It's becoming apparent to me, that my Ex is serious about us getting back together.




The problem is, I've moved on, while he on the other hand has been single ever since.
Our breakup occured due to the distance between us annnnd he was
always busy (the rate at which we spoke depreciated even when I call, he was always in a haste to end the call with "I'm busy"


I became tired of all that and didn't want it to get to me.
(I cried Sha)



To cut the long story short;

I got a new boyfriend, we became so attached within a very short time, we had so much in common; Both first-borns, our birthdays fall on the same month though mine is a day before his '3rd and 4th of Nov.

A lot of people have always asked if we're siblings. because of the resemblance between us, also because we walk the same way.
Ever since we started dating, I never saw a day pass, without posting a picture of him or us together.


I still have my ex's phone number stored (in my phone) I left it because our story didn't end on a bad note, like it wasn't that terrible; no fights or quarrels whatsoever.
He has mine also and always viewed my status.


After sometime, we began to chat again, I wasn't cool with it at first, but my boyfriend said there's nothing bad about chatting with my ex as long as he wouldn't make advances towards me.




As time went on, I discovered different scenarios, where my ex would always want me to say 'I love you' he didn't see it as a big deal cos he believes...... 'You Can Love Anyone And It Doesn't necessarily have to be romantic'.

I didn't take that seriously because, for the most time I've spent with him, I've discovered that sometimes he just says somethings in order not to seem boring.



......of late, he wants us to hangout at least once in every week, he wants to come around if I can't go out.
There was a day we chatted, and this part of the chat was what really got to me,





First, he asked if I and my boyfriend are still together, I said "yes"

Note:I love my boyfriend so much and have no intentions of us breaking up.



He (my ex) said, he's going to patiently wait, till there is a break up between my boyfriend and I, before he makes his advances towards me. cos he knows it would be rude if he does it now.


What can I do, about my ex,what can I say to him to let him know that I can't be with him anymore, how!!!!
Can I let him know that we can only be friends and not lovers anymore.

Just tell him to gerarahere mehnn...

2023 general elections is fast approaching in Nigeria. We have very important issues to tackle and brainstorm on instead of some relationship stuffs that already has a clear exit pathway.

Just stop talking to him. Send him a text saying that you appreciate the time you spent together and that the friendship between you guys can no longer continue because you are in a relationship.

If you keep talking to him, he will never go away which will end up destroying your present relationship.

Just put an end to it and move on.

Hmm, this is the time to tell him that, you can't be friends with him or chatting with him again, let him know how much you love your boyfriend, and trust me it is not wise to chat with your ex because it will bring back the good old days, you know it is not good, just focus on your current relationship, DONT GET CONFUSE..

You mean your Ex who was always busy suddenly have time now?

Isn't that wonderful?

This one your present BF and you have many things in common ( even resemblance) hope no be your brother?

Sorry,I don't have anything meaningful to contribute

He will soon resuming lashing you on the side, save us the sub stories.It won’t take you anything to totally cut him off if you really wish to. Chai to marry these days get as e be sha

The fact that you became confused while being in a committed relationship speaks volumes.

I don't know that dating can be these stressful ooo. Life will be sweeter without emotional attachment. Country hard

42neforivan your ex is mad

Other will put it this way


Your ex na werey oo

You better serve him breakfast or your will be serve or you will serve ur same date dude breakfast.. whichever way someone will eat breakfast

Haircombb:
Just stop talking to him. Send him a text saying that you appreciate the time you spent together and that the friendship between you guys can no longer continue because you are in a relationship.

If you keep talking to him, he will never go away which will end up destroying your present relationship.
Just put an end to it and move on.

[color=#770077][/color]Thanks so much for your advice I really appreciate....I actually thought about that from the beginning, but my boyfriend saw it as being rude though he doesn't know about this new attitude of my ex I'm sure he'd say the same thing if he knows about it
I also can't tell him about it cos he'll most likely get insecure and I don't want that

peepydelano:
He will soon resuming lashing you on the side, save us the sub stories.It won’t take you anything to totally cut him off if you really wish to. Chai to marry these days get as e be sha

Oga ABI madam funny enough there was no lashing in the first place before youll now reach 'resume' sef

If we ever lashed I don't think we'd ever even breakup in the first place

From my perspective tho


abeg

LordIsaac:
The fact that you became confused while being in a committed relationship speaks volumes.

I made it look like I'm actually confused but AM I!!?
If you read and understand it you'll know that I'm for the most part seeking an advice!!!!! It's more like a figurative statement anyways (the heading I'm talking or whatever it's called) I was looking towards presenting a striking topic of discussion




thankio very much

You can be fucking them both. Two for the price of one

if you live your boyfriend so much you will cut that Ni&&a off.