JeffreyJunior:
If you will be kind enough to share your story a little bit, that will go a long way in driving home your point.

I ask this because in some of the cases I've witnessed, both the husbands and the wives had a good share of the blames.

However, I will say that in most of them, the wives proved to be the greater evil.

Firstly, if you don't know her so well and never dated her while in Nigeria, think it well.

Secondly, avoid village girls, they turn out to be worse than city girls when they tear eye. City girls can only be golddiggers but village girls mostly turn out to be worse than that. They want to show we have arrived.

Thirdly and most importantly, get yourself a good job or business. Don't turn somebody's daughter to slave and relax to eat as master.

Some of our brothers bring village girls, encourage them to be nurses and sit idly to eat their paychecks. One day, slaves will want to revolt naa, it's normal.

My brother, ororo dey your head.

This is the best advice of the day

Codezz:
Trick and bring her back to naija then dump her.

worst mistake you will make. She can always come back duhh. Except you delete her in naija

LadyRosa:
Hmmm...
You want to bring your wife to USA and still want to use the subjugative laws on here to run her life abroad. Guy, for Away, there's no kinsmen to settle blue black punch marks you guys often decorate her with here in naija.

The laws there are pro-women, you do anyhow, you see anyhow.

Respect your wives abroad OR better still don't marry at all.

I GUESS WE CHOOSE THE LATTER... NO NEED TO TIE YOUR LOFE DOWN WITH ONE WOMAN THAT WILL DESTROY U JO...

nedugroup:


Has a US Nigeria lady taken a Nigerian man from African to marry her and live with her in the US. I want to know pls cos I have never heard it.

NEVER

Commotfornigeri:
It goes both ways.

I have a friend whose husband just ran away after securing papers. She left oyibo and went to nigeria to marry him

Left her with kids, bills, mortgage, everything.

So as you encourage men to learn, women should learn too.

I encourage girls to charge their "nigerian husbands" at least $100k as insurance. Forget love, it can be so deceitful. If he flees, then she has consolation. If he stays, they use the money for their kids.

If the man cannot afford it, let him take a walk.

Going to nigeria to marry a husband or a wife is like playing baba ijebu with your marital life.

rubbish .... atleast he ran away. Naija girls will take your whole properties and bring in new bf into house you brought Her into.... WHILE YOURE STILL PAYING HER ALIMONY AND CHILD SUPPORT .

LadyRosa:



There are lots of women who bring their spouse over there after getting married to them in naija. Most end up misbehaving and divorcing their wives after gaining grounds.
But we don't hear about such, it hardly makes Frontpage.

Na only man dey carry wife come abroad. Many women wey dey carry their unemployed leeches go abroad, only for them to earn a few dollars and start chasing women n and transsexuals like he goat on heat.

talk about being biased.

Lies. ..... there are VERY VERY FEW women that marry men and bring them abroad. Practically none. And even when the men come.. with all the woman's wahala the highest that will happen is he will leave her. He doesn't take her house and recieve child support or alimony. He still loses his kids and probably will be the one paying child support. All round the man loses.

OyinNurse:


Lol @ reasonable salary. Anyway there are still some of us who married US Citizens and have not gone crazy because of blue passport

You are the few sensible ones.

LadyRosa:


The law is good that way, although it may seem unfair. If patriarchal advantages are not checked, women and most especially children will suffer great neglect in every aspect of their early lives.

A man can wake up and leave but let him forfeit his properties for t h e benefits of his kids, who usually here in Nigeria are the most suffered from broken marriages. So many cases of deadbeat fathers chasing his wives and kids and bringing in another woman to reap where she didn't sow.

The reason why Nigeria men over there are kicked out is MAINLY because they refused to accept the fact that the power they have over Nigerian women stops the moment they step out of the country.

well that's why all of una dey find husband like rats seeking cheese. Have you looked at marriage statistics . Why do u think western women are complaining seriously ? Men are just banging and not committing. It's not just naija men. The reason Arabs and Asians, Latinos are taking over is because their women are not stupid enough to challenge their men. But raise successful boys who are taking over..

DAramis:

This is the second time I am seeing this comment. Does this really happen bro? The other person who made similar comment said something about “cooking the woman up” though he didn’t give further information.

