MandingoII:

You sound like you struggling in Amerikka, my brotha.

if you cannot stand american HEAT (which is exceptionally bad this summer) what are you going to do with that hit and miss Electricity in Nigeria?      

YOU ARE SPOILED ON AMERICAN EASE OF LIVING.  Yet, you are unhappy, because it is NOT YOUR HOMELAND.  

2 things for you to do:

1.  assimilate and acculturate into the American society as best you can and LEARN (or)
2.  Associate more with YOUR people.

The 2nd one will not bring you the happiness you seek but it will ease the unhappiness from home.  YOU WILL NEVER walk the street without seeing the various ethnicities in America.  They too have your struggles.

Also, You CAN be Nigerian and American at the same time!!!!!

That is healthy, That is who and what you are.  If you chose to be ONLY Nigerian in America and denigrate America or Americans, you will Always stay unhappy, always long for home , and when you return home, you will CLEARLY be unhappy there too because 1) you will be spoiled on American security, values, ease of living and sanititation  2) YOUR PEOPLE will constantly ask you,   

"Why did you Leave, You Big Dummy?

MAN UP!!!

manny

mama-gee:

There are advantages and disadvantages in every country

We just have to deal with it

Yoru_Igbo:

Please can you exp-antiate more on these culture you are talking about? I have lived in both igbo and Yoruba land and I still struggle to understand or see these culture in any of our society. In igbo land we have stopped worshipping amadioha and in youbaa land no more sango, ogun and oya so what other tradition are we missing out from? is it respect your elders? smoking and drinking? abi na dressing? abeg please educate me on the culture my kids will miss out from if they live abroad

trueword:

when I talk about culture I am mainly talking about language. Language is a big part of your cultural identity. I did not say kids living abroad will not learn culture. The point I am trying to make is that when you see other immigrant groups who are in west, many of their children can speak and understand their native language. but for some reason many nigerian parents refuse to teach their children their native language and even boast that their children only hears english. They will even be impressed that their child knows how to speak spanish or some other langugage even though their child can't hear their own native language. If the child can speak and understand their native language they will at least always know where they come from.


This rising trend is a recipe for destroying ones own identity. These kids today who can't speak their own language will grow up and not be able to teach their kids their language. This trend will continue until the language goes extinct.

Latinos, Chinese and other groups have stuck with their language so well that many applications  have both english, and spanish and sometimes mandarin written. If those groups threw their language away you wouldn't be seeing this occur on an increasing trend.

When I think about why other immigrant groups are able to keep their language despite living in west, I ask why not nigerians. The only reason I can think of is that many nigerians have some level of inferiority complex. They believe their language is less than, so they easily let it go.

bk.babe97y

I doubt living in Lagos could be any worse than living in Kingston. And Ive stayed in Kingston for 3 months. Then again, didnt run into no Ibos the period wen mi deh inna Yard.[/QUOTE]


lol. you cannot compare Nigeria to Jamaica. Different places and circumstances.
I mean the corruption is the same but the over all vibe and lifestyles are different.

[QUOTE]redsun

Kingston slums are a little more dignified that lagos slums.For some reasons,jamialcans takes some pride in their slums

lmao. that may be true. there are ppl in jamaican 'slums' with TOP OF THE LINE clothing and furniture inside of their shanty homes!  Seriously! 0nly in Jamaica would you see a person living in a house made of complete rubbish (metal scraps) with a nice/decent car parked outside                       

bk.babe97y:

Never thot I'd support KoboJunkie, but Ive been watching the back and forth with Manny4life and Im sorry but Manny is clearly a mo*ron.

Dude, u sound like u just came off the banana boat. How long u been in this country again?

trueword:

Please read what I wrote before writing this rubbish.  I never said Nigerians couldn't have their culture AND another. I said they shouldn't  throw theirs away. With the way its going in next few generations many of the language in nigeria will probably be going extinct.   Again, why is it that others like chinese, indians, etc all cling on to their culture, while nigerians forget about theirs because they feel speaking english and forgetting their native language makes them feel superior.

lancee:

Most  immigrants live a fake life here but wont tell u , they re in huge debt .All the people i met here brothers , uncles , friends , have been here for years and they re still complaining and they re all  in debt [NO MORE CREDIT SCORE  EVERYTHING DON PAFUKA ]
[size=13pt]I have a family friends became an american citizen 3 years ago she has been here since 1997 ,now she has ran back to naija leaving a student loan BTW 80 - 100k  she couldnt pay it not to talk abt credit cards and loans ,she is not coming back to live here unless on vacation [/size]
85% of people here re in debt unless u want to lie
electicity is constant , gas is constant and i ask them IS IT FREE
You dont pay they cut it off u cant even Beg
You work work and work all the days of your life here if u re not careful , i thank God for an alternative ,am proudly nigerian
And am happy naija is moving one day we will get there ,,i will never badmouth my country

lancee:

