Rozcol:
I pity women who gives men like you a chance in their life and making them miserable all in the name of women bringing something to the table. Women are not providers,you men of this generation should go learn from your forefathers.

women are not providers but caregivers.. I agree with this fact 100% cos waking up early to take care of the house, kids and run the home is no easy task but at least, give the man peace of mind and love.is that too much to ask? PEACE OF MIND IS VERY IMPORTANT, WE NEED OUR SANITY INTACT TO FUNCTION PROPERLY

Xilsbridalhouse:

I suspect he could be a cheat too. You know these things brings out the beast in women.

If I weren't trying to avoid a ban I would have said you're an imbecïle.

If he was cheating why didn't she leave? Why become a monster in another man's house?

Now that she's acting like a loon, the man has decided he will have none of it instead of becoming a monster. That's what people with functional brains do, not coming on NL to disgrace their lineage with watery hypotheticals

MejiLoyon:
Ladies and gentlemen... breakfast is served.

Fun fact is pretending not to know anything when in fact you know everything.
Sorry brother.
If you're reading this, read his words again and again. Those are pieces of advise I can't give to anyone because I believe in experience. I see through his pain. Sad.

You speak like you yourself have been through somethings. Share...

Ishilove:
Op, nobody is perfect. Let he who is without sin be the first to cast the stone.

I am perfect

Rozcol:
I pity women who gives men like you a chance in their life and making them miserable all in the name of women bringing something to the table. Women are not providers,you men of this generation should go learn from your forefathers.

And women of this generation should go and learn from there fore mothers

Can you compare our mothers, grandmother's and great grandmother's to the women we have now

Times have changed
Any woman coming into a Marriage must bring something to the table

Guys are getting wiser
You bear everything
But ordinary respect
She won't give the man
Only troubles and heartaches

The quality of humans are depreciating with every generation

That's why everyone must get sense

I wager you were one of the wannabe kind and wannabe libertarian people who, prior to now, do see any man, and vice versa, who abhors nonsense and does not pander to the whims and caprices of small-minded women as a violent/angry man - of course, I don't hold brief for hypocritically crass and opportunistic men. Servility is as bad as cruelty, say no to both of them.

The condoning of nonsense under any guise doesn't make one mature and isn't a sign of emotional intelligence. The bigger amount of nonsense one condones, the shorter their lifespan. Always come into equity with clean hands and expect and accept nothing less ethically.

Love wasn't one of the causes of your problem; instead, your erroneous understanding of it and application of it was the problem. So also her background as a product of single parentage wasn't automatically the cause of her flaws as you alleged, but her poor ethical leanings which she's the sole architect of, was, and probably made worse through your indulgence at the inception of your relationship with her.

Ishilove:
Op, nobody is perfect. Let he who is without sin be the first to cast the stone.

Because say no person is perfect come mean say make OP dey waste him sperm untop person wey abortion don damage her womb?

when she dey Bleep all available dick, was OP there?

Op run for your life.

Xilsbridalhouse:

I suspect he could be a cheat too. You know these things brings out the beast in women.

That's the truth,he's been painting himself as a saint and perfect man here.I wish his wife is here to share her own side

Pecoleee345:
So over last weekend....I called family meeting my mum,elder brother and I went to my wife parents house...her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.
I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eye straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My device to young men.
1.make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....there way of life etc
The mistake I made wasn't evaluating her background......we from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parent house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2.See forget love and looks......Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.
I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life....She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3.For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by there mother.
They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what there mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

I commend your boldness to leave...
Girls raised by Single mums should be added as a natural disaster and an epidemic that should be avoided..

I once had a girl with this same character, she was raised by a single mum just imagine girl go cheat on you and her mama go dey support am say “the guy is just a friend” I turned her to a sidechick ASAP...she would tell you she can’t say sorry even when she’s at fault. I dumped the bitch when I was done. I no like nonsense

Pecoleee345:

Is she exhibiting those characters I mentioned
Not all of them are like that oo.

But it is still you that is advising guys to stay away from ladies raised by single mums. Make up your mind

Ishilove:
Op, nobody is perfect. Let he who is without sin be the first to cast the stone.

Indeed SMH.

You allow women to run amok and out of control at societal levels, you then wife these mentally damaged women.


Tueh..

Ishilove:
We oftentimes don't know what we have until we lose it.

and what is this supposed to mean?

AutoChick4U:
Aeya sorry. Im a single mom but definitely raising my kid in love. Not all single moms bad sha

is your mailbox active

Rozcol:
Please let us hear word and for your information she's right about that number 2,in marriage a man should provide everything and its solely depend on your wife's decision to assist you or not,its not a mandatory task.Women are care givers and not providers, you can't expect a woman to provide and still respect you it usually don't happen that way.She's not hear to say her own side so nobody has the right to condemn her yet. No be Nigerian men again mtchewww

If my wife (or any body) will not share my pain, why will she share my gain?

All the money she makes who is she making it for?

If it's about choice, then everyone has it.

As a man, if you have no say or a level of control and influence in your wife's finances, you are not her head. Another man is.

