Met this guy some weeks ago when I went to buy some stuffs .I noticed he was actually looking at me and couldn’t concentrate on what he was getting for himself. Trust 'gurls' now, we have our way of knowing when a guy is making attempt . Well, he summoned courage and the rest? we exchanged contacts,

He does most of the calling and each time he calls, it has to be one question or the other, 'tell me about you, please don’t tell me lies, are u on facebook? , ,what’s your genotype?, blablabahh!!!
As for me, I wasn't ready for any relationship cos I just lost one to genotype and I told him to give my time to know if I wanted a relationship with him or not,

He kept calling and to my surprise he started this 'I love you baby' thing and on the spot I told him not to go there at all.
Recently, he called to tell me he was attacked by hoodlums ,ofcos I didn't believe him, I thought it was a trick to visit him but I had to at least care even if it was a lie, so I paid him a visit on Sunday and found that the attack was real, I couldn't leave that day because of the rain and everywhere was flooded, i hated myself for passing the night there(i hate the idea of sleeping over in a guy’s place) plus nobody at home knew my whereabouts, i couldn’t sleep, was scared of the unknown. He asked for IT and I bluntly refused and he didn’t press further but his attitude changed, He became another person entirely as he picked offence in virtually everything I said or did, I was so upset but what could I do? Nothing, and there I made up my mind I wasn’t going to see him again. I picked one out of his numerous calls and he said thank God he realised early the kind of person I am,

So my question is what exactly does he want?

What's his name and number so i can help u ask

He want to fork ur kpekus chikena!, lol

^lmao

Poster,​ honestly dnt knw what he want,y not allow kpoli to ask for you?

lool @ Kpolis response
@OP he clearly wanted you for s. e . x. . . . . . when you refused his attitude changed. . .

@lesbianBoy,
really?in dat case, thunder fire his stupid 'kini',oloshi

@Bhusayor,
u dont know too?o ga o

Like If you dont know Already! I only hope you stick to your Resolve of not giving "IT" to him!

When I look back over my relationship I wonder if I am real or not cos we've never had issues over sex so I sometimes wonder if people cannot go into relationship without making sex a priority.

@kanyin
Thank God you now know the type of person [i]he [/i]is!

op
re u salt dat u did go home with dat flood?

U re lucky he did ra-pe u dat nite.

As 4 d boy he dont want anything from u.

Halt there OP, you have to pay a fine for adding a tiny 'gold' to ur name

As per ur topic,i'd say.look before u leap.

he wants intimacy

That guy seems creepy asking if you are on FB and all these genetic questions. If i were you i would change my number quick

@Lord-Reel, I wonder too o,nah food?

MMM,u wldn't want to try go home in that rain,it was unspeakable
U mean I was lucky he didnt rape me?yeeeeeeee!!!! thank God o but oun na o ni fe sinwin(run mad)

@Goldiekuls,uhh! thanks babes, how much are we talking about?

So now that he knows the kinda person you are, do he still call, and what does he talk about?

If you guys still talk on that kinda level, can you tell him you think he's changed . .and ask him why?

Bottomline, I really cannot place what he really wants at this time.  But it is really commendable that you stood your ground.

And he did NOT press on after you said no. That says a lot about him too.  You doubted him once and he proved you wrong (whe he told he he was attacked).

The honest truth is tha fact that a guy politely asks for IT when you are in bed together does not mean that is all he wants from you. What really counts is what happens after you decline.

So, do you see yourself having a relationship with him . . .what are you prepared to do when he tells you his attitude change was not because of your 'no' answer . . .but something else?

I'm just thinking outside of the box for you

Good luck and God bless.

@kanyin

Well I'll be the first to admit that sex is as sweet as nectar but damn anybody who eats honey alone will die!

hmmmm

@Kokoye,thanx!

I refused to pick his calls all thru Monday and finally picked it on Tuesday, He accused me of this and I told him i purposely didn't pick them and it was at this point that he said he thanked God he discovered my attitude early and hanged up on me.

In annoyance, i sent a text that whateva he thinks of is not my biz,that while he claimed to be observing my attitude, i was trying to discover what he wanted from me too.That al thru the night,we didnt discuss anything tangible,the only thing  i  remembered  he asked me was Bleep, not even how my day went, i told him he's so self-centred, He replied my text with 'No wahala'

He called again yesterday that i didnt ask of him and i told him for what,  and dat was y i asked my fellow NLanders wat he actually wants,

@kokoye you are right, @poster why did you decide not to pick his call?if its because of the issue of sex its unfair, you sleep in a man house and he din't force  you  for sex he is worthy to be praise, did you want to sleep in a man house and he will not ask you for sex?you girl like when man pretend so much to win your heart and  throw it away, for a man to ask you for sex is not a crime for you should expert that, the problem you girl have is the issue of sex at first time or after some month, to me sex at first time or last time is not matter its how the sex come i mean the mood you as a lady is at that time for sex, please my advice is that continue to pick his call and try to know more about him before you decide, to me he might be the lucky guy, take your time and reason with every advice you get from here

kanyingold:

@Kokoye,thanx!

I refused to pick his calls all thru Monday and finally picked it on Tuesday, He accused me of this and I told him i purposely didn't pick them and it was at this point that he said he thanked God he discovered my attitude early and hanged up on me.

In annoyance, i sent a text that whateva he thinks of is not my biz,that while he claimed to be observing my attitude, i was trying to discover what he wanted from me too.That al thru the night,we didnt discuss anything tangible,the only thing  i  remembered  he asked me was Bleep, not even how my day went, i told him he's so self-centred, He replied my text with 'No wahala'

He called again yesterday that i didnt ask of him and i told him for what,  and dat was y i asked my fellow NLanders wat he actually wants,

Actually, I think he likes you . .just playing mind games.  You are not doing badly either . .I like the way you are handling it

Do you like him . .  enough for a relationship?

.

^^

We know.  You only fell and landed on his d[i]ic[/i]k.

kokoye:

^^

We know.  You only fell and landed on his d[i]ic[/i]k.

A dick is a dime a dozen. I can get other dicks trust.

@kanyin

He is already staging a comeback, relentless lol!

As we've already note sex is on his mind. Keep any convos lite n simple. If he wants to start emotional or sexual ish button him up. Someone who wants a real relationship with you will first get to be "into you". If he can't "discover" you before sex most likely the game is over before it even begins.

Mrs.Chima:

A Joystick is a dime a dozen. I can get other Joysticks trust.

Not Mr. Chima's

I heard Yoruba's bigger and better.

^^^

too late

Nawl.  It is not too late.  I can change partners you know.  There is this spot where Yoruba men like to frequent let me pay that spot a visit quickly before them pale chicks snatches them.

They love the sight of swollen belle too!

@Poster: So because you slept over at a man's house and the man asked for "IT", you now feel he is self-centred? Just to let you know that 99.9% of all men will do the same to any girl that sleeps over at our house, and those few men who won't ask for IT are either gay or they are addicted self-Servicers. The guy asked for IT because he wants to test for compatibility in that aspect, what is so bad in that, or is your kitty engraved with gold which makes it different from some other lady's? You better give IT to him ASAP, otherwise you might very soon end up as one of these losers who come on Nairaland looking for young men to date because they are fast getting past their prime!