Imagine the stupid pride. He cannot hustle to fend for himself and he still get pride on top. In your own house for that matter. You people are the ones that have been indulging him all this while....STOP giving him food. What an entitled leech!

He is your guest not your houseboy. Before he came, were you not doing your chores?

I no the OPs type... Wahala dey full their body die... The little help wey the cousin dey receive dey pain am... She want make d guy dey work for d food fear her type very dangerous.

OgunLaakaye:


Exactly!

If a lady cannot cook and manage the house, then of what use is she?

Does it mean her husband won’t eat whenever she is on her period

This western civilization has really caused havoc


To just cook food come become oppression.

Make God just protect person from this kind lady, Cos you will have to fast when she is on her period. And when she gets pregnant, just go back to your parents house cos Na hunger go kill you.

Na them.selfish insensitive and self aggradized it's always about them and their ego.nothing else matters.not if she's going through pains and hormonal imbalance

God forbid

Abetterperson:
My mom sister son decided to stay with us because of his family financial struggles. He's a bit older than me but we are of the same age group. Firstly I noticed this guy is sexist and when I say sexist I mean it.

you need to remind him where he's coming from and spell the rules out to him.
He cannot be a source of pain/inconvenience in your own family house.
Speak to your mum and have her give tasks and responsibilities, so he doesn't feel he's on vacation at your expense. This one is low-budget Buhari.

Shouting like a failed Musician

TinubuGoQuench:


SHUT UP!!!

you're the one to zip that gutter u call mouth.

Fuckthamods:

That's how most homes are... Why will the father hustle then come back home to cook? The males have their responsibilities, in my home we clean the house too, service the generator, wash the cars, fetch water, carry hefty things, run errands.. Etc. Why should we still enter the kitchen to cook!?
I'm sure the op cousin does chores assigned to him, op just want to control the boy cause of his current situation!

Lol.
The ones that married women that also go out to work, do they cook?

For your mind you make sense for all this complaints.
Laziness no good o.

elonmuskbaby:
Na them.selfish insensitive and self aggradized it's always about them and their ego.nothing else matters.not if she's going through pains and hormonal imbalance

God forbid

And that’s what warranted her to create a Nairaland topic! Because of food preparation! It’s finished!

Fuckthamods:

That's how most homes are... Why will the father hustle then come back home to cook? The males have their responsibilities, in my home we clean the house too, service the generator, wash the cars, fetch water, carry hefty things, run errands.. Etc. Why should we still enter the kitchen to cook!?
I'm sure the op cousin does chores assigned to him, op just want to control the boy cause of his current situation!

Ammishaddai:
[s][/s] Good luck with that. But just know you're living in Nigeria , not New York where feminism and stupidity go hand in hand

stop exposing your 21st century ignorance!

naturefellow:
you need to remind him where he's coming from and spell the rules out to him.
He cannot be a source of pain/inconvenience in your own family house. Ask your mum to spell out tasks and responsibilities, so he doesn't feel he's on vacation on your expense. This one is low-budget Buhari.

now someone is talking like an adult

Adulthood is responsibility not entitlement and empty pride on top brokenness

I agree, there is more to it than just the simple you cook and i eat lo, everyone is different.

But for me for instance, if i am allowed to cook in a family's house, i don't tell anyone to cook for me, I just go get am and prepare a delicious meal, i don't like bothering any person.

Amalekki:

Gerrout
Na true talk now. All I see is absence of love. I have friends who will tell you that they don't joke with this certain female cousin who took care of them back in the hood without complaining. As some mentioned, all that the guy probably saw was his Dad never entering the kitchen. This is nothing strange where we come from. The OP and her cousin need to get over their pettiness and be a family. Debate with him and let him understand why it is to his advantage if he learns how to fend for himself even in the kitchen but don't necessarily force him. His own time will come to take care of you or your children, even if it's only occasional vacation abi no be so we dey roll? Cherish your family o!

Fuckthamods:

It's the female's duty! That's how my sisters behave at home, always forming victim when they are suppose to do their work.
I'm sure if he's to wash their car the girl won't help out.
The op has issues

See this one...These are the kind of boys that will be doing boy boy for oyibo women.. Them full America and Canada.. you see them washing plate, wife's pant, carrying baby etc, but to help their Nigerian wives grind pepper you won't see them..After every thing, the oyibo woman will still throw them out
.Foolish pride of a brokeass

Fuckthamods:

That's how most homes are... Why will the father hustle then come back home to cook? The males have their responsibilities, in my home we clean the house too, service the generator, wash the cars, fetch water, carry hefty things, run errands.. Etc. Why should we still enter the kitchen to cook!?
I'm sure the op cousin does chores assigned to him, op just want to control the boy cause of his current situation!

