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Nigerian + American = Undateable? by PureOhio(f): 8:44am On Jun 20, 2011 |
I went to a Nigerian get together in Atlanta recently, and I met some really nice Nigerian guys. They were all cool and assumed both my parents were Nigerians, then they found out my mom was an African American and they totally lost interest in me. That hadn't been the first time I'm experiencing stuffs like this from Nigerian guys. What's up with that? My Dad is a Nigerian, while my Mum is an AA. She lived in Nigeria for very a significant period of time and she's very familiar with the culture (so, it's not as if my parents are "non-Nigerians". I like Nigerian guys, but I don't know what's up with them? I don't wanna lie about where I come from. What do I do guys? Your input and advice will be appreciated. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by MsPotato(f): 8:49am On Jun 20, 2011 |
I dont think its about your nationality. I know Nigerians are one of the most friendliest people on this planet and I dont think they actually give a toss about a persons nationality or race. I think it has sumthin to do with your character or maybe you have said sumthin that offended them |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by PureOhio(f): 8:56am On Jun 20, 2011 |
Ms. Potato: But I didn't say anything bad or offensive. In fact, one of the older brothers of the guys introduced me to them and they were all cool with me. 190_@: Please don't say that. I really am looking for an answers. My Nigerian heritage is as much a part of me as my American heritage |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by MsPotato(f): 9:01am On Jun 20, 2011 |
PureOhio: The best way to find out is to ask them. Since u said the older brothers were the one that introduced you to them, than ask those older brothers instead and tell them about your concerns. Cause I honestly dont think its about your nationality. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by PureOhio(f): 9:09am On Jun 20, 2011 |
190_@: Cars? Swimming pool? Nintendo? Why would any of those things matter to me? A man's possessions aren't what my heart wants. Ms. Potato: Good idea. Some of my parents friends will be in Cleveland this week for a fund raiser so I'll try asking the guys when I see them. I sure hope your right though because this has happened to me before with other Nigerian guys. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by MsPotato(f): 9:14am On Jun 20, 2011 |
190_@: Typical Nigerian Boy u are. PureOhio, dont believe this 190 guy. He is not serious at all |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by PureOhio(f): 9:24am On Jun 20, 2011 |
190_@: Excuse me? What kind of girl do you think I am? If this is the kind of man you are, then please keep your money. I'm not one of those girls. Ms. Potato: I hope he's not serious. Those are not nice things to say about my people. 190_@: Mr. 190_@, I am not property or produce. There is no market here. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by Goldieluks: 9:26am On Jun 20, 2011 |
PureOhio: Lmao,don't mind him jor,he's a joker! |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by jaybee3(m): 9:31am On Jun 20, 2011 |
PureOhio:Are you sure they didn't lose interest cos of the way you came across? Men don't usually lose interest by having mere conversations especially to pretty girls like you. We only lose interest if the girl comes across has having some loose bolts in her head or just plain dumb/arrogant. Anyhoo, ain't nothing wrong with you, you just need to look outside of your comfort zone. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by PureOhio(f): 9:41am On Jun 20, 2011 |
jay bee: Honestly, I can't really afford to be rude or mean to these guys or anyone else for that matter. Their family and my family are in the same circle of Nigerian friends. Even if I hated them, I'm kinda stuck with them for the next couple of years lol. My father and their parents grew up in the same area, went to the same schools, traveled to the same places so we're all pretty much tied to each other whether we like it or not. I'm sure you kinda see where I'm going with this. And thank you for the compliment. 190_@: Do you call all new girls pumpkin? Goldieluks: Lol, oh I see. I guess that's his thing? |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by Nobody: 9:52am On Jun 20, 2011 |
What part of Nigerian is your dad from? have you ever been to Nigeria? |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by jaybee3(m): 10:01am On Jun 20, 2011 |
PureOhio:Try dating outside of that circle. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by PureOhio(f): 10:04am On Jun 20, 2011 |
jennykadry: My Dad was born in Lagos. His father is from Anambra and his mother was born in Osun state but was raised in Abuja. Yes, I've been to Nigeria before. 190_@: What current dude? I didn't saying I was dating anyone jay bee: lol funny thing is, I've never actually dated within the circle |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by PureOhio(f): 10:08am On Jun 20, 2011 |
190_@: No thank you. Sorry but I didn't post the thread to snag a cyber boyfriend |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by Nobody: 10:20am On Jun 20, 2011 |
