[quote author=Iyaebe post=107580951]That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

Please show me proof from the bible, how did Moses get married? What about Isaac? The only bible recorded in the new testament was not celebrated in the synagogue so where did you get that from? White wedding is borrowed from the white folks and it is not biblical. Show proof if I'm wrong

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

Who told you that? Anything not in the scripture and ordained by Christ is false. Jesus attended a traditional wedding. Isaac got married traditional.. And Paul who wrote most of the new testament did not specify such. Get your facts right?

Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

In the traditional marriage, do they make vow to deities or shrines? The earlier we understand life, the better for us. Do church wedding if you can but don't come here to condemn whose did traditional marriage and move in with his wife mostly because of limited resources

I beg to disagree with you. the so-called White Wedding is the white man's traditional marriage. this is part of the reasons why our culture is going extinct.

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

where is in the bible that man and woman are making vpw before God?

Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

Except you wanna Deceive yourself,You cannot Profess JESUS Christ and leave that out.
Culture cannot substitute the Place of the Church.
We are Belivers in Christ and until you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.

These things are known right from the introduction.

No dey deceive urself o
Which body of Christ are u really talking about?
The whites that introduced church, do they do traditional wedding too?

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

Do you have bible verse to back this ( strong one at that)

BabaIbo:
This post is for intending grooms.

I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me.

Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable.

This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done.

Dear single men, what do you think about this?
Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding?

To the married ones, did you experience this?
How were you able to handle it?

MODs, please do the needful.

Finish your marriage rites before living with your wife.

If the traditional wedding is your final wedding rite, your wife should move in with you
HOWEVER
If the traditional wedding is NOT your final wedding rite, your wife should then not move in with you

Finish your marriage rite first

Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

Except you wanna Deceive yourself,You cannot Profess JESUS Christ and leave that out.
Culture cannot substitute the Place of the Church.
We are Belivers in Christ and until you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.

These things are known right from the introduction.

Let me ask you some few questions and I need some honest response.
1. The wedding at Galilee, was is done in synagogue or at the house of the bride?
2. Is there any strong bible verse that supports wedding at the church?
3. Did the men of faith had their weddings in the synagogue?
4. The westerners who introduced wedding, do they observe two weddings?

After traditional wedding, your wife is fully yours!

Other weddings are ex cetera!

Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

Is this from a legal position? Or your opinion?

Question is what is Churching wedding? Officially even the bible recognizes and endorses traditional marriage.

If the church wedding is so important then why not just go to the church and then go home without doing the traditional stuff? "If you try am na curse self"

The only key important thing I still see interesting about church wedding is the fact that some churches tends to make you go through some essential stuff like genotype, blood group, hiv test etc. Which if not for the church, some ignorant persons are not so concerned about vital issues like this, Dem go tell you say na love.

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

Ticket ke...You are not aware some people bleep the hell out of themselves before moving to next level to pay bride price sef..

The traditional wedding is the authentic wedding, which is more of paying dowry...After that, the lady must follow her man to his ancestral home, to be welcomed by her man's people, both physically and spiritually..


I know we are in digital age, but tradition must be tradition...We don't even know when and where we complicate life by just following the herd mentality.

With this your way of reasoning atimes, you will frustrate a man who decided to make you his partner.

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

Traditional and court is still ok. Church is to please the crowd. Lol

Bt asfar as I’m concerned marriage is about the family giving out the gal not about the church or court or whoever.

If the family or guardian has given the approval and formalities even if we do it it a garden or on a yacht with few friends and witnesses we are married. I don’t care what anybody thinks.

Peace081:
Once you've paid her bride price, na you get her be that

100% period!..

Munzy14:

100% period!..

E go better make una do everything the same day. Wedding by day, and trad/reception by evening. Onye richaa, ya lawa.
Na the new style now. E dey save stress, and cut costs.

Go to court, get married. Everything else is unnecessary.

That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding..


Says who?.. Any biblical back up or just that your pastor is telling you otherwise?

After the traditional rites,I'm taking you straight to my house.if my pastor like let him not do the rituals

This is a forum. Everything is everyone's opinion. Never take things serious.

airsaylongcome:


Is this from a legal position? Or your opinion?

