Ok, I'm the firstborn and the firstboy of the family while my immediate brother is the thirdborn. I'm 10 and he's 2 (I think) and we are playing somehow I causes him to bit his tongue and immediately he reported me to our mother who is nearby that "I bite his �" I'm confused and thought that maybe he mistakely constructed the sentence since that will mean I kiss him & bite his tongue. Our mother react and gave me a good knock on my head �� refusing to believe my side of the story, turning I saw my little brother smiling with a smirk on his face (apparently things work out the way he wanted) I'm shocked and from that day onward I distanced myself from him; I don't play with him. Recently I been thinking about the incident I guess I'm really traumatized by it �. What should I do guys? Should I bring up the matter again now that he's older and discuss it with our mother? I will really appreciate your help on the matter.

People like you no dey forgive at all. Best thing be say make person no do you wrong at all.

You should put it behind you. Siblings fight and the next day play like nothing happened

You're 10? Damn!
First of all don't come to social media to take advice you will probably end up being a mean and bitter person.
It is not all people that are normal on social media,live and relate with people offline and not try to get advice especially on cases like family and love.
Also just know siblings fight when they are young, don't start counting scores or keeping malice you will just create bad blood.
When you and your brother grow up into matured men, that's when you will know if your brother is a bad person but for now don't think he is, mischieve is something most people do when they were young.

You the first born and you immediate younger sibling is the third born



What did I miss?!

FatherBona:
You the first born and you immediate younger sibling is the third born



What did I miss?!

No he said brother, the next sibling could be his sister. What I don’t understand is the ages he put there

Amarisco:


No he said brother, the next sibling could be his sister. What I don’t understand is the ages he put there

Thank you sir/ma


10yr old on Nairaland abi

This thread dey give me headache. I no understand Wetin I read

Amarisco:


No he said brother, the next sibling could be his sister. What I don’t understand is the ages he put there

The incident happened when he was 10 and the younger brother, 2.....a gap of 8 years between them.

Your brother na one kind Jerry at the age of 2 ooo

How old are you now?

Jamesmarvelng:
Ok, I'm the firstborn and the firstboy of the family while my immediate brother is the thirdborn. I'm 10 and he's 2 (I think) and we are playing somehow I causes him to bit his tongue and immediately he reported me to our mother who is nearby that "I bite his �" I'm confused and thought that maybe he mistakely constructed the sentence since that will mean I kiss him & bite his tongue. Our mother react and gave me a good knock on my head �� refusing to believe my side of the story, turning I saw my little brother smiling with a smirk on his face (apparently things work out the way he wanted) I'm shocked and from that day onward I distanced myself from him; I don't play with him. Recently I been thinking about the incident I guess I'm really traumatized by it �. What should I do guys? Should I bring up the matter again now that he's older and discuss it with our mother? I will really appreciate your help on the matter.

Bro you kept this incident that happened when you were 10 at heart till this date? Is it that your parents maltreated you cause of your younger bro or you’re unforgiving? How old are you now? Please let it go, there will be no peaceful family if we all start recounting the ill's our siblings did to us when we were younger.

SamOchuko:



Bro you kept this incident that happened when you were 10 at heart till this date? Is it that your parents maltreated you cause of your younger bro or you’re unforgiving? How old are you now? Please let it go, there will be no peaceful family if we all start recounting the ill's our siblings did to us when we were younger.

My mother start giving me extreme punishment since then , there is this one time she told me to do frogjump (I can't even remember my offense) I feel like I'm going to die because the frogjump didn't seem to be stopping , it only God Jesus that help me to continue.

I have forgiven him but can't seems to forget it , I also find it hard to trust him.

Foodqueen:
How old are you now?

I'm in my 20's

Jamesmarvelng:


I'm in my 20's

Does you brother still exhibit that kind of behavior towards you?

Ganjafama:
Does you brother still exhibit that kind of behavior towards you?

Well we're that close but he always make me feel like we're competing

Jamesmarvelng:


I'm in my 20's

My point is, you haven't really grow up from being a 10yrs old.that you were then.

Jamesmarvelng:
Ok, I'm the firstborn and the firstboy of the family while my immediate brother is the thirdborn. I'm 10 and he's 2 (I think) and we are playing somehow I causes him to bit his tongue and immediately he reported me to our mother who is nearby that "I bite his �" I'm confused and thought that maybe he mistakely constructed the sentence since that will mean I kiss him & bite his tongue. Our mother react and gave me a good knock on my head �� refusing to believe my side of the story, turning I saw my little brother smiling with a smirk on his face (apparently things work out the way he wanted) I'm shocked and from that day onward I distanced myself from him; I don't play with him. Recently I been thinking about the incident I guess I'm really traumatized by it �. What should I do guys? Should I bring up the matter again now that he's older and discuss it with our mother? I will really appreciate your help on the matter.

You are too young to be on nairaland.

I was already thinking how could a 10yrs old be writing like this

You seem to be a mature individual. That experience of injustice must have stuck with you. The easiest way to resolve it is by having a mature, respectful conversation with the party involved.

However, you stated that your brother was 2 years old when the event happened. A 2 year old does not know, let alone understand what he is doing and hence should not be held accountable.
I suspect it is the injustice from your mother that bothered you and not necessarily the lie from your kid brother.
It may also be that this is not the only thing you need to discuss with your mother.
You may need to have that conversation with her.

There is a format for it.
a) Agree a date and time with her for the discussion. Just the two of you in a quiet environment.
b) Be very respectful all through the conversation regardless of her reaction.
c ) Action - Tell her exactly what happened without embellishing.
d) Tell her how her action made you feel.
e ) Tell her why the memory stayed with you.
f) Give her the opportunity to reply.

The benefit may be that you will let go of whatever it is that made that memory stay with you for more than ten years. Usually, you should have these difficult conversations within a few days of the event occurring. That way, your mum will still remember exactly what happened. But now, she may not recall the event. Be sure not to push it if she does not. But be very clear on how it made you feel.

That you still remember the event does not make you a bad or wicked person. It simply means that the injustice left a mark on your consciousness. Discussing it respectfully will be the best way of getting rid of the reason for the subsisting memory.

Jamesmarvelng:
Ok, I'm the firstborn and the firstboy of the family while my immediate brother is the thirdborn. I'm 10 and he's 2 (I think) and we are playing somehow I causes him to bit his tongue and immediately he reported me to our mother who is nearby that "I bite his �" I'm confused and thought that maybe he mistakely constructed the sentence since that will mean I kiss him & bite his tongue. Our mother react and gave me a good knock on my head �� refusing to believe my side of the story, turning I saw my little brother smiling with a smirk on his face (apparently things work out the way he wanted) I'm shocked and from that day onward I distanced myself from him; I don't play with him. Recently I been thinking about the incident I guess I'm really traumatized by it �. What should I do guys? Should I bring up the matter again now that he's older and discuss it with our mother? I will really appreciate your help on the matter.

Mindlog:


The incident happened when he was 10 and the younger brother, 2.....a gap of 8 years between them.

Rightttt thank you