I and my friend, had a conversation if a woman could contribute to her bride price or not.

My friend said, a woman can assist; if her husband to be can't meet up with the bride price and if she truly loves him. Immediately, I disagreed because, culture is culture. When a woman contributes to her bride price, she only serves to weaken the noble motive behind the practice. Such behavior is tasteless and offers no reason, save for indicating that the man is indeed incapable to even perform a simple task as giving dowry.

My friend asked, what if the parents ask for what the man can't afford? My respond, this could appear to be ‘buying’ of a wife as a commodity, which can result in abuse towards a woman if she does not fulfil her ‘value’ or if she attempts to leave and the bride price cannot be repaid. However, this is a subjective question which is based upon a person's feelings, if a woman can contribute to her bride price based on "love", who am I to have a say.

What's your opinion?

How many anime you don watch wey you gather mind call yourself animegirl?

Pls we should be clear on this. If madam wants to answer married woman, she should put her money where her mouth is. After all, after the event na she go dey talk am pass. Ofcos only if the husband to be explicitly asks her to hold her money

Tadeknkeepcalm:
How many anime you don watch wey you gather mind call yourself animegirl?

You are the same person who is gonna send her a Gmail later on telling her how beautiful she is..stop being an hypocrite and face the topic or get your little ass out of here..
Speaking to women as if they are your kids at home...

FERNANDEZISBACK:

You are the same person who is gonna send her a Gmail later on telling her how beautiful she is..stop being an hypocrite and face the topic or get your little ass out of here..
Speaking to women as if they are your kids at home...

Anyone who has at least two braincells. Would know that was just a tongue in cheek comment and nothing to get worked up over. Yet, lover boy is here forming knight in shining armour.

I have not directly mailed those whom I regularly reply their mentions here and follow how much more a random nairalander that I made a reply on her post

I'd like to imagine you had a bad day and this display of stupidity is not actually yourself speaking.

Culture or no culture
Virgin or wh0re
I nor dey pay shishi ( dat na if i even marry)
Pay my groom price, i pay same or less amount for your bride price.. #genderequality
Na mumu dey waste money un-top irrelevancies such as marriage..
You never build house/ travel outside go flex/ buy car/ go watch live champions league final, and you wan waste over 5M on top one okpo

Tadeknkeepcalm:

Anyone who has at least two braincells. Would know that was just a tongue in cheek comment and nothing to get worked up over. Yet, lover boy is here forming knight in shining armour.

I have not directly mailed those whom I regularly reply their mentions here and follow how much more a random nairalander that I made a reply on her post

I'd like to imagine you had a bad day and this display of stupidity is not actually yourself speaking.

Then get yourself some attitude cos that comment doesn't in any way relate to the question she asked..

Stop being a weirdo online son..

Zabiboy:
Culture or no culture
Virgin or wh0re
I nor dey pay shishi ( dat na if i even marry)
Pay my groom price, i pay same or less amount for your bride price.. #genderequality
Na mumu dey waste money un-top irrelevancies such as marriage..
You never build house/ travel outside go flex/ buy car/ go watch live champions league final, and you wan waste over 5M on top one okpo

I see your point here and it's meaningful..I see no point paying for a bride price when she ain't a commodity..

First and foremost, there are certain things that are needed to make a successful marriage ceremony aside the bride price, I once attended a marriage where the bride price was #500 but the guy actually paid for other things that made up the event, now if the support happens to be the other expenses that makes a successful ceremony it's fine depending on the view of those involved , but whatever is the bride price in actual sense should be paid by the guy provided he wants to marry according to the African culture.
A side observation****
You ladies support whatever culture favors you, since culture is culture, it's not the African culture for a man to help you in chores or open doors for you to pass, it's not the African culture for a man to seek his wives opinion but rather treat her like a subordinate, it's also the African culture for a man to marry as many wives as he wishes, I hope you abide by these cultures since culture is culture.

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Then get yourself some attitude cos that comment doesn't in any way relate to the question she asked..

