if ur gf wants to sleep with sumone, she will do it. it's not by caging her that u will

prevent it.

No no! Unless I trust her.

No no! Unless I trust her.

@Mrs. Chima: One of the best topics thus far on NL this year. Thanks.
@Orton1 0: Very nice post
@MzDarkSkin: Loved the retort on Orton1 0's post.

For me though, I'd largely allow her and largely meaning allow her with most ppl except ppl i certainly know are flirtatious as there's no need to increase the level of temptation when the natural world already has enuf of 'em

Basically, this is an issue of trust - knowing and understanding each other and this goes both ways i.e. the man/woman believing in the spouse and the man/woman also assuring the spouse that there's nothing to worry about and that his/her heart is safe with them.

On a lighter note, dem talk say " dem no dey know finish"

enomakos:

one week? bros u sure that your friend did not touch your treasure?

I trust my treasure not to allow anybody touch her

What we call TRUST in a relationship does not exist. It is a figment of our imagination to pretend that everything is okay and then stick together in a relationship which its balance tilts precariously towards clandestine infidelity. My friends, If God should open your eyes to see what goes on behind the screen and to know the things men do then surely, you never know with women.

The general advice from everyone, even the unfaithful s, is that there should be 100% trust- no matter what. Please while using the veil called TRUST to sheepishly keep your relationship going, you should know it is not what it seems. My opinion therefore is that I will NEVER allow the situation of the subject of this post. Even, if anything is done without my knowledge, it is better than being an accessory to my own dishonour.

Yes i will allow another man to take my wife out with Magun secretly placed on my wife in case they want to misbehave.

@Mrs.C
I am not talking about mere suspicion. Don't you know that as a couple you are supposed to look out for one another? Will you let your husband willingly walk into a dangerous situation because you believe nothing will happen?

If going to the office for a second will put my wife in danger then I may abort it for that day.

2buff:

If I have a moderate amount of trust for the guy, AND if the wife hasn't done anything in the past that calls her loyalty to question.

Sex and attraction is just one of the issues that could amount from such. There's also kidnapping and ransom.

Exactly. Its not only about sex; we are talking about the entire wellbeing.

kholis:

What we call TRUST in a relationship does not exist. It is a figment of our imagination to pretend that everything is okay and then stick together in a relationship which its balance tilts precariously towards clandestine infidelity. My friends, If God should open your eyes to see what goes on behind the screen and to know the things men do then surely, you never know with women.

The general advice from everyone, even the unfaithful s, is that there should be 100% trust- no matter what. Please while using the veil called TRUST to sheepishly keep your relationship going, you should know it is not what it seems. My opinion therefore is that I will NEVER allow the situation of the subject of this post. Even, if anything is done without my knowledge, it is better than being an accessory to my own dishonour.

I want to believe that u'r a lady. I equally want to believe that someone u trust so much have betrayed that trust. I understand why u will find it difficult to trust, But we just need to give our spouse that benefit of doubt

CIMTHOG:

@Orton1 0: Very nice post

. . .welcome buddy.

THE ANSWER REQUIRED YES OR NO, TO ME YES, SHE CAN GO WITHOUT MY PRESENT OR RELATIVES, ANY

The worst thing that can happen to a man after hell-fire is wrong marriage, when a man after many years of plan end up in marring a LovePeddler instead of a WIFE. becos this two (LovePeddler N WIFE) are not the same, they are mutually exclusive. If you stalk/trail/restrict/whatever  ur woman from trip/occasion  becos u don't trust her, that means u need a psychometric  expert to improve ur way of thinking, becos a LovePeddler does not care, even in office desk she can indulge in sexual act n u cannot be there in her office desk, she can go to market for food stuffs n SWING. Merely giving name like party/occasion is myopic, becos there are women that don't go to part/occasion without their husband but inhale infidelity as FELA inhale wee-wee.

The same thing is applicable to HUSBAND AND SKIRT-CHASERS , the two can never be the same.

   WIFE or LovePeddler does not depend on any religion, becos there are women in the village that don't indulge in adultery and they don't know any religion. Pastor WIFE can be a public SEX-DONOR if she don't fear God.

But, in every plain, GOD will give u a wife if u really need GOD assistance, provided u give up detecting GOD for PINK, YELLOW, BLACK, SLIM, TALL, BOOTY/WHATEVER, My God is a SUPER-INTELLIGENCE, He can give u a WIFE/HUSBAND.  

PROV3 VERSE 5 N 6 SAYS, Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Be not wise in thine own eyes:
 
so what we need is GOD intervention, so that we don't a LovePeddler in WIFE clothing

There is no protection, even for urself, talkless of protecting ur wife, the only protector is GOD

yes she can go as long at it wont get late.

To go do wetin

I don't see anything wrong at least from the way the question was framed. But the function shouldn't last into the night. Trust is the key. If you do not trust her, then don't risk it.

Dis tread came at a gud time, just ystday my GF says she's been invitted by our male friend to stay indoors together for 1 day, n she seems to see nothin wrong wth dat o

yea

sherrify:

Dis tread came at a gud time, just ystday my GF says she's been invitted by our male friend to stay indoors together  for 1 day, n she seems to see nothin wrong wth dat o

Indoors as in two of them lock themselves up in a room and hang out? or hang out with bunch of friends at a house party?

