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Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by charlesditro: 12:51am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Life is so deep........ You don't know what to expect but just to hope you have the strength to go through whatever presents it'self, good or bad like same water but different temperature. GOD is just too great to understand sometimes I find it difficult to believe the narrative of his description from the bible, that is my own lot no doubt but yet my reality, better honest with myself than a fake impression to call me. GOD is so amazing to fit into a book and that is so mind bugling. GOD is not even his name, and GOD is not a he or a she or a it or any form of characteristics. GOD is Impossible possible. Away from trying to describe GOD because we will never get it done. I wish I can stop feeling some type of way to enable me free myself from judging peoples action according to my own understanding because it's crazy when you watch people live like they will be here forever or rather like they are entitled to something worth dying for. I can't even imagine some crazy thoughts, but all in all GOD is just too great and beyond human comprehension no matter what. The only thing I am settling for in the bible owing to the fact that it's a foreign religion is the concept of Love and Forgiveness expressed through Christs compassion and it's funny how the system still killed him through their political hypocrisies and still made a movie out of an act to be grieving more than the bereaved. My point.......... Mr A feels too heart broken to come to terms when the girl he loves actually loves someone else and this feeling is as painful as hell but suddenly is relieved when he discovers that someone who actually got the girl of his dream ends up fathering another man's child. A woman in tears as result of the humiliation faced for not having a child of her own suddenly feels stupid and elated when she learns that another woman who had a child was used by his son for money rituals. I can go on and o with these disturbing comparisons but that won't be necessary. My message is that no matter what, how and why you feel the way you do, always remember that nothing in this temporal world is worth the trouble and that everything you know or have been told is a big lie. The truth is that your exist from this world is your entrance into another, its only reasonable tho no facts to prove it unless you personal experience it which is only a concept of a rational thought. When you realize this then you would understand that you have no problems except for the ones you have created for yourself while we are still trying to settle down like someone stranded on an Island surrounded with water, having nothing but what is available to maintain sanity through isolation or otherwise. So just let go and go help others who haven't realized how beautiful it is to be free as they are still trying to fit in with the norm. It's not as easy as it sounds but when you eventually succeed everyone and everything becomes insignificant, then all your focus will be on how amazing the creator of your conscious reality is. GOD IS GREAT. 2 Likes |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Directorflexx: 12:52am On Sep 30, 2022 |
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Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Father254: 1:01am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Mindlog: The baby switching is possible. Is always good for husband's to join their wife's during delivery to remove any doubt about switching their baby. For me I always stand, watch and encourage my wife during delivery. |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by kansoboy: 1:02am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Pells: See diss one....I know a woman dat have children and she gave birth to d 3rd child, dat same day d man and d family came to d hospital only for a stranger to also walk into d hospital, and d idiot harlot of a wife told d husband and d family that d man(stranger is d father of the baby. ...long story cut short, d marriage ended in d hospital, d man took d two kids to d grandmother and one to the sister, den left Nigeria over 6 years now.....dis one happened in Anambra state live! |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by lordally(m): 1:08am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Sluacoast: After he found out , what happened? |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Robnectar(m): 1:17am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Sweetplum:oh sweetmumu see advice ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by sgtponzihater1(m): 1:22am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Pells: Ok. He should compare the child DNA with the wife's first before agreeing to this lie |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by sgtponzihater1(m): 1:24am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Sweetplum: If relationship can work? Would you allow your son to be in such relationship? |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Bobbynobobby: 1:24am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Sweetplum: Return the child...like a newly bought charger that is not working abi. Well said, like a real woman |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by onlyboyson(m): 1:25am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Away march zeh |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by 3662AA: 1:28am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Johnnyjohnnyman: As a married man, here’s what I will do if I were in your shoes. I will show her the DNA result and no matter what she says, that will be the end of the marriage. I will not chase her out of the house, and I will still embrace the kid. But I’m done sleeping with her, and I will not eat her food lest I be poisoned as she tries to bury me with the secret. Every family have their secrets. This will be mine. Doesn’t mean I will forgive her. Good thing that the child is a girl. |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Bobbynobobby: 1:28am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Simplyfun: What is this for God's sake. Will you give this advice to your own brother? |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Bobbynobobby: 1:44am On Sep 30, 2022 |