Stop being a weirdo online son..

Get off my mention.

You've shown to the world, while not under duress, how tone-deaf and daft an individual can be.

I no know the stupid attitude the werey wey no Sabi basic comprehension dey talk.

Tadeknkeepcalm:

Get off mention.

You've shown to the world, while not under duress, how tone-deaf and daft an individual can be.

I no know the stupid attitude the werey wey no Sabi basic comprehension dey talk.

Get a life and stop asking gullible questions that doesn't in any way relate to a post...
You ain't a kid stop acting like one..

Culture is culture... I will pay the bride price if only I marry her a virgin

drnoel:
Old we should be clear on this. If madam wants to answer married woman, she should put her mouth where her mouth is. After all, after the event na she go dey talk am pass. Ofcos only if the husband to be explicitly asks her to hold her money

depends on your tribe..in my tribe(Igbo) it's not cool..she can support me in the trad marriage or white wedding, not the bride price..

Animegirl:
I and my friend, had a conversation if a woman could contribute to her bride price or not.

My friend said, a woman can assist; if her husband to be can't meet up with the bride price and if she truly loves him. Immediately, I disagreed because, culture is culture. When a woman contributes to her bride price, she only serves to weaken the noble motive behind the practice. Such behavior is tasteless and offers no reason, save for indicating that the man is indeed incapable to even perform a simple task as giving dowry.

My friend asked, what if the parents ask for what the man can't afford? My respond, this could appear to be ‘buying’ of a wife as a commodity, which can result in abuse towards a woman if she does not fulfil her ‘value’ or if she attempts to leave and the bride price cannot be repaid. However, this is a subjective question which is based upon a person's feelings, if a woman can contribute to her bride price based on "love", who am I to have a say.

What's your opinion?

A woman can assist if the bills of paying or doing those traditional rights are too much on the man I don't see anything wrong there. Moreover how did culture came about ? It's created by man. In my opinion bride price should even be scrap it doesn't contribute anything to the union it only creates AVENUE for intend groom to be exploited.

Animegirl:
I and my friend, had a conversation if a woman could contribute to her bride price or not.

My friend said, a woman can assist; if her husband to be can't meet up with the bride price and if she truly loves him. Immediately, I disagreed because, culture is culture. When a woman contributes to her bride price, she only serves to weaken the noble motive behind the practice. Such behavior is tasteless and offers no reason, save for indicating that the man is indeed incapable to even perform a simple task as giving dowry.

My friend asked, what if the parents ask for what the man can't afford? My respond, this could appear to be ‘buying’ of a wife as a commodity, which can result in abuse towards a woman if she does not fulfil her ‘value’ or if she attempts to leave and the bride price cannot be repaid. However, this is a subjective question which is based upon a person's feelings, if a woman can contribute to her bride price based on "love", who am I to have a say.

What's your opinion?

If you want to talk culture then the man must pay it all. However, the girl must be a virgin. Not fat.Feminine. Young. Cook. Clean

FERNANDEZISBACK:

Get a life and stop asking gullible questions that doesn't in any way relate to a post...
You ain't a kid stop acting like one..

You're a complete fool. The comment was not directed at you so I don't understand what your problem is. You gaffed and you've also realized your stupidity yet you're still forming high and mighty. Never in your life attempt to tell me what or what not to post.

Tadeknkeepcalm:

You're a complete fool. The comment was not directed at you so I don't understand what your problem is. You gaffed and you've also realized your stupidity yet you're still forming high and mighty. Never in your life attempt to tell me what or what not to post.

You do that again I will scold you aiit..you don't do that.. ranting unnecessarily..
Next time learn how to go straight to a point.

LINTUNE:
depends on your tribe..in my tribe(Igbo) it's not cool..she can support me in the trad marriage or white wedding, not the bride price..

Still, who would know where U put her money? Isn't only U two? Unless she is the type to go around telling people, hence belittling her husband.
Pls she should put her money where her mouth is.