IT DEPENDS ON THE SITUATION LADIES AND GENTS, OF COURSE U'RE NOT A KID, IF THE PERSON IS UR COMPETITOR YOU WOULD NEVER ALLOW THAT, U CAN ONLY ALLOW THAT WHEN THE PERSON IN QUESTION DOES NOT HAVE ANY FEELINGS 4 UR WOMAN OK?

CHIEF ENGR JAFAR:

IT DEPENDS ON THE SITUATION LADIES AND GENTS, OF COURSE U'RE NOT A KID, IF THE PERSON IS your COMPETITOR YOU WOULD NEVER ALLOW THAT, U CAN ONLY ALLOW THAT WHEN THE PERSON IN QUESTION DOES NOT HAVE ANY FEELINGS 4 your WOMAN OK?

WOW! I love this your name!

Lord_Reed:

@Mrs.C
I am not talking about mere suspicion. Don't you know that as a couple you are supposed to look out for one another? Will you let your husband willingly walk into a dangerous situation because you believe nothing will happen?

If going to the office for a second will put my wife in danger then I may abort it for that day.

Exactly. Its not only about sex; we are talking about the entire wellbeing.

Lord Reed!  Seriously?   How can you equate an event or a social with office danger?   

The question is this would you allow another man take your wife or woman to an event that she may be invited to speak or give a presentation in your absent?  If you are that concern with her well being as you claimed then she need to be house bound because you will not protect her from every malicious incident whether you know it or not. 

You have no way of knowing if something would happen to your wife or woman by going to an event.  If you are that paranoid about the safety of your family then say that but do not come up with some bogus bullshit about danger in the office because that sound like some Eagle Eye or Green Zone poo you got going on. 

As I stated before in today's society trusting your partner is like walking through a busy highway.  If you get hit oh well.

got no probs with that. all i need is sufficient trust that she won;t do something stupid. biz could be the reason of the going out and since biz also makes me do that and i don;t betray trust, i would also allow

@Deniyor,

Indoors as in two of them lock themselves up in a room and hang out? or hang out with bunch of friends at a house party?

indoors o,same wan gist about wetin happen for where our male friend travel go

i dont see anything wrong

have no problem with that once nothing to do with someone she once had a relationship with or the event would be running late,

sherrify:

@Deniyor,


indoors o,same wan gist about wetin happen for where our male friend travel go

Just the two of them. Interesting. Whatever they want to discuss cant be discussed in a public place and has to be in one whole day (she might as well sleep over). I'm all for trusting (check my previous posts in this thread) but emmm, this is too suspicious. Maybe you can ask her if you can tag along so that you can gist about the guys destination too - just to see her reaction.
Could you post more information about it, and don't be stingy with words.

There are some guysl who might be possesive about who their partners mingle with while others dont mind so hence we are all different in a way.For example in the western world its common for men to offer their wives to their friends for sex while other men pay young men to do their wives while peep at the keyhole and when u ask them why they do this they tell u they dont mind if other men do their wives.Belgium has the highest number of wife swapping and in wild sex parties married couples have sex with other married couples as well.Its also a common trend in the united states as well so yes their are men who would be generous to share their wives with other men but then we africans are not into it.

My hubby would not have a problem with that as long as he knew the person very very well. If it's a function at night he'd prefer I go with a man in case something went wrong like car issues etc. I have no problem with him going with another lady, but he will not do it. This actually happened to us a few weeks ago. I was out of town and he did a presentation at a seminar/banquet. He called all four of his sisters and none could go, so he went by himself rather than take a woman I did not know very well. My Mum-in-law raised a wonderful man! :-)

tom28:

There are some guysl who might be possesive about who their partners mingle with while others dont mind so hence we are all different in a way.For example in the western world its common for men to offer their wives to their friends for sex while other men pay young men to do their wives while peep at the keyhole and when u ask them why they do this they tell u they dont mind if other men do their wives.Belgium has the highest number of wife swapping and in wild sex parties married couples have sex with other married couples as well.[b]Its also a common trend in the united states as well [/b]so yes their are men who would be generous to share their wives with other men but then we africans are not into it.

Nonsense! That is only true if your friends are all skanky hoes. Hoes do attract other hoes. And do yourself a favor, turn off Jerry Springer!!

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@poster,

Yes, i would if d guy is so GAY that he cant be straight!

tom28:

There are some guysl who might be possesive about who their partners mingle with while others dont mind so hence we are all different in a way.For example in the western world its common for men to offer their wives to their friends for sex while other men pay young men to do their wives while peep at the keyhole and when u ask them why they do this they tell u they dont mind if other men do their wives.Belgium has the highest number of wife swapping  and in wild sex parties married couples have sex with other married couples as well.Its also a common trend in the united states as well so yes their are men who would be generous to share their wives with other men but then we africans are not into it.

I will tell you what, if "Western" world is all that corrupted and nasty then Africans wouldn't come to the West in droves.  I am just saying.  Keep it real.  Why would someone who is not into the "Western" pollution contaminate themselves with the likes of pollution?

And there shouldn't be any strip clubs nor hoes in Africa if you guys aren't into the "Western" pollution.  I am just saying.  Contradiction is not cute. 

You are regurgitating you things seen on TV and things you have read online.  One more thing, Jerry Springer is a tabloid show and the guests are ACTORS just like those in Nollywood films.