MufasaLion:


WTF is this? You're a very wicked and selfish being! Would you have suggested this to your son, brother or uncle?

Its not their faults.They don't like accepting responsibilities.When they start bearing the financial costs of bringing up a child would i take them seriously.They never get have a love child when they are single.They wait till they are married then wickedly saddle the training of another man's child to their unsuspecting husband's.Its the wickedness for me.

maynia:
The person bringing in the bastard is solely responsible. Why commit a fraud after cheating?
Why didn’t the man also force his wife to accept the kids as her biological own?

Oh I see, you are arguing for the status quo to continue.

Op is saying that a change in the status quo needs to happen on order to curb paternity fraud crimes in society.

Kobojunkie:
Oh I see, you are arguing for the status quo to continue.

Op is saying that a change in the status quo needs to happen on order to curb paternity fraud crimes in society.

What status quo is promoting women to bring Bastards home? You cheating outside is not enough?
Why didn’t the man also bring a bastard home and impose on the wife as her biological child?

Kobojunkie:
You are still not making any sense to me in this. Focus!

Again, what the Crux of the message here is that society ought to equally condemn cheating by men and women in order to curb issues of paternity fraud - the child in the in-between is fathered by a man, is it not?

Please shut up...this is beyond cheating...both men and women cheat and are condemned equally...if a women choose to leave her marriage bcus her man cheated, nothing wrong with that..its boma sleeping with a married woman even though he isnt married that made ppl hate him...but her thread isnt about cheating. She said why are men angry at paternity fraud which is after cheating and getting pregnant for another man, bringing it home and telling your husband/bf that he should take care of child as his own...if you don't see anything wrong with that. You support that and that's the foolishness we talked about. Because the child is fathered by a man, another man that knows nothing about the child and never cheated should not complain. Almost sure you are part of those fake feminists. .please get out

Kobojunkie:
Oh I see, you are arguing for the status quo to continue.

Op is saying that a change in the status quo needs to happen on order to curb paternity fraud crimes in society.

Since woman don’t have consent anymore and they have se.x with anyone that comes to them, DNA is the answer.

maynia:

What status quo is promoting women to bring Bastards home? You cheating outside is not enough?
Why didn’t the man also bring a bastard home and impose on the wife as her biological child?

Huh?

Kobojunkie:
Huh?

Huh Bastards?

maynia:
Since woman don’t have consent anymore and they have se.x with anyone that comes to them, DNA is the answer.

You are not making any sense to me still. Stop with the emotional arguments and maybe I can get somewhere with understanding what you are even attempting to say.

Kobojunkie:
You are not making any sense to me still. Stop with the emotional arguments and maybe I can get somewhere with understanding what you are even attempting to say.

How can I make sense to you, feminist?
I’d rather not

Very silly article.

There is a difference between cheating and imposing the result of cheating on a different man.

Nigerian women have lost it totally. Imagine justifying parternity fraud...I told my Canadian female friends about this and they were shocked.

There is a reason the practice is termed a 'fraud' globally in the first place

Kobojunkie:
You are not making any sense to me still. Stop with the emotional arguments and maybe I can get somewhere with understanding what you are even attempting to say.

Just look at the thread.. you can only deceive yourself

Lashist:

Please shut up...this is beyond cheating...both men and women cheat and are condemned equally...

No they are not. Op addressed this too.

AmazonTopaz:
First and foremost I don't support cheating and deception I can never support deception or paternity fraud but I wonder why some men are outraged over paternity fraud.

We live in a society or some of us grew up in a society that gave excuse or justified infidelity amongst men under the guise of "men are polygamous in nature" they forget that men can be used to refer to women too and that polygamous is a gender neutral word for men it is polygyny for women it is polyandry.

When you justify infidelity or adultery you reap paternity fraud because these married men sleep with married women who are wives of other men who are at the receiving end when it comes to paternity fraud.

Kobojunkie:
No they are not. Op addressed this too.

How will cheating lead to you bringing a bastard home to your husband?

Kobojunkie:
Where is this comparison made?