Nobody is callin anybody a moroon , this forum is not meant for us to pass abusive comments , we re exhangin ideas here ."Mind u the girl is not a nigerian she is now  an american citizen and not only naija pple do that
she tried but that was the only option she had ,  When things re not workin right here ,u know what i mean  the next thing is to start thinkn abt naija as an alternative .So pls dont get me wrong everybody Has  diff cases hereoo

Kobojunkie:

hmmm. . . .  [size=13pt]You are telling us you know a Nigerian who came here, racked up over 80 thousand in debts, and then ran back to Nigeria,possibly to avoid paying back on the loans SHE CHOSE TO GET, and you think that is a mark against America? Are you foilks serious? That is a scar against Nigerians right there!! The next time you go to get a loan and you are denied because you are a Nigerian, make sure to remember that story, OK. [/size]

So, those of us who know that when we borrow money, we go work to pay am back, na we you dey consider the morons na?? WOW~~~ 

lancee:

Ohh is it everyone that took loan here were able to pay back , what abt those who lost their home ,medical bills etc even their own citizens
Dont get me wrong i was only making emphasies on the way immigrants  live here , every country has their own problems  u just have to deal with the challenges

Like i said earlier life is full of choices some prefer not to go home again , while some re here for a while if they re lucky make somethin out of the system but i will Never BAD MOUTH naijaaaa

At least your friend, who would have probably not had a chance to get a cheap loan in Nigeria-- who would give her an $80,000 loan in Nigeria without her having collateral to pay back at least 2 times of that amount and maybe 30% interest on top first ---, was given this loan in America, but by not repaying, she has probably shown herself not trustworthy. Loans are here offered to the poor who are willing to TAKE A CHANCE. . . . and many do try their best to repay.

I still cannot beleive you are actually trying to use that as reason AGAINST america when the fact that she had that chance at that loan is one of the beauties of this country. Do you realize how even farmers in Nigeria cannot get $5000 from the bank to save their businesses

lancee:

Ohh is it everyone that took loan here were able to pay back , what abt those who lost their home ,medical bills etc even their own citizens
Dont get me wrong i was only making emphasies on the way immigrants live here , every country has their own problems u just have to deal with the challenges

Like i said earlier life is full of choices some prefer not to go home again , while some re here for a while if they re lucky make somethin out of the system but i will Never BAD MOUTH naijaaaa

Kobojunkie:

I think you re the one who failed to read here. Let me give you a short of what I Posted . . . It is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS HOW THE NEXT NIGERIAN TAKES THIS CULTURE you hold dear.

It is their freedom to tell you to go to hell with it and you can't do anything about that! Kapish? If you need the next generation to speak the language maybe you should get down quickly and start "borning" your own next generation so they can make up for those who won't. I know NIgerians who don't give a rats Bottom whether Chinese or Indians cling to their culture or not, like you seem to. And even though I may not agree with all they believe, I respect them for not following the crowd just because. If you have a problem withe them, I hate to say you may have to go hug a transformer if you choose . . . lol

Now go back and be sure you understood because it is aptly for people like you who have made themselves arbiters(of a sort) on how Nigerians ought to treat their culture and what not.

trueword:

You are just a lost soul. If it was up to you, you would allow the languages in nigeria to die. You need to go ask yourself, if preserving ones language is not important, why many others groups ensure theirs is preserved.   You really need to open your eyes. Maybe you are just not able to see the bigger picture with the way you reason.

Kobojunkie:

Your own family lost souls!

So because I do not subscribe to the numbskull ideals you do, means I am a lost soul? Back at you 100 times over!

You need to ask yourself why you have a stick up your arse there when it comes to OTHER people's liberties/rights to choose for themselves what they will cling to. And here I thought maybe by this time we have people who have learnt to respect the right of others to choose a different path for themselves.

Bros, cool down. I didnt make this thread for people to fight among themselves. Try to restrain yourself from aggressive feedback. If this is the way you respond when someone doesnt agree with you online, I wonder how you react in real life?

Kobojunkie:

Your own family lost souls!

So because I do not subscribe to the numbskull ideals you do, means I am a lost soul? Back at you 100 times over!

You need to ask yourself why you have a stick up your arse there when it comes to OTHER people's liberties/rights to choose for themselves what they will cling to. And here I thought maybe by this time we have people who have learnt to respect the right of others to choose a different path for themselves.

trueword:

dont talk about my family. dont even go there.  all you can do is hurl insults. instead of thinking with your head u think wt your behind. nonsense. If you don't care about nigeria, that is your business. but don't try to tell me that ancient groups like mayans, etc who still try to keep their language and culture intact don't know why they are doing that.