When was the last time you went to Nigeria? how long were you there for? 190 stop it already, you are the reason why people post their stories here and run away And will you pure ohio ignore him and mind your thread? the thread is loosing it's taste with your back and forth goose play |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by MMM2(m): 10:22am On Jun 20, 2011 |
pureohio relax and dont worry, i will hook u up with Mr. Cork dats all u need. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by PureOhio(f): 10:27am On Jun 20, 2011 |
jennykadry: I was in Nigeria about a year and a half ago. I spent the whole summer there. Sorry, I didn't mean to cause prolems M M M: Who? Look, I'm not here to be hooked, married, or anything else. I just wanted to see there was an explanation for the whole thing. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by PureOhio(f): 10:45am On Jun 20, 2011 |
Please stop all of this!!! I need some answers. If you don't have any, make way for people who do. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by violent(m): 10:46am On Jun 20, 2011 |
@Poster: ---Trolls, learn to ignore them; 190 MMM Mr Cork They are absolutely capable of exhibiting the most annoying e-habits known to man! |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by MMM2(m): 11:34am On Jun 20, 2011 |
op but u re single. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by MMM2(m): 11:37am On Jun 20, 2011 |
violent: so dis is d answer 2 her question. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by emofine(f): 11:41am On Jun 20, 2011 |
Nigerian + American = Undateable? PureOhio: PureOhio it's kinda amusing and ironic that you would ask such a question especially since you're a product of such union As far as I know nationality is not usually a constraint for many Nigerians - especially the guys |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by tpia5: 12:09pm On Jun 20, 2011 |
Poster if you were fully one or the other they might have paid you more mind. If you were half white, that might also count for something with some of them. Unfortunately, nigerians are in the business of creating mixed people all over the planet, but integrating these mixed people is another thing entirely. Of course its possible you said something or acted in a manner that put them off, but even then the sudden coolness is rather weird. I'd say date outside that circle. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by violent(m): 12:13pm On Jun 20, 2011 |
Poster if you were fully one or the other they might have paid you more mind. Is "mind" a form of legal tender? just asking. . |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by MsPotato(f): 12:50pm On Jun 20, 2011 |
PureOhio, Kindly ignore some people here. (I will not mention names though) Cause for some people, when they post, they take it like everything is a joke to them and that they are here just to have fun. Thats how all the insult comes in. Yes, try asking your friends that introduced you to them and tell them that if theres anything wrong which you have done, u deeply apologize. Ask them what happen. From there, u are able to know. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by Big2bore(m): 1:09pm On Jun 20, 2011 |
wot i will advics you to do, is to try and get a nigeria friend, male or femel, ask some questions on dis issues and let see what happens. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by PureOhio(f): 2:15pm On Jun 20, 2011 |
I won't really consider myself a "b1tchy person", but anyways, thanks for the comments guys, keep'em ccoming. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by NaJaHaJe(f): 2:26pm On Jun 20, 2011 |
Big2bore: this might come back and bite me in the ass but , hehehehehehehehehehehehehe @ PureOhio Nigerians really are friendly people. It may have more to do with personal characteristics rather than a general attribute within a particular race. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by MsPotato(f): 2:39pm On Jun 20, 2011 |
Big2bore: NaJa HaJe: |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by LongOne1(m): 2:49pm On Jun 20, 2011 |
Could also be inferiority complex on their part, nothing for you to worry about. You are hot. Kind of understand the way you feel though, being a product of two different states in Nigeria, I occasionally find it difficult to mix with either one. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by LongOne1(m): 3:02pm On Jun 20, 2011 |
Plus, can u speak pidgin/broken English? Learning to communicate that way instead of using the American accent, may help too you know? Are u familiar with the naija way, particularly the delicacies? Goat head pepper soup, suya, edikai ikong with pounded yam, isi-ewu? Damn, my mouth is watering, lol. Maybe they feel you can’t/don’t contribute to their discussions. |
Re: Nigerian + American = Undateable? by Basseti: 3:08pm On Jun 20, 2011 |
Long One: I dont think that matters one bit. Nigerian guys date/marry girls that are 100 percent AA; why do you think they will have issues with someone that is 50 percent akata and 50 percent naija? This is hard to say (given the way wey naija guys eyes dey chook when it comes to babes ) but maybe they were not interested in you romantically and just wanted to chat about naija stuff. When they found out that ur mom is AA, they might have figured (rightly or wrongly) that you had nothing to contribute to the conversation. |
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