Couples should decide on ONE legal marriage.

Do that one and continue your life.

BabaIbo:
This post is for intending grooms.

I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me.

Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable.

This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done.

Dear single men, what do you think about this?
Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding?

To the married ones, did you experience this?
How were you able to handle it?

MODs, please do the needful.

ednut1:
There should be one wedding which is trad. All these ones are just nonsense and waste of funds

no, court is the major wedding

What you know today as white wedding is the traditional marriage of the white upon which a certificate is issued (statutory). Marriages were contracted by families and not preachers even Jesus attended a marriage and no record shows him joining any couple. Church weddings started when religion was been mixed with governance. Please let's research, the truth is there to make us less ignorant.

Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

Except you wanna Deceive yourself,You cannot Profess JESUS Christ and leave that out.
Culture cannot substitute the Place of the Church.
We are Belivers in Christ and until you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.

These things are known right from the introduction.

Iyaebe:
That vows before God is the most important after bride price, so you are only fully and truly married after church wedding

Your ancestors did church wedding?
Abeg, get out.

Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

Except you wanna Deceive yourself,You cannot Profess JESUS Christ and leave that out.
Culture cannot substitute the Place of the Church.
We are Belivers in Christ and until you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.

These things are known right from the introduction.

Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, free yourself from self inflicted bondage.

Mental slavery is the worst of all slavery because the sufferer is oblivious to it.

BabaIbo:
This post is for intending grooms.

I made this post because it was one of the major reasons I parted with my ex(it was a serious relationship) few years ago, then I wasn't financially stable as I am now, so my decision was inline with my capability then. She told me she won't move in with me unless I do church wedding even after the trad. and she was serious about it. She wasn't ready to reason with me.

Considering the fact that majority of the men( those within the marriageable age range and above but are not financially stable enough to run everything at once) have the plan of doing the white wedding first, later on do the church wedding when they are more financially stable.

This led me to running a check recently and I find out that in some homes or families, they don't allow their daughters to move in with their husbands even after the men have paid their bride prices, until the church(or white) wedding has been done.

Dear single men, what do you think about this?
Can you cope with it until you're ready for your church wedding?

To the married ones, did you experience this?
How were you able to handle it?

MODs, please do the needful.

I'm not doing 2 weddings! if it's trad that's it. if she does not want it, she ain't my wife.

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

says who?

Righteousness2:
She was Absolutely right! That is How it is meant to be.

Except you wanna Deceive yourself,You cannot Profess JESUS Christ and leave that out.
Culture cannot substitute the Place of the Church.
We are Belivers in Christ and until you are wedded before the Body of Christ you don't have a Complete Marriage.

That is Exactly what happened for my sisters.

These things are known right from the introduction.

MOG I always respect you posts. Jesus Christ is not left out of most traditional marriages. Most traditional marriages nowadays starts and ends with prayers to God in the name of Jesus Christ. And God is present everywhere. I'm envisaging a situation where marriages can be blessed by the pastor even in the same ceremony as the traditional marriage, they also take their vows there after going through all the church requirements and marriage classes. God is present everywhere. I always find it funny when the couples are asked will you take him or her as your husband or wife even after the traditional marriage.

After my traditional wedding my mother said to me: go and bring your wife let's go, you are not owning them. I went immediately, carry the gal put for motor... Vum.
After some days my mum says: if you decide to do church wedding: good. She can only go to their house, few days to the church wedding and prepare from their. But for now she will be in your home and do the duties of a married woman...

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

According to what constitution. If the case is taken to a customary court, the groom will win the bride's family hands down

Iyaebe:
All of you men going to pay only bride price and postponing the rest are just looking for ticket to free sex.She's fully your wife and free to move in with you only after church wedding.

i disagrees with you once traditional rites are done the woman becomes your wife.

Iyaebe:
Oh,just because of the peanut you paid as bride price is enough to claim somebody's daughter abi. Mtcheww

You sound like an ingrate. You call bride price peanut as if you can afford it if tables were turned. If it's peanut then tell your family not to accept it when it's time for you to get married.

Yes that peanut is enough for him to claim somebody's daughter, you can't eat your cake and have it. Once that peanut is paid the man's decision supercedes that of her father as far as the girl is involved