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Re: I Don't Know If This Is Normal? Nairalanders I Need Your Help. by Hurt: 2:07pm On Jan 07, 2022
Goodvibes8:
Good evening NL's, hope we're all having a wonderful 2022.

I'm an intelligent, smart and hard working guy. I'm not really an introvert because I do visit places.

The issue is, I always prefer to be an assistant than to be the Leader. Infact despite been good at what I'm doing I hate taking the Lead. Another thing is...If I work as your asst. and I'm doing my job very good, I'm fond of diverting the thanks and gratitude to you (the boss).

During my Nysc 2019, I was elected to be the Financial secretary in our CDS but I declined, I said I would rather be the asst. Fin sec.

I attend Winners, last sunday (1st Sunday) our senior pastor called out new excos that will be running the church affairs all through this year and to my greatest surprise, I was privileged to be the Head of technical unit.

I rejected it, I met with the pastor after service, He said I should write him a letter stating why I don't want the position and why I also chose to be the assistant, then if i convince him enough, he will reshuffle it.

Despite been a graduate in Accounting, I'm also a good sound engineer, Infact I lecture even graduates in engineering how to set and control sound (Pls I'm not bragging, I'm Jst telling you how serious the issue is).

I don't like Leading. I don't know if it's normal.

I'm on this table too.
Re: I Don't Know If This Is Normal? Nairalanders I Need Your Help. by tianshie(m): 12:37pm On Feb 25, 2022
Your girlfriend noticed this attitude, and now you're assistant-boyfriend.
Re: I Don't Know If This Is Normal? Nairalanders I Need Your Help. by Lucrativress(f): 11:43pm On Feb 25, 2022
Goodvibes8:
Good evening NL's, hope we're all having a wonderful 2022.

I'm an intelligent, smart and hard working guy. I'm not really an introvert because I do visit places.

The issue is, I always prefer to be an assistant than to be the Leader. Infact despite been good at what I'm doing I hate taking the Lead. Another thing is...If I work as your asst. and I'm doing my job very good, I'm fond of diverting the thanks and gratitude to you (the boss).

During my Nysc 2019, I was elected to be the Financial secretary in our CDS but I declined, I said I would rather be the asst. Fin sec.

I attend Winners, last sunday (1st Sunday) our senior pastor called out new excos that will be running the church affairs all through this year and to my greatest surprise, I was privileged to be the Head of technical unit.

I rejected it, I met with the pastor after service, He said I should write him a letter stating why I don't want the position and why I also chose to be the assistant, then if i convince him enough, he will reshuffle it.

Despite been a graduate in Accounting, I'm also a good sound engineer, Infact I lecture even graduates in engineering how to set and control sound (Pls I'm not bragging, I'm Jst telling you how serious the issue is).

I don't like Leading. I don't know if it's normal.
I don't have a problem with your preference of being told what to do.
My only problem is what happens when you have no one telling you what to do?
I.e
When they start telling you maybe in your late 40's you're too old for this Job.
I think I know what will happen to you.
You'll be lost in yourself, you'll only live in a past you can no longer have.
The scariest part is you won't know how to help yourself and no one will know how to help you.
We get our dreams but we don't always get them forever.
Start asking yourself what happens when no openings for an assistant is coming.
Re: I Don't Know If This Is Normal? Nairalanders I Need Your Help. by Karleb(m): 1:06am On Feb 26, 2022
Whoever created Bitcoin is unknown till today and has never spent any dime from Bitcoin.

Some people just don't like to be in public eyes.
Re: I Don't Know If This Is Normal? Nairalanders I Need Your Help. by Karleb(m): 1:07am On Feb 26, 2022
Lucrativress:

I don't have a problem with your preference of being told what to do.
My only problem is what happens when you have no one telling you what to do?
I.e
When they start telling you maybe in your late 40's you're too old for this Job.
I think I know what will happen to you.
You'll be lost in yourself, you'll only live in a past you can no longer have.
The scariest part is you won't know how to help yourself and no one will know how to help you.
We get our dreams but we don't always get them forever.
Start asking yourself what happens when no openings for an assistant is coming.