Reading is easy comprehension is not. You cant blame me for not undetstand what u have read

afroxyz:
Reading is easy comprehension is not. You cant blame me for not undetstand what u have read

Where is the comparison made... since you claim to comprehend it, you should have a problem making bold the statement you refer to now, should you?

AmazonTopaz:
First and foremost I don't support cheating and deception I can never support deception or paternity fraud but I wonder why some men are outraged over paternity fraud.

We live in a society or some of us grew up in a society that gave excuse or justified infidelity amongst men under the guise of "men are polygamous in nature"they forget that men can be used to refer to women too and that polygamous is a gender neutral word for men it is polygyny for women it is polyandry.

When you justify infidelity or adultery you reap paternity fraud because these married men sleep with married women who are wives of other men who are at the receiving end when it comes to paternity fraud.

You men cannot always eat your cake and have it you feel bad when cheated on and call women who commit adultery all sorts of names but hail men when they cheat on women what happened to what is good for the goose is good for the gander.Some people seem to forget that the cheating men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with people's wives and girlfriends too so maybe that shows that women are polygamous in nature and two can play a game.

You cannot be preaching morality and chastity on women while failing to hold yourselves to account as well it doesn't work that way because it is a small world afterall if boys are not taught morality, decency and chastity we will continue to hear tales of paternity fraud and infidelity.

As we try to shame and tell young girls not to follow married men let's not forget to tell young boys and married men to leave married women alone it is the same polygamous men that are sleeping with these women and another man is at the receiving end of this disaster men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with women

As for the married men and women depending on your vows if you promised to be faithful try to be faithful and stop cheating beautiful women and handsome men will never finish in this word try to stick to one be contented,committed and try to learn discipline.

I think we should ask men why they are outraged

AmazonTopaz:
I come online and 23 mentions


Why are you men still outraged lol,no time to respond to rubbish.

I stand by what I said if you want paternity fraud to end control your third legs and call your men to order

Na from birth calf no be lamb mate, whether you stand or sit on what you said, as long as say naa man go marry you, chances that you will end up like nedu wife is positively high.
Men will alway cheat, buh can women eat their cake n still have it @ men's expense that i doubt

Interesting perspective. I respect her views really, but why lie to the man that might have been footing the bills for ages of raising a child.

GeneralPula:
OP must be a product of paternity fraud for her to be justifying paternity fraud..

This wasn't revealed to you by flesh and blood but by the spirit

Oil dey your head

Kobojunkie:
Where is the comparison made... since you claim to comprehend it, you should have a problem making bold the statement you refer to now, should you?

Paternity fraud is not when you bring a bastard home. Paternity fraud is when you bring a bastard home without the Knowledge of the husband. So how did cheating contribute to paternity fraud?

Men only wants the DNA test to see if there's a mix up in the hospital, you know those nurses can be funny at times nothing more...

You think we don't trust our women, we do trust them but those nurses can be funny that's all....

AmazonTopaz:
First and foremost I don't support cheating and deception I can never support deception or paternity fraud but I wonder why some men are outraged over paternity fraud.

We live in a society or some of us grew up in a society that gave excuse or justified infidelity amongst men under the guise of "men are polygamous in nature"they forget that men can be used to refer to women too and that polygamous is a gender neutral word for men it is polygyny for women it is polyandry.

When you justify infidelity or adultery you reap paternity fraud because these married men sleep with married women who are wives of other men who are at the receiving end when it comes to paternity fraud.

You men cannot always eat your cake and have it you feel bad when cheated on and call women who commit adultery all sorts of names but hail men when they cheat on women what happened to what is good for the goose is good for the gander.Some people seem to forget that the cheating men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with people's wives and girlfriends too so maybe that shows that women are polygamous in nature and two can play a game.

You cannot be preaching morality and chastity on women while failing to hold yourselves to account as well it doesn't work that way because it is a small world afterall if boys are not taught morality, decency and chastity we will continue to hear tales of paternity fraud and infidelity.