Lastly, what is your view on married woman working in the region of their residence?
Should the husband allow her to keep all her salary while facing the home front by himself?or should he demand certain percentage to be paid into joint custody account monthly?If yes, what percentage is appropriate? 50 or 60 or 70 etc (I am not talking about joint account were the woman donates everything while the husband then spends money for running the house from his salary)

I am asking all these questions because I know money happens to be one of the motivating factor that leads to most problems. No wonder some would not allow their wives to work but rather become a full time housewife

NB: Experienced and married people should also contribute towards answering my questions above.

ok let me break it down.. Forget all the nonsense you read from these witch stories.
A man goes abroad. Probably has no money for school and then starts working in a factory, then moves up to driving cabs ( has no money for schooling as he is sending money back to wife and kids while working.) He is in his 40s. He decides to bring the woman and the kids abroad( a very expensive time consuming venture). They come over. Now he has to get a bigger house in the suburbs, put the kids in school, feed them and also put his wife in nursing school. All by himself with his low income job.. He opens credit card for her under his name and starts building her credit. He has to get her a car too while paying the rent or mortgage.... Now he's in his 50s. He is still carrying the family load alone. His wife finishes cna, goes to nursing school and graduates and starts working( perhaps with some few student loan debt in few cases). The man has struggled to buy a small house while carrying the whole family. Now he's old ie early 60s. The wife starts working. He now has various health issues and is well in his late 50s/ early 60s. He decides he needs to rest and reduce work hours....expecting his wife whom he had trained to step in. She carries 70 percent of family load for a few months and becomes angry. Accusing him of being Lazy and unfair. She now has money. She starts calling the shots and in a lot of cases now flirting /having bf. Going for parties and living the city girl life. The disrespect starts. They start having issues... she becomes really irritated at the man whom she now considers beneath her (women are hypergamous). She start looking to replace him. Their fights increase as she keeps taunting him to get off his lazy ass as she's not a slave. This is the story she starts spreading to garner support. One day she accuses the man of domestic violence falsely. The man has to leave the house he bought from sweat and all his struggling alone. In some cases depending on the age of the child he is forced to pay child support.... the world judges him as a lazy man. HE IS IN HIS 60s ... raised and trained his family especially the now boss babe wife. Suddenly his whole life is destroyed. She teaches the kids to insult look down on their dad as she uses her money to manipulate them. The man is destroyed. Both financially and emotionally. He starts going into depression..in some cases like we hear a lot .. he acquires a gun comes back and ends her life and his. I JUST GAVE YOU A NORM FOR MOST OF THE MEN THAT CAME IN THE 80S /90s AND BROUGHT IN WOMEN. They are all advising younger men.... DO NOT TRY IT. The stories are always similar. Except on very rare occasions. Our Nigerian women are notorious for destroying men when they get here. They want ro be boss babes.

They always have plan B. Na to born be the Koko...there are professional baby mamma...

pyyxxaro:
My guy’s elder bro, a US citizen chose to marry a normal naija gal , when the gal reached yankee, she went to skol became a nurse ... naim the gal eye open , before there know the gal full family both Papa mama cross enter Yankee.The gal started misbehaving, didn’t take long , she accused her hubby of raping her , it was a serious issue, after they Checked n all, there was no bruise on her kpekus , that’s what helped the hubby .. Last last the guy had to divorce her ... AFTER GOD FEAR WOMAN

LadyRosa:
Hmmm...
[s]You want to bring your wife to USA and still want to use the subjugative laws on here to run her life abroad. Guy, for Away, there's no kinsmen to settle blue black punch marks you guys often decorate her with here in naija.

The laws there are pro-women, you do anyhow, you see anyhow.

Respect your wives abroad OR better still don't marry at all[/s] .

Absolute nonsense

revolt:
ok let me break it down.. Forget all the nonsense you read from these witch stories.
A man goes abroad. Probably has no money for school and then starts working in a factory, then moves up to driving cabs ( has no money for schooling as he is sending money back to wife and kids while working.) He is in his 40s. He decides to bring the woman and the kids abroad( a very expensive time consuming venture). They come over. Now he has to get a bigger house in the suburbs, put the kids in school, feed them and also put his wife in nursing school. All by himself with his low income job.. He opens credit card for her under his name and starts building her credit. He has to get her a car too while paying the rent or mortgage.... Now he's in his 50s. He is still carrying the family load alone. His wife finishes cna, goes to nursing school and graduates and starts working( perhaps with some few student loan debt in few cases). The man has struggled to buy a small house while carrying the whole family. Now he's old ie early 60s. The wife starts working. He now has various health issues and is well in his late 50s/ early 60s. He decides he needs to rest and reduce work hours....expecting his wife whom he had trained to step in. She carries 70 percent of family load for a few months and becomes angry. Accusing him of being Lazy and unfair. She now has money. She starts calling the shots and in a lot of cases now flirting /having bf. Going for parties and living the city girl life. The disrespect starts. They start having issues... she becomes really irritated at the man whom she now considers beneath her (women are hypergamous). She start looking to replace him. Their fights increase as she keeps taunting him to get off his lazy ass as she's not a slave. This is the story she starts spreading to garner support. One day she accuses the man of domestic violence falsely. The man has to leave the house he bought from sweat and all his struggling alone. In some cases depending on the age of the child he is forced to pay child support.... the world judges him as a lazy man. HE IS IN HIS 60s ... raised and trained his family especially the now boss babe wife. Suddenly his whole life is destroyed. She teaches the kids to insult look down on their dad as she uses her money to manipulate them. The man is destroyed. Both financially and emotionally. He starts going into depression..in some cases like we hear a lot .. he acquires a gun comes back and ends her life and his. I JUST GAVE YOU A NORM FOR MOST OF THE MEN THAT CAME IN THE 80S /90s AND BROUGHT IN WOMEN. They are all advising younger men.... DO NOT TRY IT. The stories are always similar. Except on very rare occasions. Our Nigerian women are notorious for destroying men when they get here. They want ro be boss babes.

