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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by yusufu16: 10:10pm On Oct 24, 2021
Idamond:
Good Nairalanders!

Don't mind my typo terminologies


I don't know if there's anyone facing these some thing..

Exactly what I am facing too. Family members, friends old and new just keep asking money. Most calls i receive is about money. Now I dont even pick calls because most of them will ask for money.

A family member once ask me to borrow him N10k that he will return in few days. Till now he didnt even call me about when he is going to pay and I didnt even bother to call either. But then he has shut the door against next time and even for others too.

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Allwell96: 10:10pm On Oct 24, 2021
It's not only you o, I'm right inside your shoe.
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Heterodox(m): 10:12pm On Oct 24, 2021
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
Everybody must not get at a time... Sometimes God dey put us in a position so that make we for take help uplift others.....If you no wor help,just tell the person plainly say you no get any help to offer........... Personally,I dey pray say make everybody get so that we no go see any thread like this......This thing just be like say you dey mock people wey dey beg you for assistance undecided.
Clearly you haven't been in that position.

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by jaxxy(m): 10:13pm On Oct 24, 2021
Idamond:
Good Nairalanders!

Don't mind my typo terminologies


I don't know if there's anyone facing these some thing..


I had same issue and still it became an issue, I learnt people are naturally selfish and there’s always a perfect excuse to be selfish for them. The truth is selfless people are rare and they face same challenges bt just don’t accept excuses to be selfish cos it’s not in their nature to be. They are very rare.

To the selfless ones u need to learn how to say No and i mean a hard No! Sometimes and when necessary

Yess it’s good and very healthy for ur sanity and piece of mind. grin undecided

That said there are people u can’t say no to, the close as a brother, reasonable family members and inner circle. These can be exceptions.
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by olaztek(m): 10:13pm On Oct 24, 2021
What about the borrow-borrow ones. They will come to borrow money with no intention of paying back. If you ask for your money at the time they promised to repay, you will hear another series of complain.

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by hardon1(m): 10:14pm On Oct 24, 2021
Why would they not be asking from you when you dey carry yourself as if you get money and you no get shishi

Me I give when I know the help is dire and not to please the person or present myself as not being stingy. People of this world will take advantage if they know give easily.

One way to cut excesses of begi begi Friends tell them your financial problems even before they speak (even if you don't have problem with finance). Before you do like 2 times they won't worry you again

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by tunize(m): 10:15pm On Oct 24, 2021
OceanEye:


I can relate to what you said. I have a friend who did exactly the same with me and I later found out he had cash more than I thought.

But not every 'beggar' is like that. In fact most are not in that kind of 'our friends'' position.

A lot of guys are in serious financial problem, so if you are in a position to help, make this world a better place for you and me!
I do whenever I can but the one of doing pass myself is something I no longer do like going beyond my capability just to ensure I put a smile on someone's face this kind of help I nor do again

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by InvertedHammer: 10:16pm On Oct 24, 2021
Idamond:
Good Nairalanders!

Don't mind my typo terminologies


I don't know if there's anyone facing these some thing..
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Stop giving!

You can never solve Nigerians' problems and they will end up dragging you down and move to the next victims.

Don't fall for the trap that givers never lack. That's the anthem of the leeches because they are the exclusive beneficiaries. Anyone ready and willing to work can never lack.

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by money121(m): 10:18pm On Oct 24, 2021
Idamond:
Good Nairalanders!

Don't mind my typo terminologies


I don't know if there's anyone facing these some thing..
Giver never lack.. you can't help everybody and is good to invest in those that are in need

Since av been giving av never regret it
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Tony142: 10:19pm On Oct 24, 2021
Pussywar:
A lot of Nigerian people have this mentality of “if you’re not adding anything to my life, I’ll cut you off” and it’s a serious problem and I think it’s why many people seek friendship or any kind of relationship. They just need someone they would put their burden on.

