folakemigeh:
Love making is very paramount. Please disregard anybody saying sex isn't that important. We enjoy sex as much as you guys do( if not more ) but we only don't kiss and tell as you guys do.
Finances do also matter but as long as both parties are doing something everything should be fine.

I can't imagine myself being married to a man that won't touch me at least once a week

Adegbenro7643:
Do u think you can cope with your partner's:
1. weakness(es)
2. past


More so, you should avoid comparing your r/shp with others.
The fact is that you must learn to agree now so that you can really become ONE when you finally get married.

My future wife should:
i. Never give me an advice that will break me but rather make me; religiously & materially.
ii. Never stop me from giving to the needy,,,regardless of my r/shp with them.
iii. Prepare herself for distance at times, of course, I can't stay within the walls of Naija till my death.
iv. Prepare her mind towards being self-employed. Though she may need to serve before things work out for me as wished.

My hopes though

KingBish:
Ten years later, the thread makes FP

folakemigeh:
Love making is very paramount. Please disregard anybody saying sex isn't that important. We enjoy sex as much as you guys do( if not more ) but we only don't kiss and tell as you guys do.
Finances do also matter but as long as both parties are doing something everything should be fine.

I can't imagine myself being married to a man that won't touch me at least once a week

gawk:


How old are you?.. you talk like a toddler, if all this you stated are your priorities in order of preference..then marriage shouldn't be even a priority in the next 15 years for you.

vicben27:
blood group, genotype, Religion and dedication,
, sex( i love am lik tomoro no dy), kids n family life, Bussinesses/future(alternative sources of income). n most importantly no third party in our marriage or i no do. we must be able to solve our personal issues witin d confines of our marimonial home. n so help me God

opokonwa:
@poster

Are you in courtship?

Discuss anything that will make you get to know the man better. _{there are no 'hard and fast rules'.}

folakemigeh:
Love making is very paramount. Please disregard anybody saying sex isn't that important. We enjoy sex as much as you guys do( if not more ) but we only don't kiss and tell as you guys do.
Finances do also matter but as long as both parties are doing something everything should be fine.

I can't imagine myself being married to a man that won't touch me at least once a week

Rasheedinho3:


Do you realize you're not planning to ask ur potential partner any questions? These are all conclusions from you not questions.

nothernstar:
Pls help!!! Me and my fiance just discovered that we are both AS and she is insisting we should get married. Is there any way out. Is it possible to marry her. What are the implications. Though I love her and she is the kind of girl I want in my life.

spoilt:
finances definitely. how to share money and bills

JayChk:
Religion, sex, number of children, finances, jobs/career, in fact every thing "discussable"

soberdrunk:
This is why "divorce" is so high nowadays, people have turned "relationships" to 'social project' where you scrutinize, analyze, strategize, some even have "requirements" and "qualifications' as if you are applying for a job. I am not saying there is anything wrong in looking out for certain traits in your partner but when you put 'requirements' before love it wont end well, a lot of ladies have pushed aside the guys they truly love for the guy the fits the profile of the 'ideal guy' and they finally end up in unhappy homes. To answer your question, no matter how much or how long you discuss issues during courtship, new issues and new challenges will always come up, the major issue you should be worried about is whether you are at least "95%" certain deep down that you are 'absolutely' in love with your partner not just 'physically' but spiritually, psychologically, emotionally, intellectually and any other 'ly' that will last 'forever'(or at least the next 30-50 years because the life expectancy in Nigeria is now50-60 ish), if you are certain about this then any other issue or challenge, no matter how big will be a 'piece of cake'.........

folakemigeh:
Love making is very paramount. Please disregard anybody saying sex isn't that important. We enjoy sex as much as you guys do( if not more ) but we only don't kiss and tell as you guys do.
Finances do also matter but as long as both parties are doing something everything should be fine.

I can't imagine myself being married to a man that won't touch me at least once a week

KillerBeauty:

So you think people divorce nowadays because of no love. There's more to relationship than just love and if you think love is enough to make a marriage last you re very wrong.
According to research most marriages fail nowadays because of finances. Money is very important in our lives wheather we agree or not.
I know of marriages that have ended in divorce because of money either the wife is high maintenance or the husband spends recklessly.
Also Commitment , understanding and friendship is what make most couple stay together for years not love alone

KillerBeauty:

So you think people divorce nowadays because of no love. There's more to relationship than just love and if you think love is enough to make a marriage last you re very wrong.
According to research most marriages fail nowadays because of finances. Money is very important in our lives wheather we agree or not.
I know of marriages that have ended in divorce because of money either the wife is high maintenance or the husband spends recklessly.
Also Commitment , understanding and friendship is what make most couple stay together for years not love alone

Oyindidi:
Why do rich people divorce?

KillerBeauty:


Also Commitment , understanding and friendship is what make most couple stay together for years not love alone

soberdrunk:
This is why "divorce" is so high nowadays, people have turned "relationships" to 'social project' where you scrutinize, analyze, strategize, some even have "requirements" and "qualifications' as if you are applying for a job. I am not saying there is anything wrong in looking out for certain traits in your partner but when you put 'requirements' before love it wont end well, a lot of ladies have pushed aside the guys they truly love for the guy the fits the profile of the 'ideal guy' and they finally end up in unhappy homes. To answer your question, no matter how much or how long you discuss issues during courtship, new issues and new challenges will always come up, the major issue you should be worried about is whether you are at least "95%" certain deep down that you are 'absolutely' in love with your partner not just 'physically' but spiritually, psychologically, emotionally, intellectually and any other 'ly' that will last 'forever'(or at least the next 30-50 years because the life expectancy in Nigeria is now50-60 ish), if you are certain about this then any other issue or challenge, no matter how big will be a 'piece of cake'.........

soberdrunk:
This is why "divorce" is so high nowadays, people have turned "relationships" to 'social project' where you scrutinize, analyze, strategize, some even have "requirements" and "qualifications' as if you are applying for a job. I am not saying there is anything wrong in looking out for certain traits in your partner but when you put 'requirements' before love it wont end well, a lot of ladies have pushed aside the guys they truly love for the guy the fits the profile of the 'ideal guy' and they finally end up in unhappy homes. To answer your question, no matter how much or how long you discuss issues during courtship, new issues and new challenges will always come up, the major issue you should be worried about is whether you are at least "95%" certain deep down that you are 'absolutely' in love with your partner not just 'physically' but spiritually, psychologically, emotionally, intellectually and any other 'ly' that will last 'forever'(or at least the next 30-50 years because the life expectancy in Nigeria is now50-60 ish), if you are certain about this then any other issue or challenge, no matter how big will be a 'piece of cake'.........

soberdrunk:
This is why "divorce" is so high nowadays, people have turned "relationships" to 'social project' where you scrutinize, analyze, strategize, some even have "requirements" and "qualifications' as if you are applying for a job. I am not saying there is anything wrong in looking out for certain traits in your partner but when you put 'requirements' before love it wont end well, a lot of ladies have pushed aside the guys they truly love for the guy the fits the profile of the 'ideal guy' and they finally end up in unhappy homes. To answer your question, no matter how much or how long you discuss issues during courtship, new issues and new challenges will always come up, the major issue you should be worried about is whether you are at least "95%" certain deep down that you are 'absolutely' in love with your partner not just 'physically' but spiritually, psychologically, emotionally, intellectually and any other 'ly' that will last 'forever'(or at least the next 30-50 years because the life expectancy in Nigeria is now50-60 ish), if you are certain about this then any other issue or challenge, no matter how big will be a 'piece of cake'.........