Simran94:


Leave her na, dem no dey teach person. She will learn the hard way.

He cannot leave her, she is his sister, his only sister. If he doesn't help her, who will?

Prayfortheworld:
My sister is 24 she have thesame mentality with your sister and honestly is eating me up.

I've adviced her but nothing dy enter her head. She's in higher institution

though she don't ask men for Money instead she ask me or my mom I'm tired the burden is too much. [b]Someone that should be helping the family by now. [/b]Sometimes i just wish my mom gave birth to just me and our last born

she should be helping the family, abeg rest, let her finish school first

NaughtyBrainiac:
He cannot leave her, she is his sister, his only sister. If he doesn't help her, who will?

How does he want to help her! She is a 22 year old lady already in 300level. Do you know the kind of people she’s already mixed up with? Someone who screams at her own elder brother? The guy isn’t even staying with them sef, he’s in Lagos. If her own mother cannot caution her while the brother was away, then there is absolutely nothing he can do to help her.

Call her, sit her down and have a serious discussion with her, if she doesn’t change, please sanction her, serious sanctions as in let her know that life is not the way she is going about it. You don’t need to be sentimental with her, if you really want her to change. I ate nonsense.



Mynd44 where can I buy akara, bread and coke in your area?

NaughtyBrainiac:
He cannot leave her, she is his sister, his only sister. If he doesn't help her, who will?

says who? He has his life to live too jo

There is something fishy going on inside her phone,she is your sister you can tactically get her phone and observe things from there,and beside hope she is not into illicit drugs because that shit also trigger one attitude..beating would not solve the problem,calm down and sort things out,thank you.

I'll comment when I'm done eating this bone

Jennyclay:
Sit her down, talk to her in a polite way. Tell her, she would regret her decision in life, if she choose to have this entitlement mentality.

Entitlement mentality is the downfall of a woman because it consist of slavery and poverty mindset and men are ready to take advantage thereby treating her like a piece of trash.

When she graduates and she obeys the clarion call (NYSC), they would also tell her to learn a skill, Infact SAED (Skills Acquisition & Entreprenuership Department) is a major program that would take more of her time in NYSC camp.

Labour market is highly competitive, most people with two jobs are still looking for a skill to acquire in order to make ends meet.

I have a job and I also do business to earn a living. No man can rubbish me because of his money. I hope your sister would listen to my advice.

You also need to reduce the money you give to her. I commend you for your good work... More Grace to you Sir.

Yinmu...forming hard-working girl...see your head

Simran94:

How does he want to help her! She is a 22 year old lady already in 300level. Do you know the kind of people she’s already mixed up with? Someone who screams at her own elder brother? The guy isn’t even staying with them sef, he’s in Lagos. If her own mother cannot caution her while the brother was away, then there is absolutely nothing he can do to help her.

There is a lot he can do to help her. Even people that are worse than her and already making their own money always get help and end up changing.

Not to talk of someone who is dependent on the brother for almost everything. What family means to people is different. Family means a whole lot to me and I think family means a lot to brighton1 as well.

If he leaves her to learn the hard way, do you know the form the learning would come? And when it happens, you think OP would be happy? In the end, he would share part of the problem,if not a major part of it.

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You don’t get my point. Her mother has the bulk of work to do on the girl. If the guy stops paying her school fees, don’t you think the mother will beg him or find another way to pay the girl’s school fees through using the rent money they receive.
The girl has been living with her mother since and yet her mother didn’t notice any of her behaviors. The guy can’t do it alone, he needs his mother’s intervention

Your sister if not keep in check will grewup to become a liability to your entire household!

GoodHardDick:


Try get sense. That girl made lots of sense!

You're always pained whenever your fellow gender doesn't support your stupid feminist thinking.

That thing you said made sense is not a gorl.

He's a guy who disguises as a girl.

