Bobmarie:
Smh. I see your moniker sometimes, thought you were one of the literate ones. My bad.

what does an aaasswhooping got to do with being litterate or not?! if she doesnt hear words then deal with her in a way that she will understand (aka aaasswhooping way)

Iyaebe:
Leave her alone, God will bless her with a man that'll more than take care of her.That's how all these oversabi elder brothers will not allow someone rest and have fun, they'll be behaving like monitoring spirit. Leave her alooooooooooooooone oooooooo.Raspberries what do you think?

Completely disappointed.

Raspberries:
Just for male validation, you write the most stupid things...

every girl can't be senseless like you

jaxxy:

Completely disappointed.

Lol

Brighton1:
My post might be lengthy, but Pls read because I need advice.

I've been living in Lagos for 5yrs now, even before the death of my father (R.I.P). I lost my dad 4yrs ago. I'm the eldest and I have two younger ones. I'm a contractor.

My mom and my siblings are based in ekpoma edo state. I call them regularly, I advice them, I send them money for up-keep, I visit home once in a while. I play both role of a father and elder bro to my siblings. I don't want them feel the absence of my father.

My construction team got a contract at Auchi, it was an opportunity for me to visit home often.

My younger sister is a 300L student in AAU. She is 22yrs old, she don't read, she's always on social media (tik tok & Co.) Nobody can touch her phone, if my lil bro wants to browse something important or play game with her phone, she will just be screaming at him as if Ogun is about to strike her... Don't touch my phone o, drop it down.

Even the phone (iPhone 7) I was the one who gave it to her when I bought my current phone (Samsung). I promised my lil bro he shouldn't worry, as soon as I get paid for the job I'm currently working on, I will get him a phone before I travel back to Lagos.

Okay, Yesterday I only said, now that ASUU is on strike, find something to do, get busy, learn a skill, even if it's fashion designing, make-up or catering.

She was just giving me flamzy excuses, and the annoying part is she will be raising her voice while talking to me. I almost used a belt to flog her if not for my mom that held me.

My father's house is a bungalow, and we have a tanent, Anytime I receive the house rent (200k yearly) I send everything to my mother. My mom would be like I should hold some for myself but I said NO, they need it more.

AAU school fees is now x4 compared to what I paid back then when I was there. Yet I'm the one providing 80% of her school fees while my mom 20%.

My Lil bro who's just 18 yrs old is more hardworking than her, he goes to my mom's shop to help her out, he's learning how to cut hair and he plays instruments very good (piano & bass guitar). He plays for a church that pays him 5k per week (he plays weds & sun for the church). I pray uniben grant him admission this year.

My father was a nice man, he disciplined us and his death won't change that. I want him to be proud of me wherever he is now.

Nairaland family, I need your advice. My sister depend so much on the money I give her. I don't want her to be a leech.

The brains of young people
are still developing till the age
of 25. The part of the brain that
is responsible for social skills
are still developing.

Do not beat her, just talk to her
by letting her choose one of two
options, and let her know the
negative implications of not being self-aware or taking responsibility.


However, let her get trained
in entrepreneurial skills online
and offline.

Cheers.

Prayfortheworld:
My sister is 24 she have thesame mentality with your sister and honestly is eating me up.

My sister has never worked before in her life, she ask my mom or me for money.. she can't buy anything for herself if you didn't buy it for her, everything she's wearing are mostly clothes i bought for her and she's still using the phone my mom bought for her 2018

I've adviced her but nothing dy enter her head. She's in higher institution
I go through her phone always she's a decent girl but she don't have that hustling spirit in her. I'm just scared for her because i don't want her to suffer in her marriage.
though she don't ask men for Money instead she ask me or my mom I'm tired the burden is too much. Someone that should be helping the family by now. Sometimes i just wish my mom gave birth to just me and our last born

You've done well so far.
No man wants a woman who is
a liability as well.

Now... She should get trained in entrepreneurial skills such as cake baking, make-up, events decor
or Social Media marketing, etc.

There are training programs
you can find online and offline.

All the best.