shy-one.:

@ Pure

Ok - sorry for leaving the thread topic. Love your magnanimous approach.

I just wanted to see if them acting the way they did had anything to do with my mother being African American.

EzeUche!:

PureOhio. . . You are one mix girl. So your mother is AA and your father is mixed himself.  

tpia@:


it doesnt really matter even if it was.

people are individuals, each with their own preferences.

i for one dont do all these " you cant date me therefore you're a racist/bigot/ethnophobe/whatever" mentalities.

if i'm going to call someone one of those tags, it would be based more on their actual talk, attitude and behaviour, not necessarily dating alone.

and i do recognize the fact that someone may just not like me for whatever reason- could be my looks, conversation, approach to life, appearance, etc. If they chose to add background to that list, then abeg i keep moving cos i cant be wasting my time running after somebody who is either not worth the effort or who i might not be suitable for anyway, and vice versa.



so, its a big world and as they say, "enyan o mo nkan t'oloun fi se" ie you dont know what might be prevented in future.


now, if a person cant be friends because of prejudice, then that's also different, but even then, not worth disturbing oneself over. Na them sabi.

kandiikane:

@Shy_one,
OK, I don't give a cent. . I am going to move on.   If you have a Nigerian man as a boyfriend why say majority do(Are you an exception)
Anyways goodluck with that mentality you have

shy-one.:

I say majority from my observation - as I get out alot and I get around alot.  From what I have seen and heard from many, many people.  It is popular opinion.  Ignorance plays no part.  My guy is one person and many times his thoughts also mirror the thought of those very long held popular opinions and beliefs as well. 

PureOhio:

@andyanders : I communicate the say way as them. I can speak both pidgin and 'regular' English.

@alexola20: Money has nothing to do with this! We're all from tha same fanacial background. And for the record, I resent that comment about all women loving money. We're not all the same. Just because one girl may be consumed with the idea of having money doesn't mean we all are

@0lumide: Protect their interest? I never thought of it that way. And Ohio is still boiling. Chei, pure madness!! Even the yeye governer was having a fit. I keep telling people, it's just a game. No need to call for blood. Such terrible behavior

Although I'm flattered, there's no need to dream of me. I just came to make frinds and  hear what people had to is fighting, please stop it o!!say.

@Thirst4Life: I'm not on a  Naija man hunt lol I just wanted to see if them acting the way they did had anything to do with my mother being African American.

@Shy-One and Basseti: I'm glad you two stoped arguing. I was starting to get worried. We can all discuss things without getting so heated

@tom28: What makes you think I do all those things you say. Not all African American act like that. Just as not all Nigerians are 419ers, not all Black Americans use the N-word. Its generalizations like that that divide us as black people

@Amya: I don't want anything. It was just casual talks at these events. I wasn't trying to push up on them or get them to put a ring on it lol. Oh by the way, I've seen your blog before.

@kandiikane: Ok, I will.

@everyone who is fighting: please stop it o!! We can talk without people wanting to rip heads off of one another.

tpia@:

^^isnt olumide one of those "undateable" names?

as in, they tend to be players though of course that might be a misconception.

kandiikane:

Then what you should have said was majority from MY observation because I too could go and say African Americans are ghetto because majority I have met are but I will not because I have not met all and I have met some who are not.

PureOhio:

lol, I know. Lucky me eh? Of all mixtures I ended up like this. Ha, I sound like a cocktail. I've been blessed with a father who has the best of both worlds tribally and a mom who has the best of both worlds culturally. What more can I ask for?

Thanks tpia

tom28:


pureohio it ought not be news to u tht we blacks are divided.Its just like the light skinned AAs hate on the dark skinned AAs and the hausa man hate on the igbo man and the yoruba man hate on the tiv man.So yes we blacks are divided

portage:

See, PureOhio you need to ask yourself questions (such as character wise, are you a snob?, do you pretend to be what you are not? above all, do you have a bachelors degree? because at your age, it is expected that you should have at least your bachelors) and answer these questions genuinely. See, if you do not have your self together education wise, (and you are doing all these wanna be western girl) NO Nigerian man will look your side for a long term commitment, they'll rather have their fun and move on. There's nothing wrong with you or your mum being AA.
So, be open to urself, After all, you can not deceive urself. Anyway, i dey your backyard  in Cuyahoga Falls (about 30mins away from Cleveland)

0lumide:

hmmmm ok oo!  But believe you already have a stalker lol;  NL stalking.  ping me, holla at me, just to say hi, but deep inside the man dying to meet lol.  Pinging is ok but most guys won't go for it lol.  na number dem want hahaha.

Mrs.Chima:

And i recall you some other time u saying that a good number of us nigerian men are scams but now you changing your words Grin.Ol boy some of you akatas are so damm funny Grin
Anyway i respect your black american men for the strenght they have in withstanding yall drama.


Tom28,





Lastly, my hat goes off to Nigerian women who PUT UP, DEAL WITH, TOLERATES, REFRAINS FROM KILLING, and wake up EVERYDAY with Nigerian men like you. Somebody have to do it.

tom28:
I love and respect my nigerian queens and one thing i admire about them is that they are understanding and even though they might critisize we nigerian men that doesnt mean they hate us and neither does it mean we hate them when we critisize them .They are our wives,our mothers and our sisters and our hearts go up to them for the struggle they go through both in nigeria and the west.For you black american women i would say u are a complete disgrace to womanhood.You degrade your own men making fun of them in public while upgrading white men and looking down on your own men.You akata women lack manners and have numerous kids from different men with the end result that you become unsuitable partners and become single and frustrated up to middle age .Tell me who wants an angry frustrated 48 yr old akata woman with a bunch of kids from unknown daddies who had their unfortunate behinds locked up in jail for one crime or the other

tom28:

Not to worry naija girls love me and most get along with me for my sense of humour .Nigerian women are not fiesty like you akatas

PureOhio:

tom28, why are you making all these generalizations?!

This has got to be by far one of the most disrespectful things I have ever heard on this thread. My mother is nothing like the women you've described. I've seen my fair share of loud and obnoxious Nigerian women but I don't say all of them are like them. Please stop making these generalizations about people. As a black man, I'm sure white people look at you as a black person and make horrible assumptions about you