Some married couples share their views with our correspondent on the decisions they will make if their partners always get intoxicated

Her parents’ll be informed – Mr Kolawole Kushimo

I will invite my wife’s family members, whether her father or mother and talk about the issue. If they are late, I will speak to any of her relatives. Being drunk does not mean I will divorce her. I will advise and pray for her but if she does not want to change, I will walk out of the marriage.

We will seek solutions together – Nafisat Sulaimon

I will talk to him since I am his spouse and give him reasons why his act will affect the relationship and our future. But if there are no changes, I will have to report him to his relatives for them to talk to him. I can also visit a marriage counsellor to counsel me on the steps to take because his act might be as a result of my own behaviour or he might be thinking of something he doesn’t want to tell anyone. We will both try to work on what is bothering him if he decides to share it and both find solutions to it. I think going to a counsellor will help more because the counsellor will ask questions that will help us.

Counselling, advice’ll help out – Mr Eric Patrick

If I have a wife and after marriage I find out that she is drunk, the first thing I will do is to find out what is responsible for it. This is because I cannot know that my wife-to-be is a drunk and I will not seek a solution to the situation before making wedding plans. If she fails to heed to counselling, corrections and advice then there is a need to break away from such a person. The best thing is for us to pray that God gives us a good wife.


Prayer is the solution – Similoluwa Akinbobola

We will look at it from two perspectives. As a spouse, am I just a wife or a believer? It takes a lot to have a spouse that is drunk. Is he responsible in the other spheres of life and in the home? In marriage, one has to be tenacious. The only tenable reason for divorce is when domestic violence and infidelity are involved. If one sees it that way, then both partners will have a better understanding of their marriage.

If I caution him countless times as a wife and he is not heeding to my advice, as a believer I will go into prayer for him. I will also advise him to see a therapist because frustration may be responsible for what he is going through.

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