xtivin: My prayer for you is that smile should not turn to a permanent frown for you |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Omofem01(m): 1:54am On Sep 30, 2022 |
This is deep... God will help you out |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by ben4ever(m): 1:54am On Sep 30, 2022 |
After the creator, fear a "desperate" woman. |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Helpout12345: 1:58am On Sep 30, 2022 |
GerogeI: With current technology and the boyfriend has documented evidences ? And in this OP case, the wife affair was not a secret affair. Even her children knows the boyfriend, neighbors know and even their other colleagues might know as well. Plenty witnesses also. And DNA is a new technology to Nigeria, it has not been court tested yet. That's why we don't have precedence in court yet. |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Nobody: 2:06am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Johnnyjohnnyman:You're a very strong man, you've suffered in a very complex way. In life we fight real life battle this is one of it just sit her down tell her everything and if she try to argue with you show her the DNA. Then after that you know what to do .. |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Nobody: 2:11am On Sep 30, 2022 |
I don't have that believe that devil exist. Was having this discussion with my pals on Sunday . i told them we humans are the real devil they were all looking at me like a weirdo . 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by zinaunreal(m): 2:16am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Jesus |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Princebizzie: 2:21am On Sep 30, 2022 |
I know it is not easy for the OP but I want you to sit and take the best decision that you know will be of highest benefit to you before you put any other person into consideration (the kids and your wife). You must also know that she knows more than you know, she was just trying to manipulate you all the way. May God give you the wisdom to navigate this terrible terrain! |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by PeachtreeReside(f): 2:21am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Mindlog: The wife was cheating. Said child looks like the colleague his wife was cheating with. |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by PeachtreeReside(f): 2:22am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Starz825: She should have used protection..... |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Nobody: 2:30am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Let me give you my own advice and I hope it helps. First I think you got just to options. One mend things with your wife and continue with both here and the child and those kind of children turns out to be one's saviour in the future. Secondly, divorce her and let her go with the child and that is lawful under God and man, if you should divorce here and you can afford it Japa. That how you can recover faster. To forgive here is the first option God will bless you aswear second option of putting her away is your right God will Protect you. So choice you this day what you will do. I hope and pray we never get to make this kind of decision never. All the beat to you |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Yusssuf11(m): 2:58am On Sep 30, 2022 |
To me Man, what you did by sending money to ur sister is not wrong at all she had been cheating on you b4 that issue pop out, she is not interested in ur marriage again So anything you do feels like sins abs and opportunity to send you out,that IA why she sent u out. You are not the first Man to send money to someone and got duped .. Maybe she see that that her college is not ready for relationship that's why she came back to reconcile with you , after getting pregnant isn't even up to a year u got seperated and she got pregnant.. Just marry second wife to be given u Joy because u won't get any happiness from that ur marriage again after u know that you are not the father of the 4th child . Sending her parking would affect ur children alot.. |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Nobody: 3:02am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Simplyfun:She will definitely argue or try to deny it… honestly to see loyal and faithful woman this days Dey very hard. |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by udomma1005(m): 3:14am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Pells: ![]() |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by cliqtips: 3:18am On Sep 30, 2022 |
LMAO... Are you joking ? Because this your comment get as e be.... You don't even see anything wrong in what she did because you don't condemn the act... bravo!! He should tell her to return the baby to the owner .... make I laugh again abeg even though the statement isn't funny... Is the baby a bread/groundnut/biscuit ? That can be returned to the seller(father) because you don't like it. If he dare stay in that relationship/marriage, I can bet it that she would still cheat over and over again. If you read the OP message very well, she was already 2 months gone before he pinned the baby on him. OP note this that if you forgive a lady/woman for what she suppose not to be forgiven for such as cheating, she would do it again and later blame you. Sweetplum: 3 Likes |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Danchibez: 3:18am On Sep 30, 2022 |
GerogeI:good advice for the op |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by cliqtips: 3:22am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Simplyfun: And of course, she would still be meeting the father of the baby. if you forgive a lady/woman for what she suppose not to be forgiven for such as cheating, she would do it again and later blame you 2 Likes |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Nobody: 3:22am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Robnectar:Bittered mumu, the advise is better than yours. |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Nobody: 3:23am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Realguyman1:The father kwa. |
Re: Unfortunately I Am Not The Father Of My Fourth Child by Nobody: 3:24am On Sep 30, 2022 |
Shadysen:You dey reason with your rectum. Thunder fire you anywhere. |
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