Promiseibritam:
Probably your uncle might not be the cause nither his wives.

There must be someone in your family who didn't stick to one wife.
Maybe ur greatest grandfather did it or the great grandfather to ur greatest grandfather.
I hope u gad my points?

Even in my family, my grandfather didn't marry one wife it was about 9 or 8 according to the history but I witness only 3of his wives aline.

And my uncle who is the eldest brother to my father has continue frm there
And the numbers of his wives that I can recall now are only 5.
So my brother check ur family history from the start of ur Surname who bears it and what it means and why he was given such a name.
Thanks.

Ayanwukoma:
The first wife he married didn't last a year he fired her, just because he saw her with another man at a restaurant eating.


the second wife, is presently in her father's house, because he says she doesn't listen to instructions, since 2012.



just this evening, a group of elder men from his third wife family came visiting my father to talk to his brother....I knew they must have been another issue...


so this left me asking is he the problem or his wives?
lalasticlala

HEBEI:
Me, I can't tolerate my wife going to restaurant to with another man. Just like I can never be caught eating with another man's wife in a restaurant.
And that's me and not you.
You can do as you wish with your own wife. Keep your mentality to those that are ok with it.

thinkmoney:

That's selfish thinking. How about the "okaness" of the women a d the children.
We shouldn't make decisions just based on us, we should consider others. The world will be a lot better this way

emerged01:

No one can have access to your life except you give the permission. What happens in the past is past,except you are on the same path your great grandfather,uncle took,then the curse continues.
To me,his uncle is the with issue here. You cant blame his grandfather for his problem.

Kobojunkie:
Obviously your uncle is the problem here.

The other issue is the women he keeps engaging aren't educated on their rights as individuals even in marriage. If the first and second wife had processed the divorce from him in the courts as it should be, your uncle may have been forced to tackle maturity since then.

Kobojunkie:
But you can eat at a restaurant with an unmarried woman or even female work colleagues of yours ? However, you will deny your wife the same freedom simply on grounds that she is married to you?

Keep your mentality to those who are OK with it? Well, I don't blame you. I blame the women who get themselves chained up and reduced to less than individuals marrying people who think as you do.

Walkee:
you feel say na Sweden you dey. You have watched too many Hollywood movies. Divorce your husband here let's see what you will get out of it

ImoleNaija:
I'm afraid marriage is not in your agenda, except you intend to marry a man who would be looking up to you for survival. Your vibe no here at all; I fear who no fear you

Kobojunkie:
Most of you don't even have any idea wetin reality be for the Nigeria una dey mouth off about.

Educate yourself abeg! Try to visit your courts and see how divorce happens regularly even in the very town you live in. It doesn't happen only in the movies and those who are divorced live normal lives, even better than those who chose to wallow in abandoned marriages do..

Kobojunkie:
You are not making sense at all. Agenda? Looking up to? Are you OK at all?

Walkee:
lol is the same divorcee wailing everywhere how the 5k court ordered their husband to pay them monthly can't feed them and their children?
Here in my state, if you want to divorce your husband carry your property and go, nobody is holding you. No man is learning any bitter lesson from getting divorced here in Nigeria

Antoeni:
All 3 of you are the Problem
You ,Your Uncle and his Wives

Ayanwukoma:
The first wife he married didn't last a year he fired her, just because he saw her with another man at a restaurant eating.


the second wife, is presently in her father's house, because he says she doesn't listen to instructions, since 2012.



just this evening, a group of elder men from his third wife family came visiting my father to talk to his brother....I knew they must have been another issue...


so this left me asking is he the problem or his wives?

Prechgold1180:
Your uncle is �
Omo I don tire to Dey talk for matter wey nur concern me

Kobojunkie:
So what meaning am I supposed to derive from this comment of yours?

That it is better for a woman to be abandoned with not even a penny to help with feeding or raising her kids when she is kicked out of her marriage?

Divorce laws apply across all states in Nigeria, so I I not certain why you assume your state is somehow exempt.
I don't follow at all?

yuping:
your uncle don't tolerate nonsense, as long as he is happy with is decision let him be.

Walkee:
oh you implied that if the man had gone through divorce with the first wife he would have learnt some sort of lesson that'd make him "mature"
I'm telling you that could only happen in the West. There's no divorce process here that could somehow affect the man. If you read the post, the man was already done with her the moment he saw her in a restaurant. I don't know where you got the impression that she even had choice to remain in the marriage from.

descartes400:


I figured! He is a man that cherish his peace of mind and will not succumb to a woman's shenanigans say because she bears the title "wife" .
His peace of mind is not negotiable!