Nicepoker:
There is nothing like informationS. Now are you skipping the part she lied to the guy?

Lied?

Nicepoker:
SMH. She lied didn't you read that part?

yes I read the part. So he should crucify her because she lied? Abeg who never lie before?

Hunnie ovarian cysts are very common and has nothing Absolutely nothing to do with sexual history.

Now PID? That’s different

You will be a fool to forgive her after she blatantly lied to you that she never had an abortion.
That's evil. That's deception.
You better leave that marriage now.

When Redpillers talk now, dem go say them too dey carry woman matter for head. Sorry man.

Jondelng:
Hhm,, she lied. You have every right yo divorce her.

Its a terrible thing when girls think they want to enjoy life and end up damaging themselves permanently,

I remember a friend of mine, about to travel was asking a 21 year old for marriage, that one said she still wants to enjoy life with her freedom.
Girl is now enjoying life as a baby mama for a useless ragamuffin.

Nobody is against you flexing, but don’t bring problems upon another person.

When you bring this up true, it would be as if you have an unresolved biaise but this is so real.

You see ladies at 28 being so anxious to get married and I ask myself what happened between 20 and 28. @The bolded many of them had serious guys/suitors who they left cuz they were not ready for such seriousness, they want to enjoy.

There is nothing wrong with that, it was their choice. Just as there is nothing wrong with men no wanting them at 30 cause they don’t look as beautiful as when they were in their 20s.

If you can’t give a man your best part don’t expect them to settle for your worst. They also have a choice.

Beremx:
What has her past got to do with having ovarian cyst and PID? . A woman can get pregnant with cysts and PID can be treated with antibiotics.
Now that you know her past as a saint whom you are, do you wanna divorce her and marry a virgin?
Are you now concerned about her past or getting her treated so that she can get pregnant?

I think OP's concerns are the lie and the delayed childbirth. He needs understand Ovarian Cyst and PID and how it could be the cause of delayed childbirth instead on focusing on the abortion.

The wife is also acting like her past is catching up with her.

GboyegaD:


I think OP's concerns are the lie and the delayed childbirth. He needs understand Ovarian Cyst and PID and how it could be the cause of delayed childbirth instead on focusing on the abortion.

The wife is also acting like her past is catching up with her.

very sensible point you have made. I think the husband also is acting like the wife’s past is the cause of her delayed pregnancy. He doesn’t know what Ovarian cysts and PID is all about.

felixalida:
Good morning all!

Please I need your advice on what to do over an issue that came up recently between my wife and I.

I dated my wife for about 9month before our wedding late last year and since we got married, she hasnt been able to conceive. She went to the Hospital and she was diagnosed with Ovariann Cyst and pelvic inflammatory diseases.

I was shocked and I tried to investigate her past again from those who were close to her and I discovered that she was quite loose and reckless while she was in school. She finally confessed that she even had an abortion for someone some few years back and this was someone who denied ever doing such when I asked her during the courtship.

Please help me.
I need your advice.

Are you sure you love this wife of yours? She hasn't cheated on you so you have no right to divorce her... did you tell her all about your own past too?
I really don't think you love her sha... I hope after here, you won't go telling other people how bad your wife was. Suck it up and get her fixed, that's why she's your wife. Did she force you to marry her?

lionphil:


Are you sure you love this wife of yours? She hasn't cheated on you so you have no right to divorce her... did you tell her all about your own past too?
I really don't think you love her sha... I hope after here, you won't go telling other people how bad your wife was. Suck it up and get her fixed, that's why she's your wife. Did she force you to marry her?

You are very mad and you have no one to tell you.
Look at what this idiot is saying.
You're now questioning his love for her when you should be questioning the girl for having an abortion and lying about it.
You are very very mad.

Vex very well but don't divorce her. She try to even confeess say she don do abortion.

I so hate lies ehnn.. anyone that can't be honest with you is not worth making friends with.

@OP Your wife lied so you wouldn't breakup with her.. most of them are like that in that 'h0eing phase' where they abort pregnancies as they please with postinor 2 and end up putting innocent men in trouble later in marriage. Thank your stars that you know early and start preparing to take another wife so you can procreate, afterall that's the main essence of marriage.

felixalida:
Good morning all!

Please I need your advice on what to do over an issue that came up recently between my wife and I.

I dated my wife for about 9month before our wedding late last year and since we got married, she hasnt been able to conceive. She went to the Hospital and she was diagnosed with Ovariann Cyst and pelvic inflammatory diseases.

I was shocked and I tried to investigate her past again from those who were close to her and I discovered that she was quite loose and reckless while she was in school. She finally confessed that she even had an abortion for someone some few years back and this was someone who denied ever doing such when I asked her during the courtship.

Please help me.
I need your advice.

Well it's no longer a secret, follow her to the doctor to find out the solution and cost of treatment

Let her contribute more for the treatment

At least, start with that and as you progress, drop your progress report

InTheCloudySky:
You got married late last year (I'm assuming November or December) and we're in February now, which means you've only been married for 2-3 months. You've no need to worry about her inability to conceive just yet. Go to the right specialists to treat her OC and PID, as well as find out if the abortion she had is affecting her ability to get pregnant now.