As we try to shame and tell young girls not to follow married men let's not forget to tell young boys and married men to leave married women alone it is the same polygamous men that are sleeping with these women and another man is at the receiving end of this disaster men don't sleep with themselves they sleep with women

As for the married men and women depending on your vows if you promised to be faithful try to be faithful and stop cheating beautiful women and handsome men will never finish in this word try to stick to one be contented,committed and try to learn discipline.


I think we should ask men why they are outraged

A key that can unlock may padlocks is valued.
A padlock that can be unlocked by many keys is useless.

Men and women infidelity ain't equal.

Kobojunkie:
Oh I see, you are arguing for the status quo to continue.

Op is saying that a change in the status quo needs to happen on order to curb paternity fraud crimes in society.

To the best of your own knowledge, condemning & criticizing is what we stop cheating .. from the days of the bible till now are you saying people havent criticized enough ... or maybe somethings can never stop.
Lets not fool ourselves cheating among men & women can never stop even if govt open a tv station to condemn cheating 24/7, what can be curbed is paternity fraud of which the solution remains DNA test, church & mosques should mandate DNA test before naming a child. cos any home wey dey peaceful the bastard for there never come of age nii

Kobojunkie:
No they are not. Op addressed this too.

Please run...get pregnant for whoever you want...bye

larryjonze:
1. To the best of your own knowledge, condemning & criticizing is what we stop cheating .. from the days of the bible till now are you saying people havent criticized enough ... or maybe somethings can never stop.
2. Lets not fool ourselves cheating among men & women can never stop even if govt open a tv station to condemn cheating 24/7, what can be curbed is paternity fraud of which the solution remains DNA test, church & mosques should mandate DNA test before naming a child. cos any home wey dey peaceful the bastard for there never come of age nii

This isn't about the Bible days or our imaginings of it. This is about issues as it plagues the society we live in to this day.

2. You don't curb paternity fraud by doing DNA tests. Nigeria is known as "scam central" and nothing will stop fake paternity tests showing up soon on the market for all those interested to pay for.

A better way to curb it is what the Op suggests, which is to make the man behind the child in the middle of the paternity fraud equally culpable. Not until society begins to shame both the woman and the man with whom she had the affair with, will the trend begin to noticeably change for the better - that's kind of what the OP is trying to get you all to see here. But it keeps going over your heads. .

Lashist:

Please run...get pregnant for whoever you want...bye

Learn to read and argue less from emotions.

Ehen, for woemn who are having difficulties conceiving, come make I give you Belle. Na my work.

AfroKnight:
You cannot possibly understand this cos no husband can deceive you into raising a child that is not yours. Even if your baby is switched at birth, your husband is also at loss.

There is no close comparison for that kind of fraud.

Perhaps I can compare it to buying government owned land from a fake agent and building on it with your hard earned money and giving it your time and sweat only to find out the real owner when they charge you to court for trespassing.

Then you lose access to that land and no compensation is made to you.

Then later you find out that government decided to use your house as a short let apartment instead of demolishing it. They are making profit off your sweat and there’s nothing you can do.

A thousand likes to this OP...
This is the closest to explaining the pains that men when when paternity fraud is discovered...

And the women may never understand your illustration too, because very few women have worked hard (not sleep around or depend on men) to build a house from start to finish on their own (at least as compared to men)

The answer is simple...
Everyman deserves to know if the child he is spending his hard earned money on is truly his...

The females will never understand why the discovery of paternity fraud hurts men this much, because most of them have never been a breadwinner to children who are not theirs (by deception)...

The op is not writing well. A man need to know his true son

I cannot understand how a grown adult with a fully functional brain can ask such a contradictory question.....
"Paternity fraud" is the key word.....How can you expect some one that has been defrauded to be happy.....?

It is called fraud because they hang the responsibility of raising the child on the unsuspecting man. A man can have children outside and can't hang the responsibility on the wife. So if the woman can born and hand it over to the real father, it can't be regarded as fraud anymore

Evince:
A man can have children outside and can't hang the responsibility on the wife.

That child that this man cannot hang responsibility on his wife for, isn't it likely that there is a man out there taking care of that his child and bearing responsibility for it in his stead?