is to be taking care of naim adult go dey think otherwise. Men take care of your ladies jor. That is how God made it.

othermen:
Did he add his transport fare to and fro?

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow has ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Your friend started on a bad note by tagging her boyfriend stingy. And she is deceitful and pretending...
She is the type that supposes to date a well-to-do guy...demanding from someone what you know he can't afford is not good enough....let him define is the relationship and let the guy know before she ruin the life of the guy because she is like a wolf in a sheep cloth....
If she is a demanding type, let her tell her bf and if her bf can afford her opulent lifestyle, he will stay but if he can't afford it, he will go...
Stop coming on social media and start badmouthing what your friend accepted in the first place...there is no pretense in life....let call it a spade, a spade.

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

Na wa o. This kind of stinginess is strange and baffling.

AutoChick4U:
Lolzz. It is what it is. Your sweat will eventually belong to a woman and her kids. Don't fight it, it is what it is

Bro I am a father of 4 boys, not married, and the last thing is not to be able me to provide for my sons. I provide for their mother too she can't work and she takes care of my sons. But you see if she were parasitic I wont drop a dime more than is needed. Even times when m broke she provides for the kids with money from the little business she does .... A man spends money on value, we no stupid....
My baby mama haa never asked me for transport money or money for pad...
The lady i am currently dating would spend alot of time with ne discussing business, where she wants to be in few months and years, she gives me advice .... .OP and friends are busy looking for pad money when other women are building empires with their husbands. .

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

He wasn't diplomatic when he was collecting his money from her for the items she requested for

So why should she be diplomatic to tell him that she has had enough of the relationship

Oviebright:
Is this fictional or real? Even a broke guy won’t collect money back from an ordinary female friend he assisted to buy pads and other few stuffs for. Not to even mention girl wey u Dey call ur gf or girl wey u Dey date.
Omo where una Dey see this guys from self?

E shock me

Rozcol:
I just want to pick from various suggestions and hopefully some will work out

Nothing goes for free, i have the perfect idea to discard people like that mutually, but you goan pay for consultation.

Simran94:

I am talking about if they get married, he wouldn’t want to share in the finances of the home with her!!!

he would share or even cater for everything at home, maybe, just maybe he might not be giving her money freely but she’d be happy unless she wants to emulate her friends with all the big Cars, shoes and dresses, just maybe she ought to be doing all those extra expenses with her own money

And

Who says he wouldn’t be a better person when married, baba no wan spend make another person come rip where he no sow, una gender are unpredictable, no vex.

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

It appears most Nigerian youths go into relationship to gain favours.

First, a boyfriend owes his girlfriend nothing, just as the girlfriend owes her boyfriend nothing.
A relationship is place to learn values, morals and support each other. Not one party feeling entitled.

Second, relationship is not a poverty alleviation scheme. If you need money, go get a job. And if a guy needs sex, he should go get a wife. Women are not sex machine, neither are men, ATM.

Finally, a man is only responsible for a wife, not girlfriend. Just as a lady is only answerable to a husband, not boyfriend

Oviebright:
Is this fictional or real? Even a broke guy won’t collect money back from an ordinary female friend he assisted to buy pads and other few stuffs for. Not to even mention girl wey u Dey call ur gf or girl wey u Dey date.
Omo where una Dey see this guys from self?

E shock you sef.,
Shame no even catch the akagum man.

When you know how to type "excuse" correctly, come back for my advice.

breathelove:
my dear miss know it all, I am sure you have been the one advising and choosing for your friend. My advice to you is, leave your friend to enjoy her wonderful relationship. I am certain you are not having it better in your relationship.
Your friend has an intelligent, principled, and decent guy.
Some guys are very wise and prudent with money. You say he is loaded, do you think he made money by spending like a fool? Your friend has a great guy, leave her alone and try fixing your life. Just so you know, I am a lady like you but a wise one

I checked your profile, and i saw that you are from ghana, i wasn't surprised because most nigerian girls don't reason like you do. God bless you maam.

Rozcol:
Please help my friend suggest very good flimsy escuses to dump her hardcore stingy but very good boyfriend.

He's very good on all other aspects but his stinginess is beyond human comprehension and my friend don't want to appear as been materialistic.

The last straw that broke the camel's back was when she demanded if he could get her pads and some few stuff on his way to her place and when he eventually bought and brought the items to her, he calculated everything he bought and was waiting to be paid which she eventually did and imagine he got the nerves to collect the money from my friend (Just some few thousands), he's very rich so brokenness is out of it.

We've exhausted all the escuses we thought would work out to dump him but he somehow have ways around them (very annoying) and my friend wants to be diplomatic. Please your suggestions are highly welcomed. Thanks

How much una go pay? My advice is proven to be effective.

I don't even know why some of you are supporting the guy because I know most of you won't go that low towards your girlfriends.Some things are redflag and should not be ignored and she isn't a leech as she does not demand from him.