His current situation should make him leave pride at the door... In this case, he is lucky it is not even lack of foodstuff that's the problem, but lack of who to cook it. One can never go far in life by carrying shoulders up an down. Hunger never wire am! I know his type. He will not work but will sit at home all day while his wife goes to work. He will not even cook or help with the children. But will cross his legs and wait for his longsuffering wife to come back from work and still cook dinner, while he watches dstv

Plead:

Lol.
The ones that married women that also go out to work, do they cook?

That's their business.. They must find time and cook or let them remain single. Afterall, men also work and perform their duties

CSNg:
@Abetterperson

Let's hear from your cousin first!

Cos I don't really think that you would calmly ask him to grind pepper and he would flare up. You might have raised your voice on him simply because of the entitlement that "you own the house" under where he is taking shelter .

No mind her. Only the wise ones will reason like you.

OgunLaakaye:


And that’s what warranted her to create a Nairaland topic! Because of food preparation! It’s finished!

it's enough to open thread for o.

You have no idea how irritating it is to put up with an entitled,broke and egoistic man.you no get money you still get pride like say anybody owe you anything because you get penese

You no get money yet you're too big to enter kitchen and make yourself useful to the family but still want to be treated like a king

She's even nice that she still cooks from a lazy and entitled man


.again





Tufiaaaaa

ziondaughter247:


See this one...These are the kind of boys that will be doing boy boy for oyibo women.. Them full America and Canada.. you see them washing plate, wife's pant, carrying baby etc, but to help their Nigerian wives grind pepper you won't see them..After every thing, the oyibo woman will still throw them out
.Foolish pride of a brokeass

ziondaughter247:


See this one...These are the kind of boys that will be doing boy boy for oyibo women.. Them full America and Canada.. you see them washing plate, wife's pant, carrying baby etc, but to help their Nigerian wives grind pepper you won't see them..After every thing, the oyibo woman will still throw them out
.Foolish pride of a brokeass

At least oyibo dey bless us with dollars and many guys end up green card. How many Nigerian wives graciously contribute financially to the family? All they do is collect, nag, eat, shit and mess.

let me go, before I laugh too much

elonmuskbaby:
it's enough to open thread for o.

You have no idea how irritating it is to put up with an entitled,broke and egoistic man.you no get money you still get pride like say anybody owe you anything because you get penese

You no get money yet you're too big to enter kitchen and make yourself useful to the family but still want to be treated like a king.again


Tufiaaaaa

Is it about money now, or cramps?

Cos now you shifting goal post!

So if the guy had money, she would not have cramps?

Just hit the nail on the head.

Iyaebe:
Please send him to my house,he needs proper upbringing. But honestly I don't like seeing men do chores especially kitchen chores.I use to pursue my brothers to live the kitchen arena as I find it disgusting seeing men in the kitchen.Try your best to endure him as he won't live with you forever, its just for some times, please be patient with him till he leaves.

you see am naso another woman go complain about your brothers u dy pursue" I be man I dy do all kinds of house chores I cook pass many women" now I'm living alone I cook for myself girls cooks for me

Fuckthamods:

Nah.. He won't.. Guys like that will rather eat take outs or the oyibo must learn how to cook except he lacks self esteem

Don't live in denial, how many get liver to force oyibo woman to learn how to cook? What is he going to use to threaten oyibo woman with....Nigerian citizenship?

OgunLaakaye:



Is it about money now, or cramps?

Cos now you shifting goal post!

So if the guy had money, she would not have cramps?

Just hit the nail on the head.

Amalekki:
Not managing situations like this with sense and love is the reason why we hear stories of some rich guys blanking out cousins/family members. You never know what happened in the past when they were still in their formative years and forced to rely on family members. I just hope the OP is not capitalising on her cousin's situation to 'cut him down to size' just for her own satisfaction since his own immediate family are currently struggling. I say this because I have seen this play out in the past within my extended family.

Wisdom is talking

greenie77:


Don't live in denial, how many get liver to force oyibo woman to learn how to cook?

Except that period he needs green card... You have to do what you have to do to get what you want.

Send him out of the house joor.....

Fuckthamods:

That's their business.. They must find time and cook or let them remain single. Afterall, men also work and perform their duties

Whatever works for you bruv. Your life,your choice.

Ammishaddai:
If a woman can't cook and keep house , then what's her purpose in this life ? Mtchwww

Ewu! She is in her father's house not her Husbands house.