Rozcol:
Please let us hear word and for your information she's right about that number 2,in marriage a man should provide everything and its solely depend on your wife's decision to assist you or not,its not a mandatory task.Women are care givers and not providers, you can't expect a woman to provide and still respect you it usually don't happen that way.She's not hear to say her own side so nobody has the right to condemn her yet. No be Nigerian men again mtchewww

May God deliver my brothers from ur type
Ur mindset is disgusting very bad a d crude, you are not matured for marriage and a disaster to any man who gets engaged to u with this kind of mindset
Better Don't marry please before you jeopardize the life of another man's son
What is marriage? Covenant partnership. A Partner is a supporter in their partnership, they may not have equal share but each partner had a share of responsibility to the agreement of partnership. Guyz run from a lady who does not see marriage from the angle and perspective of partnership that lady is not your wife. A woman who truly loves you supports you. My dad went dead broke and it was my mum who helped raised him back to life with no insult but still gave him his maximum respect during the darkest moment of his life, she made home comfortable and marriage easy for him till he bounced back. My father is late but all his properties after he bounced back was willed to my mum and us the children.
Goossh you are a disgrace to us women responsible women. Please go fix yourself before marriage. Guyz shine your eyes please we still have good women or ladies out their. I will never marry a man I can't support. It's not about it's my choice to support him or not it's my responsibility to support him. 2 have become one. You see this kind of mindset this lady has is toxic. As an adult do u know it's your responsibility to take care of yourself, keep waiting for a man to do that. May God not allow my brothers to encounter ur type.
Op pick up urself and move you met and plunged the wrong flower.

Someone once told me there is a reason God didn't create a wife for Himself (even when he has a 'son') and that Jesus refused to marry. Even Satan, seems to not willing to follow that path.

Nancee4love:

May God deliver my brothers from ur type
Ur mindset is disgusting very bad a d crude, you are not matured for marriage and a disaster to any man who gets engaged to u with this kind of mindset
Better Don't marry please before you jeopardize the life of another man's son
What is marriage? Covenant partnership. A Partner is a supporter in their partnership, they may not have equal share but each partner had a share of responsibility to the agreement of partnership. Guyz run from a lady who does not see marriage from the angle and perspective of partnership that lady is not your wife. A woman who truly loves you supports you. My dad went dead broke and it was my mum who helped raised him back to life with no insult but still gave him his maximum respect during the darkest moment of his life, she made home comfortable and marriage easy for him till he bounced back. My father is late but all his properties after he bounced back was willed to my mum and us the children.
Goossh you are a disgrace to us women responsible women. Please go fix yourself before marriage. Guyz shine your eyes please we still have good women or ladies out their. I will never marry a man I can't support. It's not about it's my choice to support him or not it's my responsibility to support him. 2 have become one. You see this kind of mindset this lady has is toxic. As an adult do u know it's your responsibility to take care of yourself, keep waiting for a man to do that. May God not allow my brothers to encounter ur type.
Op pick up urself and move you met and plunged the wrong flower.

Wow... You are a great woman o. Rare breed of a woman. May the Lord give me your type in Jesus name. Amen.

TarOrfeeek:
My current GF is from a single mother home.

Immediately I finished reading this topic. I will break up with her mentally.

You got it wrong. A bad person is a bad person irrespective of single home or both parents' stuff. Use your brain � when you read on naira land, some people will use their problem to confuse you. The OP was carried away with beauty & facial look; he ignores the character aspect.

Rozcol:
She's your responsibility as wife and her primary duty is to give care and not provide, be a masculine man and not a man who feels relaxed watching his wife toil to help him share responsibility.

You don't even understand what you are saying. What's the difference between care and provision.

When a women says a man is caring what does she imply?

A good spouse is a gift from God; a horrible spouse is a trap from the devil. If you are single, be wise, be careful and ask your maker to direct your choice. A terrible spouse will ruin your life.

Xilsbridalhouse:
pecoleee345

There are 3 sides to a story, yours, hers and the truth.

I have a feeling you are leaving her because of the test result. Perhaps you detested her afterwards and now making her look bad to everyone to justify your actions.

So he has to bear the brunt of her past mistake?

Perhaps he should throw a party that his wife damaged her womb?

He is morally justified to leave her if he wishes to.

9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them!

Hmm, na wa. All the best.

elay44:
Bro I only read stuff as a guest. this your post made me register on nairaland. I am in this same boat the, threats, jealousy, anger, no support financially,( I earn very well to take care of the family but it can be exhausting sometimes) etc. but we have Kids . I salute your courage bro. you need to be in this shoes to understand what this bro went through. you can comment and call names but you just can't understand. I feel you and I am very happy for you. thanks for speaking up and being an encouragement. a lot of men are going through shit all in the name of love. forget redplliers. we are not built to be violent, we geniuely care for people, that just how we are wired. but we are taken for granted and our nature taken for weakness.

I would never be in your shoes...
You are a Weakling and deserves all the illtreatments you are getting from your wife for being Weak.. don't do the needful.. just continue the marital Suffering.. after all you are a REAL man..

Frenzy01:
Why does everybody keep advising single men to avoid ladies raised by single mothers



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Pls don't mind them pls don't avoid single mums.. marry one of them and thank us later in this platform...

AutoChick4U:
Its simply a reality that cannot change. Many will get it right while many wont

I salute your sincererity ma'am..

Mogadishuu:
The op is now an elder because he just shared an experience of his for we the single guys. Background check isn't just about her WhatsApp or Facebook... Go to her area, ask about her.
In the olden days, that's what our parents did. They made research into the family they intend having a union with

And as a woman/man if you were raised by a single parent endeavor to go for counceling before wedding

They still do this... When my Sis Got married

Bother Fathers of the couple confessed to themselves that they went to the community to inquire about my sis and my Dad also inquired about the Boy too

Segfaultt:
and what is this supposed to mean?

Exactly what I wrote.