Thanks for breaking it down. I understand where you are coming from.
May men not be unfortunate to marry women who will destroy them.

LadyRosa:
Hmmm...
You want to bring your wife to USA and still want to use the subjugative laws on here to run her life abroad. Guy, for Away, there's no kinsmen to settle blue black punch marks you guys often decorate her with here in naija.

The laws there are pro-women, you do anyhow, you see anyhow.

Respect your wives abroad OR better still don't marry at all.

Na fool dey bring wife to pro woman law country..

Person wey d husband suppose give Belle then leave am for naija.. e better make she dey sleep around for naija and the man sleep around too abroad than bring her over to ruin you and get you deported..

revolt:
well that's why all of una dey find husband like rats seeking cheese. Have you looked at marriage statistics . Why do u think western women are complaining seriously ? Men are just banging and not committing. It's not just naija men. The reason Arabs and Asians, Latinos are taking over is because their women are not stupid enough to challenge their men. But raise successful boys who are taking over..

nobody is complaining,its all in your head to feel you are still relevant.With the multitude of lazy males we have in present day naija na to just dey Bleep una dey throway as e be like say una no get value.

revolt:
I GUESS WE CHOOSE THE LATTER... NO NEED TO TIE YOUR LOFE DOWN WITH ONE WOMAN THAT WILL DESTROY U JO...

better self,tye marriage self e no dey easy self kukuma.Many na glorified bondage.

LadyRosa:


nobody is complaining,its all in your head to feel you are still relevant.With the multitude of lazy males we have in present day naija na to just dey Bleep una dey throway as e be like say una no get value.

Actually that's our dream...we want to be fkd and thrown away... I personally wish no woman wanted commitment but un4tunately lies. Its old feminist that push that lie. We wey dey yankee know and see how lonely so called independent women are. I would personally love to be fckd n thrown away lol... every man's dream...as long she doesn't try to steal my seed. Cos thts how u bytchz trap men.

MALIGNANTGuest:
I suffered same FATE too.
It appears there's a headstrong spirit that accompanies Nigerian Ladies to the USA.
INDIANS & Chinese move with their culture.
Their women respect their men a lot despite residing in the United States.

I keep warning Nigerian MEN residing in the US...
In Fact, I stood up and called men out in our last Sunday meeting to stop traveling to Nigeria to get married. After all what will these LADIES do 4u?
Between you and the Lady residing in Nigeria who is doing each other a great Favour?

What you need, are KIDS, nothing else.
MILLIONS of Ladies are willing to give in to that.
Travel to Nigeria, get them pregnant.
Place them on reasonable salary or pay them off if they demand. Takeover ur child's custody.

Please cancel every suggestion that will to lead to Nuptial knot-tying. It's not worth it.
The MADNESS is too much.

I am not supporting evil women. But I have come to discover that our men want to be both western and African at the same time. It doesn't work that way. Think about it.

Will you get allow your wife to come and stay with you in aboard?

revolt:

Actually that's our dream...we want to be fkd and thrown away... I personally wish no woman wanted commitment but un4tunately lies. Its old feminist that push that lie. We wey dey yankee know and see how lonely so called independent women are. I would personally love to be fckd n thrown away lol... every man's dream...as long she doesn't try to steal my seed. Cos thts how u bytchz trap men.

Wetin dey the Yankee?!Na bytch wey dey lonely won dey lonely.None of my friends wey dey away marry Nigerian self sef...Una be stress,na few of Una get head.If not,the only thing wey sweet for Una body na just Una preek

LadyRosa:



Wetin dey the Yankee?!Na bytch wey dey lonely won dey lonely.None of my friends wey dey away marry Nigerian self sef...Una be stress,na few of Una get head.If not,the only thing wey sweet for Una body na just Una preek

who dey marry dem ? Loll ... ure friends dey lie give u. Na oyibo wan marry una? Abeg... una be pump n dump 4 yankee... bottom of the food chain

Ungrateful

revolt:
who dey marry dem ? Loll ... ure friends dey lie give u. Na oyibo wan marry una? Abeg... una be pump n dump 4 yankee... bottom of the food chain

Igwa!!!
Oyingbo like naija girls die!
Especially those wey get dark skin,unlike naija men wey love over bleached nincompoops.

The only thing majority of Una good for na _fuck and to pay bills Even the Bleep sef,many of Una dey use muscle run am like say na war.No wonder an average naija girl get up to 5 of Una to meet up your inefficiency in every.