Hello everyone, i need useful tips and not judgment as i write about my odd life. I dont know if im unique or there are folks like me who went through this shit and got together their life. I love the anonymosity of Nairaland and how people share opinion with great optimism.
I grew up in a wonderful family. i have four siblings i.e three boys and a girl. Im the 2nd Born of my family. i grew up in a christain home but was exposed to TV and the rest at a very young age. Due to my highly inquisitive nature, i almost replicated everything i saw on tv, thinking it was normal. There was a time around when i was 6-7 years old, i can remember faintly, i was attempting to makeout with my younger sister fully naked after watching love scenes on TV. My mom walked in on us and flogged the hell out on me and even kept malice with me for days and i kept on begging and apolozing to her. But ever since that incidence , i think it left an indelible mark on my social life. I became very shy and afraid of the opposite sex. I was never comfortable around women. I became always shy around them. I think it also dented my self confidence level because i became very timid. All through Nursery, primary and Secondary School i was an introvert though smart, i had poor social skills, i had very little friends with no female friends. I never had the confidence to approach the girls i like. I was a smart kid, with good grades, graduated with a 2nd class upper degree in Physics, i also have my masters but with bad social skills. Even when i try to socialize i dont just fit in at all. I attended borden school during my junior secondary where i became exposed to pornography and masturbation. I began masturbating at ss2 when i was 15 years alongside pornography whenever i have sexual urges. i couldnt discuss personal issues with my parents esp my mom because i wasnt free with her. I got deep into it in order to supress my sexual urges and didnt see any need for a relationship. So it was like a sweet escape for me, coupled with the fact that i was an introvert and a shy guy. I focused mainly on my books and academics but had zero social life. We lived and grew up at the outskirts of the town in a small quarters and this also contributed to my antisocialism. Now im 30 years old, never dated, never had sex, never had a gf. I have tried dating recently, ladies find me attractive but when they come close they notice my nature and consider me boring, so they start redrawing. There was this girl i tried dating recently but she noticed somethings odd about me and she started redrawing suddenly. she said im not social, wont express love publicly and would love sex alot. I really liked her but she left me heartbroken. Recently i started having the feeling that i have missed alot in life by not being social. Its not as if im not trying but i dont just fit in. I want to be normal and desperate for a relationship. Im tired of all the nasty habits. Introvertism has denied me many opporunties in life. I just want to live and love normal.

The matter long gan o..Let's wait for the elders

It's your type that will get angry and frustrated with women as if they are the cause of your problems and come and start insulting them up and down on this forum

Elders are already on their way, hold on a bit.

Odeh, be worrying your head abt naija girls. Don't make money and better your life. Stupid foo l
Idiot. I hate such nonsense. The social life wey ubdey complain,hope its giving you money. Fool

xenoo:

I began masturbating at ss2 when i was 15 years alongside pornography whenever i have sexual urges. i couldnt discuss personal issues with my parents esp my mom because i wasnt free with her.
I got deep into it in order to supress my sexual urges and didnt see any need for a relationship. So it was like a sweet escape for me, coupled with the fact that i was an introvert and a shy guy. I focused mainly on my books and academics but had zero social life. We lived and grew up at the outskirts of the town in a small quarters and this also contributed to my antisocialism . Now im 30 years old, never dated, never had sex, never had a gf. I have tried dating recently, ladies find me attractive but when they come close they notice my nature and consider me boring, so they start redrawing. There was this girl i tried dating recently but she noticed somethings odd about me and she started redrawing suddenly. she said im not social, wont express love publicly and would love sex alot. I really liked her but she left me heartbroken. Recently i started having the feeling that i have missed alot in life by not being social. Its not as if im not trying but i dont just fit in. I want to be normal and desperate for a relationship. Im tired of all the nasty habits. Introvertism has denied me many opporunties in life. I just want to live and love normal..

Why not start now by doing all those things that you feel you could not do because of this - break free of that cocoon by doing all that you wish you could do. For example,
* begin now opening up to your parents and siblings, no matter how uncomfortable it may be.
* Find and hang out with other people, even at first you seem an invisible member of the party or group.
* Go out and sit for an hour or two at the park, watching birds and people.
* Strike up a conversation about something with a stranger at the bus stop or on the bus Or something.
Do nairalanders you know hang out at a bar near you? Go out and hang out with a group sometime.

Continue to push the boundaries of that shell, before long, you will see the cracks forming and a new horizon open up to You.


Seun... are there meetings in Nigeria yet?