Try not giving. Tell them you don’t have and find out who stays and who leaves.


Pussywar? this your name is somehow o, is that the location were boko haram and the Nigeria army are fighting the war? I am asking for a friend, he want to join the Nigeria army lipsrsealed

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by CsRockefeller(m): 10:19pm On Oct 24, 2021
Mercychen:
You should thank God you are in the position of giving and not the other way around. Or would you want to switch places with them?
Ask those begging, they wish to be in your position. So stop. Complaining.

What you should rather be doing is praying to God to sustain you in that position and increase you to a point where you'll have more than enough to give to the needy.

Was tempted to hurl insults at you but I'll pass.

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by BamakSNR(m): 10:20pm On Oct 24, 2021
You're not the only one. But know this, it's not every giving you get blessed in return. Some giving are result of lack of wisdom to manage people and money. If you continue that way, life will frustrate you and squeeze you till you dry. It's good to give thou but don't let anybody put you on unnecessary pressure and Rob you with their emotions. Give only because you want to.

And my recommendation will be for you to draw a budget and save a good amount. Do not spend outside the budget no matter how. You can even save where you won't have quick access to the fund

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by foreshore(m): 10:22pm On Oct 24, 2021
Idamond:
Good Nairalanders!

Don't mind my typo terminologies


I don't know if there's anyone facing these some thing..

Do your own na and leave the rest to God
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by calcal: 10:23pm On Oct 24, 2021
Mercychen:
You should thank God you are in the position of giving and not the other way around. Or would you want to switch places with them?
Ask those begging, they wish to be in your position. So stop. Complaining.

What you should rather be doing is praying to God to sustain you in that position and increase you to a point where you'll have more than enough to give to the needy.

Rubbish talk, this lady na scammer.

You don't need prayer, what you need is to get out of social media, stay focused and build yourself financially.

NL is faceless which is okay.

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by fortune1968: 10:24pm On Oct 24, 2021
Ninety6:
Good move my brother.., If you don't run from them now they will run from you when they finish you!
But ,he may not finish or nobody may finish his money .One thing is clear - God will NEVER leave him alone even at a point it may appear he doesn't have much again .God will surprise him so long he gives to help sincerely .
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by mastermaestro(m): 10:24pm On Oct 24, 2021
Never stop giving all together. Just give what you can afford to give weekly or monthly based on your earnings, personal expenses and projects in hand.

Giving profits the giver far more than it does the receiver. Do what you can. When you can't, make it plain. People will learn to accept you knowing that you do help when you can.

Most importantly, while helping others try not to plunge yourself into difficult financial situations. People will always have needs!

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Hisxlency01: 10:25pm On Oct 24, 2021
Pretend you have gone broke or run into debt for just few months, then you will realise that you never had friends, but leeches

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by ediko5(m): 10:26pm On Oct 24, 2021
Give but be careful not to turn to a beggar or go hungry cos of giving.

There's a funny thing about our present day society, if you give too much without condition people see you as a fool especially the female gender.

The one that annoys me most are people who call you only when they want something from you. These kind of people calls once on 6 month or yearly and they go straight to the point to ask what they want without asking how you are faring.

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Codebite: 10:27pm On Oct 24, 2021
RapistOnBail:

OP,

No listen to these beggars for nairaland wey dey advice u say givers never lack bla bla bla bullshits.. It’s all scam.

The day you go broke, all those guys u helped would turn their backs on u.

If you are lucky, they will assist u once and tell you to Fvck off.





God bless you I was just about to say this. Op na people when Sabi beg pass na him they use these givers never lack punch line every single time this subject is been discussed. They have this mindset that you should always give and don't hold back.

Ever since I stopped lending a helping hand to so called supposed friends of mine, my life done they move forward.
Sometimes, folks that come begging for financial assistance dress expensively, they wear clothes I won't dare price in the market(am I mad?).

