I'm tired.
I don't see the love in u but I see that u want to just use Me.
If see the selfishness in u.
I see the anger in u.
I see the unforgiveness in u.
I see the harshness in u.
I see the lies in u.
I see the wickedness and pretence to look good in u only in front of my parents.
I see the ungentlemanlyness in u
I see the troubles and problems in u

So what's the point? I don't see an ideal spouse in u. I'm afraid. I see a boy and not a man. Marriage is not only about the man primarily having money. Other things are very important that a man must GROOM HIMSELF to have for a Marriage to last forever and you are lacking in them sadly.
I kept telling my mom this as well as I told my dad this once but they didn't listen as they are very mean and do tribalism mostly.

I'm afraid that till now u are unable to fully convience Me as I kept fairly giving U time but u kept not changing for the better and allowed your work be your only priority. Even the dates you were insisting u always spoilt them by bringing your work problems. For how long will this selfishness and immaturity last?

So u just want to have good time with Me but don't Love Me and clearly are not ready for Marriage. Go.Bye Bye.


I believe ALMIGHTY GOD will give Me a good Man that is religiously Good, Genuine loves Me( And the love that comes unconditionally and pure and true and with Forgiveness) and One that will make our Marriage work forever via truly understanding Me and that is not selfish.

A good religious Man that will bring out the best in Me and have eyes for only Me and thinks about Me always as I think about Him.

A Good religious Man that won't be selfish, that won't lie, that won't look at my body but want to sharpen my brains and bring out the best of Me always. That is peaceful and truly is Monogamous. That knows when help is needed. That won't hurt Me and is a real Gentleman and will be a Great Husband and a Great Father to our 2 future Children.
One that is Mature and really ready for an everlasting Marriage like I'm and knows what and how to make his Fiancee and Wife later on happy even if he is still struggling. I'm afraid I don't see these qualities in u. I have been heart broken by u one to many a times.

So think hard as I'm already struggling with some people indirectly saying u are from a broken home, so u might not know how to keep a home and then ur behaviours show it, with ur constant insensitivity. I'm afraid as I do not want polygamy nor divorce and ur behaviour of work preference always over Me and the way u go back and forth, ur lies to my Parents to look good and then hurting Me constantly with the way u address other women makes Me think that u just want to use Me and don't appreciate Me.
I know I tried and genuienely never went out of my ways to hurt u but the reverse is your case.

Think hard and just be honest for once .
At this point in time. I'm slowly pulling out. I need a good Man that truly loves Me.

So I don't know how u are going to convience Me but I'm starting to feel again that u are not the one for Me.

This were exactly her words to me in a message.

My own side of the story now ,
I've gone to see her parents and declared my interest as well as taken her to my hometown , to see my parents , with the permission of her parents.

Yet, she sent me the above message.

Which other proposal is greater than meeting her parents and introducing her to mine.

IF YOU WERE THE ONE SHE SENT THAT MESSAGE TO , WOULD YOU GO AHEAD AND ENGAGE HER?

Your advice and comments are needed pls!

I don’t think she is in love with you anymore. Forget that family introductions, even ladies are confused on what they really want. I also think she has an option of another guy. Seems like you have finished burning the love cable she gave you in her heart. You can still try your luck sha but I tell you, d thing sef fit frustrate you if you don’t truly love her.

I don comot hand for woman matter because their wahala no the finish

MAGG0T:


Oga marry outside the shores of Nigeria and leave this feminists we have here, they belong to the dogs, I wouldn't give my self advice to marry from this country

Shut up!! You this lazy Broke man.

Your mother and sisters sleeps with dogs doesn't mean other ladies do same.

You're always quick to throw tantrums at women, why??

@op, probably you're not up to standard. Improve yourself and be a man!!!

Maybe she has met a new cóck better than yours, just maybe. Pulling up this weak áss emotional text just to make you feel terrible.

She's simply gaslighting you. Most women do that alot especially if they just met a new guy on board. Nigga take the f**kin L and move on

dopeonlove:
My own side of the story now ,
I've gone to see her parents and declared my interest as well as taken her to my hometown , to see my parents , with the permission of her parents.

Yet, she sent me the above message. Which other proposal is greater than meeting her parents and introducing her to mine.

IF YOU WERE THE ONE SHE SENT THAT MESSAGE TO , WOULD YOU GO AHEAD AND ENGAGE HER?
Your advice and comments are needed pls!

But a relationship is more than a proposal. Can't you see what she is telling you?

What she's saying is that she is not convinced that you are the man for her and that conviction should usually come long before the proposal you seem stuck on....

Kobojunkiee:
But a relationship is more than a proposal. Can't you see what she is telling you?

What she's saying is that she is not convinced that you are the man for her and that conviction should usually come long before the proposal you seem stuck on....

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Yes , understood. The other part on my side i didn't add is work. We live in different cities and my work doesn't permit me to travel , thus, missing appointment of dates we fix and not able to see often. However we keep InTouch via calls and video calls also when ever this same work requires me to travel to Lagos , I never fail to see her before leaving . So in all We see atleast twice a month.

Jennyclay:
Shut up!! You this lazy Broke man.

Your mother and sisters sleeps with dogs doesn't mean other ladies do same.

You're always quick to throw tantrums at women, why??

@op, probably you're not up to standard. Improve yourself and be a man!!!

And what is the standard if I may ask.
You don't just jump into conclusion without asking relevant questions !!!
What standard are you talking about pls . ALSO, What is your standard ?!

I should improve myself on what exactly.

Who told you I am not a man?

SmellySperm:
Maybe she has met a new cóck better than yours, just maybe. Pulling up this weak áss emotional text just to make you feel terrible.

She's simply gaslighting you. Most women do that alot especially if they just met a new guy on board. Nigga take the f**kin L and move on

She not even deflowered yet. I rule that out . Decent as F.

dopeonlove:
..Yes , understood. The other part on my side i didn't add is work. We live in different cities and my work doesn't permit me to travel , thus, missing appointment of dates we fix and not able to see often. However we keep InTouch via calls and video calls also when ever this same work requires me to travel to Lagos , I never fail to see her before leaving . So in all We see atleast twice a month.

Try to read again what she is telling you of her impression from the little time you have both spent together then.

dopeonlove:
I'm tired.
■I don't see the love in u but I see that u want to just use Me.
■I see the selfishness in u.
■I see the anger in u.
■I see the unforgiveness in u.
■I see the harshness in u.
■I see the lies in u.
■I see the wickedness and pretence to look good in u only in front of my parents.
■I see the ungentlemanlyness in u
■I see the troubles and problems in u

So what's the point?
■I don't see an ideal spouse in u. I'm afraid. I see a boy and not a man. Marriage is not only about the man primarily having money. Other things are very important that a man must GROOM HIMSELF to have for a Marriage to last forever and you are lacking in them sadly.
I kept telling my mom this as well as I told my dad this once but they didn't listen as they are very mean and do tribalism mostly.

●I'm afraid that till now u are unable to fully convience Me as I kept fairly giving U time but u kept not changing for the better and allowed your work be your only priority.
● Even the dates you were insisting u always spoilt them by bringing your work problems. For how long will this selfishness and immaturity last?
●So u just want to have good time with Me but don't Love Me and clearly are not ready for Marriage. Go.Bye Bye.

She is still not into you at all, and she is wanting you to see that she is not convinced you are either. So she advices you both move on.