Pls I need help. I want to get married to a lady who have sacrifice so much for me to be a better person that I am now.
My wedding is first week of December, I have been fully committed into the whole process.
The source I wanted to take loan just disappointed me at the last minute.

My eldest brother who was also supposed to pay back some money I lend him, disappointed me. Non of them is supporting me financially and to refund my own money is a problem.

I have been a great uncle to their children, pay some school fees and offer help severally, but now that I need their help and support, everyone is busy fixing theirs.

Canceling this marriage at this moment, means great lost to me. We both have put in much efforts.

It will hurt her and her family so much. Especially after all these preparations and Invitations.

I have a job that pays me 80k in a month, I am not lazy. My cards are already out, our traditional clothes are with the tarlor already, all the necessary preparations have been made.

I need a loan of #400,000. I will pay back in 8 months time, i would love to spread it, to pay 50k monthly with the interest. Please, help me.

Hmmmmm

never borrow money to do any kind of party bro, its a dumb investment, e no dey e no dey period.

house10s:
never borrow money to do any kind of party bro, its a dumb investment, e no dey e no dey period.

Not party. We aren't doing any big party. But some necessary dowery.

I can't cancel everything now

I will advice you not to borrow, do not mortgage your future because of a 1 day event. If the money available to you can't meet the expenses of the traditional wedding, then scale down, unless you want to tell me the bride price is 400k.
Cut down on the invited guests, if possible just the immediate family members, food and drinks will reduce automatically. Na talk people go talk, at the end of the day, you both will be husband and wife....That is all that matters

It's alright

My brother I didn't bother reading because, the situation of this country can make somebody mad within a sec if you don't hold your emotions together.


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Dgoz:
I will advice you not to borrow, do not mortgage your future because of a 1 day event. If the money available to you can't meet the expenses of the traditional wedding, then scale down, unless you want to tell me the bride price is 400k.
Cut down on the invited guests, if possible just the immediate family members, food and drinks will reduce automatically. Na talk people go talk, at the end of the day, you both will be husband and wife....That is all that matters

The whole thing is on a small scale already. I have a job, she do business. We can meet up in paying off the loan.

Heartofluv54:
The whole thing is on a small scale already. I have a job, she do business. We can meet up in paying off the loan.

Well, it seems you have already made up your mind to take a loan. Good luck and congrats in advance

Can't you go ahead with the wedding without the loan? Since you said youve already put so many things in place?

Please if you can wave that which the 400k is needed for, do it and go ahead with the main thing. Stop giving yourself high BP. Or you postpone it. Simply text your invitees of the new development.

This is one reason I don't like public / flamboyant weddings. It's always easier to avoid any flops with low-key weddings.

Na wetin person hand reach na him e dey do. You mustn't go by society standard.

Whatever decision you have made concerning your wedding, never ever take a loan to fund your wedding...

I did my wedding during the COVID-19 when alot of people are struggling, and I'm a fulfilled man in the sense that, I never borrowed any dime to foot my wedding...

Initially, you will enjoy it that you borrowed the money, but when the time to pay would come, that's when you will be frowning your face...

Never borrow to do wedding, you can borrow to build your house, but wedding? Not advisable

That's life.

They all know that once u get married, it will be difficult to get help from u again. greedy humans.

Don't change the date, proceed with whatever u have. U will be surprise how beautiful the day will be.

Mercychen:
Can't you go ahead with the wedding without the loan? Since you said youve already put so many things in place?

Please if you can wave that which the 400k is needed for, do it and go ahead with the main thing. Stop giving yourself high BP. Or you postpone it. Simply text your invitees of the new development.

This is one reason I don't like public / flamboyant weddings. It's always easier to avoid any flops with low-key weddings.

Na wetin person hand reach na him e dey do. You mustn't go by society standard.

He should come and ask me. Keep things modest, they won't hear. My sister and I baked the cake, I sewed my wedding gown with a token, I made up my face myself, tied my gele, made my bead myself, decorated the venue (dad's compound) with my siblings and we had a small gathering of guests, served to their satisfaction with good food and drinks. A while later, same day, we were at work, hubby and I! We needed to make back the money spent. Mi o raye gb'edie sin!

The marriage is 11 years and kicking now, can't wish for another. Hubby is tingling me as I type. It's not by Elaborate and Loudness.

placeofallure:


He should come and ask me. Keep things modest, they won't hear. I sewed my wedding gown with a token, I made up my face myself, tied my gele, decorated the venue (dad's compound) with my siblings and we had a small gathering of guests, served to their satisfaction with good food and drinks. A while later, same day, we were at work, hubby and I! We needed to make back the money spent. Mi o raye gb'edie sin!

Gbam!

All my sister's that wedded, we were the wedding planners from start to finish.

The food, I prepared with big coal pot and firewood ( cooking is my thing) with the help of my other sisters we cooked a bag of rice.

Hired canopies and chairs outside our compound. Her guy ( now husband) was staying near a Palmwine deport ( before he built his own house) so my dad ordered some fresh pammy through him and they landed with it on that day.
Everything was organized among us.

Makeup, everybody na pro for that one and Marriage took place life and direct.