I detest people who beg all the time, cut your coat according to your size you people won't hear! What is a 30,000naira salary earner doing with a UK used iphone X worth over 200k?

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Femmyfestus: 10:28pm On Oct 24, 2021
Idamond:
Good Nairalanders!

Don't mind my typo terminologies


I don't know if there's anyone facing these some thing..
This is what actually I'm passing through. Yours is even better a little. Someone that have not talk to me in months will call to ask money. The next time they will call is to ask again. I want to give but not to this people feeling entitled

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by frozen70(f): 10:30pm On Oct 24, 2021
Idamond:
Good Nairalanders!

Don't mind my typo terminologies


I don't know if there's anyone facing these some thing..

You cause all these wahala for yourself because you are too cold for them

Start minding your business, people will not be able to read you nor come too close to study you

You must have been a kind and gentle type, so they believe you won't say no

Be rugged let them see that, your mumu done do

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by brandsoncharlie: 10:30pm On Oct 24, 2021
Mercychen:
You should thank God you are in the position of giving and not the other way around. Or would you want to switch places with them?
Ask those begging, they wish to be in your position. So stop. Complaining.

What you should rather be doing is praying to God to sustain you in that position and increase you to a point where you'll have more than enough to give to the needy.
If you like let your community know that you are number 1 giver, when he's not there nobody will remember his family.
Op apply wisdom when giving because it can give a lot of pressure trying to meet people's needs all the time.

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by iLegendd(m): 10:33pm On Oct 24, 2021
Idamond:
Good Nairalanders!

Don't mind my typo terminologies


I don't know if there's anyone facing these some thing..

Lol

I won't talk.
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Nobody: 10:33pm On Oct 24, 2021
Tayosteve:


Ode, I can show you my transactions, I give more than I receive. I'm an economist ! If you give more than you receive, you will go broke and it's very possible many people will turn you down if you are broke.

He must not give to some beggars like you , or else he will cry and nothing will happen

Apply sense when reading quotes nah. The person you quoted was not pointing any accusing finger to you. He was in support of your first comment.

@GloShare, kindly ignore him. He didn't understand your post.

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Wannabenz: 10:34pm On Oct 24, 2021
You can do it Oo. I quit fb over a year ago due to begging but I'm active on Whatsapp, Twitter and nairaland. Perhaps you should start by not posting pictures on any social media for a while.

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by bluefilm: 10:35pm On Oct 24, 2021
Mercychen:
[s]You should thank God you are in the position of giving and not the other way around. Or would you want to switch places with them?Ask those begging, they wish to be in your position. So stop. Complaining.What you should rather be doing is praying to God to sustain you in that position and increase you to a point where you'll have more than enough to give to the needy[/s].

Nonsense.

Absolute nonsense. lipsrsealed

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Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by seyz91(m): 10:37pm On Oct 24, 2021
cheesy
richidinho:
Give them another opportunity they ll still vote Buhari for third term and resume begging immediately

Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by seyz91(m): 10:39pm On Oct 24, 2021
cheesy
Ninety6:
Good move my brother.., If you don't run from them now they will run from you when they finish you!
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by Hassanmaye(m): 10:40pm On Oct 24, 2021
tollyboy5:

Keep your advice to yourself. People call him yahoo boy. If he gets caught he'll be sorry for his ass and same people will blast him.
So people should die Abi
Re: I Want To Quit Friends & Social Media Because Of Too Much Of Financial Begging by GetMeRight: 10:41pm On Oct 24, 2021
Mercychen:


Nothing like using one's head. If you can, still give except you don't have that extra to spare.

No body will have naturally and still be meeting somebody for something. And if they keep coming to you, it's because they feel you have more than them and are capable.


Lol. I have seen a dude selling his deceased mother's land for 2 million naira. He wasted the money in a short period. Now, dude is fond of asking everyone around for N200 and N100. How many of the people giving him N100 have held 2m?

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