IgiveLadiesBj:
I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no

Bastard1stborn:


Exactly what I'm talking about. If Nairalanders knows who you are and how low your standard of living is... How poor your family background is, they may stone you to death.

Please check yourself and be honest of you are liable to tell if someone is living a miserable life.

You are always funny.

I wish you know who is here... I know you man. Don't stress it. Just ignore if you don't want to jam trailer this afternoon because I know you very well.

micxwell:

I'm in your WhatsApp group o

IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no

IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no

helinues:
I stopped repeating myself. If I tell you NO, whatever you might be saying after that , I won't respond again

If it's been long time we talked, and you decided to call me instead of sending message first, Sha make sure your phone is on charging.

When people sometimes call you out of the blue, they must have prepared themselves for whatever they want to say while the conversation would caught you unaware. Request/demands are hard to turn down in such situations
.
I no get time for nonsense

IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no

IgiveLadiesBj:
Hello people of Nairaland, I am at the point of my life where I want to stop pleasing people regardless.

I find it difficult to say no especially to family and close friends and this has affected me badly in all ramifications especially in financial terms.
Please how do I say No and stand my ground without feeling bad or even care how they feel after I say no

Magnoliaa:
People can only advice you and give you all sort of tips, but the decision ultimately lies with you. To take action and follow through with changing the way you think. It's self-development and it happens over time.

I think what you're really fearing is their opinions and judgement of you when you refuse them, so you try to avoid that by giving in to their demands. But you have to realise that opinions do not harm -- if you don't let them. That's just what they are: opinions. And you shouldn't care about them.

When you realize this, you'll be on your way to breaking out of the grasp of people's expectations and fulfilling them.

On the other hand, think of what you stand to lose by being a free-for-all person. Always remind yourself. Keep it in mind. Brokenness, hunger, the feelings of low self-esteem, short-changing yourself, etc. Would you rather prefer to continue feeling that way?

If everything breaks down today, these people you find it hard to refuse their demands, would they be there for you in such times?

helinues:
I stopped repeating myself. If I tell you NO, whatever you might be saying after that , I won't respond again

If it's been long time we talked, and you decided to call me instead of sending message first, Sha make sure your phone is on charging.

When people sometimes call you out of the blue, they must have prepared themselves for whatever they want to say while the conversation would caught you unaware. Request/demands are hard to turn down in such situations
.
I no get time for nonsense

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar

Bros op is just like me

That is my new years resolution anyway

I pity people alot and it is affecting me already

I heard alot of times that when you really want to become a millionaire you have to be tough ....
That the likes of dangote, otedola don't pity humans that is why they are who they are today

tempem:
Give honest reasons for saying "No!" That works for me.

Lightway:


That's a lie

People's opinion of you can actually harm you in the future. If people spread lies that you're a rapist won't that harm you.

If they say you're a prostitue, ashewo, runs girls... Won't that harm you

If they say you're a theif, won't that harm you

Faller:
Simple, You tell the person to go upstairs, then you stay downstairs and shout no

Faller:
Simple, You tell the person to go upstairs, then you stay downstairs and shout no

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar

Bros op is just like me

That is my new years resolution anyway

I pity people alot and it is affecting me already

I heard alot of times that when you really want to become a millionaire you have to be tough ....
That the likes of dangote, otedola don't pity humans that is why they are who they are today

Magnoliaa:
People can only advise you and give you all sort of tips, but the decision ultimately lies with you. To take action and follow through with changing the way you think. It's self-development and it happens over time.

I think what you're really fearing is their opinions and judgement of you when you refuse them, so you try to avoid that by giving in to their demands. But you have to realise that opinions do not harm -- if you don't let them. That's just what they are: opinions. And you shouldn't care about them.

When you realize this, you'll be on your way to breaking out of the grasp of people's expectations and fulfilling them.

On the other hand, think of what you stand to lose by being a free-for-all person. Always remind yourself. Keep it in mind. Brokenness, hunger, the feelings of low self-esteem, short-changing yourself, etc. Would you rather prefer to continue feeling that way?

If everything breaks down today, these people you find it hard to refuse their demands, would they be there for you in such times?

Bastard1stborn:


Exactly what I'm talking about. If Nairalanders knows who you are and how low your standard of living is... How poor your family background is, they may stone you to death.

Please check yourself and be honest of you are liable to tell if someone is living a miserable life.

You are always funny.

I wish you know who is here... I know you man. Don't stress it. Just ignore if you don't want to jam trailer this afternoon because I know you very well.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar

Bros op is just like me

That is my new years resolution anyway

I pity people alot and it is affecting me already

I heard alot of times that when you really want to become a millionaire you have to be tough ....
That the likes of dangote, otedola don't pity humans that is why they are who they are today

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggar

Bros op is just like me

That is my new years resolution anyway

I y they are who they are today

Magnoliaa:

If everything breaks down today, these people you find it hard to refuse their demands, would they be there for you in such times?

MufasaLion:


I don't make myself easily accessible to people unless I wish to.

Dreytonisback:


Keep that up , never change
It's called self respect not pride or ego

Lights up my kpoli in peace

MufasaLion:





You're right. I don't joke with my self-esteem.

Anyways, listen to Light It Up - Migos × Pop Smoke while enjoying your Mary.

helinues:
I stopped repeating myself. If I tell you NO, whatever you might be saying after that , I won't respond again

If it's been long time we talked, and you decided to call me instead of sending message first, Sha make sure your phone is on charging.

When people sometimes call you out of the blue, they must have prepared themselves for whatever they want to say while the conversation would caught you unaware. Request/demands are hard to turn down in such situations
.
I no get time for nonsense