The other ones, I still cooked the three pots of party jollof myself. While my twin who was wedding prepared the soups for swallows herself. Neighbors helped us turn semo. So, What's all these 400k tension for?

Mercychen:


Gbam!

All my sister's that wedded, we were the wedding planners from start to finish.

The food, I prepared with big coal pot and firewood ( cooking is my thing) with the help of my other sisters we cooked a bag of rice.

Hired canopies and chairs outside our compound. Her guy ( now husband) was staying near a Palmwine deport ( before he built his own house) so my dad ordered some fresh pammy through him and they landed with it on that day.
Everything was organized within us.

Makeup, everybody na pro for that one and Marriage took place life and direct.

The other ones, I still cooked the three pots of party jollof myself. While my twin who was wedding prepared the soups for swallows herself. Neighbors helped us turn semo. So, What's all these 400k tension for?

I guess not all women are creative. Some ladies cannot lift a finger to save themselves from drowning.

placeofallure:


I guess not all women are creative. Some ladies cannot lift a finger to save themselves from drowning.

Okey-dokey then.

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I don't have intention to do an elaborate ceremony. I can pay back the way I plan it.
Please, someone should help me out. Calling it off now is the hardest things for me to do now,

GrowthPlug:

Sorry ma'am this is what I do to survive.
I can't vent my frustrations elsewhere, ma'am.

Ahh, hijacking people's threads and being senseless is what you do for a living. No wonder.

Heartofluv54:
Pls I need help. I want to get married to a lady who have sacrifice so much for me to be a better person that I am now.
My wedding is first week of December, I have been fully committed into the whole process.
The source I wanted to take loan just disappointed me at the last minute.

My eldest brother who was also supposed to pay back some money I lend him, disappointed me. Non of them is supporting me financially and to refund my own money is a problem.

I have been a great uncle to their children, pay some school fees and offer help severally, but now that I need their help and support, everyone is busy fixing theirs.

Canceling this marriage at this moment, means great lost to me. We both have put in much efforts.

It will hurt her and her family so much. Especially after all these preparations and Invitations.

I have a job that pays me 80k in a month, I am not lazy. My cards are already out, our traditional clothes are with the tarlor already, all the necessary preparations have been made.

I need a loan of #400,000. I will pay back in 8 months time, i would love to spread it, to pay 50k monthly with the interest. Please, help me.

Taking loan for marriage or wedding is stupid.


All you need is the wedding ring, take your vows and go home. You don't need those ceremomies.

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Number is on the signature

Person dey find money, you dey tell am how he go spend money wen e no get ....

Heartofluv54:
I need a loan of #400,000. I will pay back in 8 months time, i would love to spread it, to pay 50k monthly with the interest. Please, help me.

Instead, go do registry marriage for now. When you save up Money later on, and you still feel you are not married enough, then go do traditional ceremony and every other ceremony you can afford at that time.

Kobojunkie:
Instead, go do registry marriage for now. When you save up Money later on, and you still feel you are not married enough, then go do traditional ceremony and every other ceremony you can afford at that time.

Like go straight to do registry without paying the necessary traditional rite?

Heartofluv54:
Like go straight to do registry without paying the necessary traditional rite?

Go registry, fill form, sign papers and you are married.

If that no do you, then save up and do your traditional rites and every other rite you want for afterwards.

Ok

placeofallure:


He should come and ask me. Keep things modest, they won't hear. My sister and I baked the cake, I sewed my wedding gown with a token, I made up my face myself, tied my gele, made my bead myself, decorated the venue (dad's compound) with my siblings and we had a small gathering of guests, served to their satisfaction with good food and drinks. A while later, same day, we were at work, hubby and I! We needed to make back the money spent. Mi o raye gb'edie sin!

The marriage is 11 years and kicking now, can't wish for another. Hubby is tingling me as I type. It's not by Elaborate and Loudness.

Awwwwn.

I can do makeup too
I can bake
I can cater for Africa.
I have friends who can decorate, sew and take pics.
E remain small sha.
Our Lord is wonderful.

Saintmary:


Awwwwn.

I can do makeup too
I can bake
I can cater for Africa.
I have friends who can decorate, sew and take pics.
E remain small sha.
Our Lord is wonderful.

Good for you my sister. You can use all the money you would have spent to invest in something that will give you a bountiful ROI.

Don't attempt to borrow for a wedding. Discuss with your fiancée and in-laws. Scale down the budget to what is affordable and not what is required.

Nigerians and their unnecessary show-off.
I once had a colleague who was a general manager. The wife is an accountant that worked in Citibank. They fixed their wedding on a weekday. No invite card. Just called some friends. They lived at ilupeju in a duplex. We closed from work, drove down to their house. The wife and her friends served us. The husband brought out his home theatre to the lawn in the compound.

We ate, drank, danced and went back home. The next day, they were at work. Life is simple.

placeofallure:


Good for you my sister. You can use all the money you would have spent to invest in something that will give you a bountiful ROI.

Thanks sis.

Heartofluv54:
I don't have intention to do an elaborate ceremony. I can pay back the way I plan it.
Please, someone should help me out. Calling it off now is the hardest things for me to do now,

Starting married life with debt on your head and this in what looks like a downward economy, you sure say you get sense so?