Simran94:


You don’t get my point. Her mother has the bulk of work to do on the girl. If the guy stops paying her school fees, don’t you think the mother will beg him or find another way to pay the girl’s school fees through using the rent money they receive.
The girl has been living with her mother since and yet her mother didn’t notice any of her behaviors. The guy can’t do it alone, he needs his mother’s intervention

You are saying something different now. I don't disagree with you on the fact that he can't do it alone. All I'm saying is that he shouldn't leave her to learn the hard way

Enemyofpeace:
says who? He has his life to live too jo

Yes he has his life to live and his sister is part of his life.

What family means to you is different from what family means to other people.

NaughtyBrainiac:
Yes he has his life to live and his sister is part of his life.

What family means to you is different from what family means to other people.

your reason is why she is what she is today, a spoilt child, who believes others must serve her

Etila:
Your sister if not keep in check will grewup to become a liability to your entire household!

i swear

immortalcrown:


and how she guards her phone as if the phone is CBN database.

Lol

MadamVanessa:


Okay

I hope if she starts gobbling dick you won't complain or get bitter with her. Because obviously, someone like your sister who hate working to get some income for herself, will immediately settled for dick gobbling to get money.

Madam, this comment is completely wide off the mark. Someone said he needs advice on how to handle her errant sister, and you are saying he shouldn't complain if she start gobbling dick. How does that even make sense to you?

Completely irrelevant comment just for the sake of commenting.

Jennyclay:
Sit her down, talk to her in a polite way. Tell her, she would regret her decision in life, if she choose to have this entitlement mentality.

Entitlement mentality is the downfall of a woman because it consist of slavery and poverty mindset and men are ready to take advantage thereby treating her like a piece of trash.

When she graduates and she obeys the clarion call (NYSC), they would also tell her to learn a skill, Infact SAED (Skills Acquisition & Entreprenuership Department) is a major program that would take more of her time in NYSC camp.

Labour market is highly competitive, most people with two jobs are still looking for a skill to acquire in order to make ends meet.

I have a job and I also do business to earn a living. No man can rubbish me because of his money. I hope your sister would listen to my advice.

You also need to reduce the money you give to her. I commend you for your good work... More Grace to you Sir.

I used to laugh when people say sit them down and talk to them in a polite way.
Talking and reasoning with people in a polite way have little or no effect.
The best way is to invite someone with similar behavior in the past so they can educate them, she will be able to relate with a stranger that do what she did in the past than her brother who doesn't understand why she do what she does. The best person to talk to a thieving child is not a parent or pastor but an ex-convict in that act.
If you can't have anybody like that, just leave them, when their actions result in repercussions they will learn.
What they wish to do, they will do it, you can't stop people with words only especially if you don't understand them.
Sometimes you have to be Stern with them and break them but that's the short cut with long term reward. They wouldn't realize it until they have sense.

Brighton1:
My post might be lengthy, but Pls read because I need advice.

I've been living in Lagos for 5yrs now, even before the death of my father (R.I.P). I lost my dad 4yrs ago. I'm the eldest and I have two younger ones. I'm a contractor.

My mom and my siblings are based in ekpoma edo state. I call them regularly, I advice them, I send them money for up-keep, I visit home once in a while. I play both role of a father and elder bro to my siblings. I don't want them feel the absence of my father.

My construction team got a contract at Auchi, it was an opportunity for me to visit home often.

My younger sister is a 300L student in AAU. She is 22yrs old, she don't read, she's always on social media (tik tok & Co.) Nobody can touch her phone, if my lil bro wants to browse something important or play game with her phone, she will just be screaming at him as if Ogun is about to strike her... Don't touch my phone o, drop it down.

Even the phone (iPhone 7) I was the one who gave it to her when I bought my current phone (Samsung). I promised my lil bro he shouldn't worry, as soon as I get paid for the job I'm currently working on, I will get him a phone before I travel back to Lagos.

