Are you the kind of woman who finds herself waking up one day to realize that she is completely out of control in her relationship? Does your boyfriend, husband or significant other make every single decision every single day? Are you sick and tired of eating Chinese food when he wants to eat it, seeing an action movie when he wants to see it, or staying home for the night because he doesn't feel like going out? Well, there's one thing you absolutely have to realize before you can rectify this situation: it's probably your fault.

You see, in the beginning stages of relationships, precedents are set. A lot of women are so desperate to have a man like them that the stifle their own wants and needs, their own opinions and ideas, because they think being agreeable will make a man like them more. Well, whether or not it had any bearing on him liking you more or less in the early stages of your relationship, it set a precedent for your current relationship: that he would be calling all the shots.

Now, recognizing that you are (or were) a part of the problem is only the first step. This issue CAN be addressed, and it should be. You are perfectly capable of making your own decisions and arguing your own preferences when necessary. Start with baby steps: if he chooses a restaurant you don't like, suggest somewhere else. Chances are he won't even notice that you're being assertive and will just agree with you -- after all, you haven't challenged him before so he may just assume that you prefer it when he dictates all of your daily activities.

If he is resistant, then it's time to sit him down for a little talk. Explain to him that you need to have some control in your relationship and that you feel like he is always making your decisions for you. If he cares about you, he will understand and will try to make an effort to include you in the decision-making process. Keep in mind that you have been in a pattern for some time now, though, so it may take a little while for him to get used to asking for your opinion on things when he used to have permission to just make choices on his own. If he doesn't respond to your talk, it's time to move on and start fresh.