No vex o, but what are you talking about?
Re: I Don't Know If This Is Normal? Nairalanders I Need Your Help. by frozen70(f): 6:02am On Feb 26, 2022
Goodvibes8:
Good evening NL's, hope we're all having a wonderful 2022.

I'm an intelligent, smart and hard working guy. I'm not really an introvert because I do visit places.

The issue is, I always prefer to be an assistant than to be the Leader. Infact despite been good at what I'm doing I hate taking the Lead. Another thing is...If I work as your asst. and I'm doing my job very good, I'm fond of diverting the thanks and gratitude to you (the boss).

During my Nysc 2019, I was elected to be the Financial secretary in our CDS but I declined, I said I would rather be the asst. Fin sec.

I attend Winners, last sunday (1st Sunday) our senior pastor called out new excos that will be running the church affairs all through this year and to my greatest surprise, I was privileged to be the Head of technical unit.

I rejected it, I met with the pastor after service, He said I should write him a letter stating why I don't want the position and why I also chose to be the assistant, then if i convince him enough, he will reshuffle it.

Despite been a graduate in Accounting, I'm also a good sound engineer, Infact I lecture even graduates in engineering how to set and control sound (Pls I'm not bragging, I'm Jst telling you how serious the issue is).

I don't like Leading. I don't know if it's normal.

You don't want to lead simply because you don't want to be accountable

If you are very sure of yourself take the lead and it will guide you for life

Responsibility is given to responsible people
Re: I Don't Know If This Is Normal? Nairalanders I Need Your Help. by Lucrativress(f): 11:01am On Feb 26, 2022
Karleb:


No vex o, but what are you talking about?
Lemme break it down
He prefers being directed.
If he later get sacked or something happens in his 40's and they ask for young bloods so they can't take him.
What will happen to his life by then since he can't direct himself but prefers to be directed?
Se you get?
If he can no longer get an Assistant job for reasons beyond him,how will he come to terms with his life..
Re: I Don't Know If This Is Normal? Nairalanders I Need Your Help. by Karleb(m): 12:09pm On Feb 26, 2022
Lucrativress:

Lemme break it down
He prefers being directed.
If he later get sacked or something happens in his 40's and they ask for young bloods so they can't take him.
What will happen to his life by then since he can't direct himself but prefers to be directed?
Se you get?
If he can no longer get an Assistant job for reasons beyond him,how will he come to terms with his life..

By that time, he would have had enough experience to make him suitable for the post of leadership.

He's not going to regret anything, at least not in the way you think.

You're taking it too seriously/deeply.
Re: I Don't Know If This Is Normal? Nairalanders I Need Your Help. by Lucrativress(f): 8:06pm On Feb 26, 2022
Karleb:


By that time, he would have had enough experience to make him suitable for the post of leadership.

He's not going to regret anything, at least not in the way you think.

You're taking it too seriously/deeply.
He has the experience of the job description already.
But how will he have the leadership experience when he has never led before?
It's his mind you know,not his knowledge..
Re: I Don't Know If This Is Normal? Nairalanders I Need Your Help. by Karleb(m): 8:09pm On Feb 26, 2022
Lucrativress:

He has the experience of the job description already.
But how will he have the leadership experience when he has never led before?
It's his mind you know,not his knowledge..

People that are leading, did they bring the leadership qualities from heaven?

Assistants are the next best candidate for leadership after the leaders themselves.
Re: I Don't Know If This Is Normal? Nairalanders I Need Your Help. by Lucrativress(f): 8:56pm On Feb 26, 2022
Karleb:


People that are leading, did they bring the leadership qualities from heaven?

Assistants are the next best candidate for leadership after the leaders themselves.
But you read him say he doesn't like leading na
at all
Re: I Don't Know If This Is Normal? Nairalanders I Need Your Help. by Karleb(m): 9:03pm On Feb 26, 2022
Lucrativress:

But you read him say he doesn't like leading na
at all

If his life or livelihood depends on it, he will.

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