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Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by martin1772(m): 5:53pm On Oct 01, 2021 |
Please advise me. I'm in my early thirties and I'm under pressure. I graduated in 2018, finished serving in 2019. I work in a private secondary school with a salary less than 40k. My mother called me few weeks ago and started talking about me going for my masters, learning a hand work, and also marriage. I just got overwhelmed with all her talks. Going for masters is not beans and bread, i may have to quit the job and rely on my parents. Now my mother is doing a course in a university ( though a government worker) my sister is also in the university, my father just retired. Initially the pressure was from my mother, now my dad just called me and talked about the same issue. I'm stucked. Please advise me. |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by Bigredmachine: 5:55pm On Oct 01, 2021 |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by chatinent: 5:57pm On Oct 01, 2021 |
Explain to them that there is no possibility for you to shoulder everything at once. You cannot go for masters and get married together...coupled with the underpayment. Instead, you may need to build on yourself, and a home that will accommodate a wife. ...and once you are buoyant enough, you'll pick one at a time. Explain to them with the calmness of the mind. However, have you thought of making some extra money? You can be freelancing online and be getting thrice your salary in a month! How? As a teacher, I am sure you can write! It translates that you can type! Sell a skill on what you do online. You'd be contacted! Think about it. 3 Likes |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by Freestainworld(m): 6:03pm On Oct 01, 2021 |
It is he who wears the shoe knows where it pinches, don't allow anybody put you into uneccessary situation, going for the masters is good but from your write up, you lack the funds to finance it, marriage on the other hand no be child's play when you don't have much income in your hands, just be wise and follow your heart. |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by Danielomisco(m): 6:05pm On Oct 01, 2021 |
Oga no fall for that trap.who masters help |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by Karleb(m): 6:09pm On Oct 01, 2021 |
Stand your ground. |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by mariahAngel(f): 6:10pm On Oct 01, 2021 |
My only advice to you is don’t stay too long on that teaching job. E get why! |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by Mystery9(m): 6:21pm On Oct 01, 2021 |
Simple na .. Tell them that if they are ready to pay the money for all those stuff, then you are good to go.. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by Nobody: 6:25pm On Oct 01, 2021 |
If you have a good result. Look for foreign masters degree scholarship and escape the zoo for good, escape your parent shadow marking you. Don't start a family here, lay a better foundation for your unborn kids. Your innocent kids shouldn't be born into this hardship of a country. When you get outside, you earn and run your masters degree simultaneously. You have enough to take care of yourself and also some left to send down to your parents. As for wife, it all depends on you and situation of things as they unfold. If you're the first male child, your parent would be in haste for you to carry on the family name, but the consequence is on you, reason why you should be wise about your choice. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by MufasaLion: 6:25pm On Oct 01, 2021 |
You can learn a skill. If you're ready savvy, it seems it easier because you only need laptop and internet connection. There are many skills taht could fetch you money. Most importantly, learn something you have passion for. Money will come out of your passion driven work. Concerning marriage, take that off your mind, you don't need a wife now. Be financially stable before thinking of such. You can marry at any age you desire!!! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by Truvelisback(m): 9:36pm On Oct 01, 2021 |
Join the force, Army, Navy Or Airforce. Or join the paramilitary, Police, Custom,immigration, FRSC etc. Na government job dey pay now. If u join with this ur Cert, ur rank go high and ur salary go high. 1 Like |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by Imustnottalk: 9:42pm On Oct 01, 2021 |
Learn handiwork then you can think of master then marry |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by anthonyuncle(m): 11:14pm On Oct 01, 2021 |
calculate the amount of money needed for everything, give her the bill. tell her not to mention anything to you until she sends the exact figure to your account 2 Likes |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by martin1772(m): 5:15pm On Oct 02, 2021 |
chatinent:I'd love to work online... No clue on how to start though |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by chatinent: 5:25pm On Oct 02, 2021 |
martin1772: Start by seeking clients who'd want to patronise you. |
Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by Matheusmartin: 5:38pm On Oct 02, 2021 |
Mystery9:. As simple as ABC
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Re: Help! My Parents Are Pressurising Me. by Elsueno: 10:30pm On Oct 02, 2021 |
![]() Speaking from experience, masters is very expensive! |
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