Okay, Yesterday I only said, now that ASUU is on strike, find something to do, get busy, learn a skill, even if it's fashion designing, make-up or catering.

She was just giving me flamzy excuses, and the annoying part is she will be raising her voice while talking to me. I almost used a belt to flog her if not for my mom that held me.

My father's house is a bungalow, and we have a tanent, Anytime I receive the house rent (200k yearly) I send everything to my mother. My mom would be like I should hold some for myself but I said NO, they need it more.

AAU school fees is now x4 compared to what I paid back then when I was there. Yet I'm the one providing 80% of her school fees while my mom 20%.

My Lil bro who's just 18 yrs old is more hardworking than her, he goes to my mom's shop to help her out, he's learning how to cut hair and he plays instruments very good (piano & bass guitar). He plays for a church that pays him 5k per week (he plays weds & sun for the church). I pray uniben grant him admission this year.

My father was a nice man, he disciplined us and his death won't change that. I want him to be proud of me wherever he is now.

Nairaland family, I need your advice. My sister depend so much on the money I give her. I don't want her to be a leech.

Leave her alone, God will bless her with a man that'll more than take care of her.That's how all these oversabi elder brothers will not allow someone rest and have fun, they'll be behaving like monitoring spirit. Leave her alooooooooooooooone oooooooo.Raspberries what do you think?

Sounds good.

GoodHardDick:
My brother, she's already a leech.

Seize her phone and watch her senses come back to her.

I Noticed nobody is even talking about the 18 yrs old brother again..op Abeg buy dat guy a phone bigger than her own......stop giving her too much money.....when they pay rent to you,pls hold the money......only give to your mother when there is real need for it.....i suspect your mother use to give her money anytime she asks for it even for things not necessary...overpampering Dey boost morale o

I looked at your post history. Are you still a womaniser? Is the cost of doing that affecting your responsibilities? Are you worried about your sister because of this? You sense some parallels?

First, o.p
Have you abused any female before?
If you have, then karma don enter the situation.

You are the fault. Get her a touch light phone,and collect the other phone. Now, if she want to ruin her life, let her raise money and buy the iphone herself and use herself to waste herself. But for now, u are the fault.

immortalcrown:
I see a slay queen in your family. It seems she was pampered for being the only daughter. She is the type that will use her pocket money to feed her boyfriend on campus.

The worst part is if you reduce the money you give her for upkeep, she will use insufficient fund as an excuse to flirt. Meanwhile, she is already flirting, probably with old men. My suspicion is based on her not being afraid of you, her refusing to acquire skills for financial independence, her social media addiction and how she guards her phone as if the phone is CBN database. Maybe her nudes and porns she exchanges with her bf are on the phone. If you keep giving her enough money, people will say you used money to spoil her.

But since every option has supporters and haters, you have to try different methods. After all, each option will attract both praise and criticism. Try a different method because repetition of the same method cannot produce varied results.

The new method I suggest is reducing her upkeep money. If you keep on giving her everything, she is the type that will take in for a poor boy hoping that you will feed her, the boy and the baby she will deliver.

well said.

Up coming slay queen...

You for reset her brain with some slap, I don't have younger sis, na ninjas dey my back but I feel younger sis can be annoying sometimes and since dad is not around mum might up want to disturb the lil girls bro e don be your work now to scold them ooo by any means necessary...

Good luck bro you dey try walai
May God continue to strengthen you both financially and physically...

MadamVanessa:


Okay

I hope if she starts gobbling dick you won't complain or get bitter with her. Because obviously, someone like your sister who hate working to get some income for herself, will immediately settled for dick gobbling to get money.

Just hear yourself. So if the money stops coming as usual and the girl goes into prostitution, it's the guy's fault shey?

Tell u mum that u are not comfortable with the path she is following;then reduce the allowance given to her if it possible collect her phone for the main time and check if she will change if she did not change let her be. In a family not all its members have a goal in life so it up to her.it her life she can do anything she likes with it.