The investigation you've done recently should've been done before the marrage. Well, you're in the marriage now so just overlook that and the lying and continue the marriage. Hml.

While I agree that OC or PID may not be the cause of the woman not conceiving yet, lying to your spouse (man or woman) is a big threat to many marriages. How do you trust someone who has lied to you in the past? Without trust, the marriage is as good as gone.

In my own case, she lied but keeps using the things I told her about me, against me.

felixalida:
Good morning all!

Please I need your advice on what to do over an issue that came up recently between my wife and I.

I dated my wife for about 9month before our wedding late last year and since we got married, she hasnt been able to conceive. She went to the Hospital and she was diagnosed with Ovariann Cyst and pelvic inflammatory diseases.

I was shocked and I tried to investigate her past again from those who were close to her and I discovered that she was quite loose and reckless while she was in school. She finally confessed that she even had an abortion for someone some few years back and this was someone who denied ever doing such when I asked her during the courtship.

Please help me.
I need your advice.

her conditions are treatable. Please forgive her. Your baby child is on the way.

.

Watin you thy find you don see am, enjoy your findings.those two diseases don't stop her not to have pregnancy and have you done test too

Ovarian cyst and PID has nothing to do with wayward life.

You came to nairaland for validation so they will tell you to divorce her, rather than ask the hospital possible solutions to your problem.

You went to people to ask them of her previous life style, shame on you. Were you expecting them to tell you she was a saint.

Beremx:
What has her past got to do with having ovarian cyst and PID? . A woman can get pregnant with cysts and PID can be treated with antibiotics.
Now that you know her past as a saint whom you are, do you wanna divorce her and marry a virgin?
Are you now concerned about her past or getting her treated so that she can get pregnant?

When an average Nigerian woman writes...

Kellzzyy:

You are very mad and you have no one to tell you.
Look at what this idiot is saying.
You're now questioning his love for her when you should be questioning the girl for having an abortion and lying about it.
You are very very mad.

Your father and mother are mad, you're a true definition of "being born by mistake". Your LovePeddler of a mother and a bast.ard drunkard of a father didn't teach you how to respond in public, I'll teach you so that your stu.pid mum and dad can start giving you home training.

Do you know what marriage means? It seems you're from a broken home and don't know what marriage means. Isn't it too early for a man that just got married to come and start crying on social media? What solution do you want to give him? He should divorce her? You're a big fo.ol when you come of age, you'd know better imbe.cile

lionphil:


Your father and mother are mad, you're a true definition of "being born by mistake". Your LovePeddler of a mother and a bast.ard drunkard of a father didn't teach you how to respond in public, I'll teach you so that your stu.pid mum and dad can start giving you home training.

Do you know what marriage means? It seems you're from a broken home and don't know what marriage means. Isn't it too early for a man that just got married to come and start crying on social media? What solution do you want to give him? He should divorce her? You're a big fo.ol when you come of age, you'd know better imbe.cile

See the extent of your foolishness?
So because he is newly married, he should ignore the fact that this bitch of a wife lied to him about not having an abortion?
He should endure for two years more before seeking divorce? He should die in silence?
Complete idiot.

YOU SAID YOU MARRIED HER JUST LATE LAST YEAR, AND YOU ARE ALREADY TALKING OF VISITS FOR FERTILITY CHECK, HABA, LET HER BE. THREE TO FOUR YEARS WITHOUT CONCEPTION BEFORE YOU CAN START THINKING THIS WAY. GIVE HER PEACE DON'T EVEN TALK ABOUT CHILD BEARING MAKE LOVE TO. HER AS YOU CAN, MAKE HER HAPPY, AND GET READY FOR BABY CRY. OVARIAN CYST IS IT THE TWO OVARIES PID HAS LESS EFFECT RELAX, EAT WELL PRODUCE MORE SPERM AND LET GOD DO THE REMAINING

lionphil:


Your father and mother are mad, you're a true definition of "being born by mistake". Your LovePeddler of a mother and a bast.ard drunkard of a father didn't teach you how to respond in public, I'll teach you so that your stu.pid mum and dad can start giving you home training.

Do you know what marriage means? It seems you're from a broken home and don't know what marriage means. Isn't it too early for a

man that just got married to come and start crying on social media? What solution do you want to give him? He should divorce her? You're a big fo.ol when you come of age, you'd know better imbe.cile

You shouldn't reply him again, this complete transfer of aggression, I was so surprise to see how person go leave hin own load for ground carry another persin own for head like this. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion

InTheCloudySky:


Idk what you mean by "your own case". Do you have a story similar to the OP's or you're the OP?

I am not the OP, but my story is similar to the OP's. The difference is that my own has no health or fertility implications. My partner didn't only lie about her past, she keeps lying to the point I can't trust her words on anything.

I am of the opinion that you Forgive her, she doesn't want to lose you that's why she lied to you, get her treated and move on with your life or is she still in the game?

Abikeade11:
I am of the opinion that you Forgive her, she doesn't want to lose you that's why she lied to you, get her treated and move on with your life or is she still in the game?

Really?
So she took away his ability to choose by hiding vital information and that's awk?
He should just "get her treated and move on"? ...